BruceLeeroy
Active member
SYK, thank you for accepting my apology. i truly did not mean to slight you with the fag comment, and the other one was just me jumping to conclusions. i can be a total prick some days (wake up on the wrong side of the bed kinda thing) but i always try and see things from anothers perspective.
DedHed, i sincerely hope you do not abandon this thread, as you have been here the whole time offering advice, suggestions and support.
i know some people have a past and won't/can't get along, that's just life. i think (perhaps foolishly so) that we can keep drama to a minimum if we all just respect each other even if we don't LIKE each other kind of thing. can't we all just get along? lol.
taking on a project of this magnitude, as i'm learning, takes a certain type of personality much like SYK said. there is no way a wishy washy indecisive person could do this. as such i think bumping heads is a given, it's just all about us each looking at how what we say/do can be taken by other people. they say the path to hell is paved with good intentions. personally i dont think ANYONE sets out to be an asshole, but person A takes something wrong when person B meant something else.... then person B bites back because they dont feel like person A was justified in attacking them because person B knows their intentions were honorable so they strike back, and that begins the downward spiral lol. let me give an example just because i'm bored.
john is trying something new and wacky out with his grow. peter starts corresponding with john about it, and says something like "well your basis for this is stupid" or something like that. john then feels like peter is calling him stupid even though that wasn't necessarily peters intention. so john bites back and gets a little snotty, saying "if your going to be an asshole dont bother posting". to peter, who offered an honest opinion in what he thought was a non insulting way, he's now being called an asshole by someone who he is trying to help. so he returns with more name calling and it just all gets real ugly. who was wrong? in reality neither one of them was wrong, they were both operating in good faith on the information available to them. to john he was just trying to share ideas and got called stupid. to peter, he was just offering an intelligent argument on why something might be a bad idea and got called an asshole for it.
i've been using various online communications since before there WAS such a thing as the internet, back when it was just IRC, and i can't tell you the number of times i've just sat back and sadly shaken my head because situations like this result in hatred/animosity. it all comes down to what we MEAN to convey, and what a limited mode of communication ACTUALLY conveys are often vastly different.
anyway enough waxing psuedo-philosophical LOL!!!
peace
DedHed, i sincerely hope you do not abandon this thread, as you have been here the whole time offering advice, suggestions and support.
i know some people have a past and won't/can't get along, that's just life. i think (perhaps foolishly so) that we can keep drama to a minimum if we all just respect each other even if we don't LIKE each other kind of thing. can't we all just get along? lol.
taking on a project of this magnitude, as i'm learning, takes a certain type of personality much like SYK said. there is no way a wishy washy indecisive person could do this. as such i think bumping heads is a given, it's just all about us each looking at how what we say/do can be taken by other people. they say the path to hell is paved with good intentions. personally i dont think ANYONE sets out to be an asshole, but person A takes something wrong when person B meant something else.... then person B bites back because they dont feel like person A was justified in attacking them because person B knows their intentions were honorable so they strike back, and that begins the downward spiral lol. let me give an example just because i'm bored.
john is trying something new and wacky out with his grow. peter starts corresponding with john about it, and says something like "well your basis for this is stupid" or something like that. john then feels like peter is calling him stupid even though that wasn't necessarily peters intention. so john bites back and gets a little snotty, saying "if your going to be an asshole dont bother posting". to peter, who offered an honest opinion in what he thought was a non insulting way, he's now being called an asshole by someone who he is trying to help. so he returns with more name calling and it just all gets real ugly. who was wrong? in reality neither one of them was wrong, they were both operating in good faith on the information available to them. to john he was just trying to share ideas and got called stupid. to peter, he was just offering an intelligent argument on why something might be a bad idea and got called an asshole for it.
i've been using various online communications since before there WAS such a thing as the internet, back when it was just IRC, and i can't tell you the number of times i've just sat back and sadly shaken my head because situations like this result in hatred/animosity. it all comes down to what we MEAN to convey, and what a limited mode of communication ACTUALLY conveys are often vastly different.
anyway enough waxing psuedo-philosophical LOL!!!
peace
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