I don't know these people, but I -can- tell you from experience that there are losses wherein all internal systems seemingly go numb. There are times tears may not come for years. Been there in both experiences. Maybe six months, maybe six years, then out of the blue, the water-works finally turn on, sometimes with no warning.
And if you look at shootings around the nation, there are many where folks absorb a surprising number of bullets, missing vital mass, and live.
Prince William Sound, out in the Islands, 20-some years back. Two drunks (one of them with a peculiar past that included repeated 'justified use of force in defense of life,' as though he sought out such situations) had their own private gun battle, each hitting the other repeatedly; one less than 20 times, and the other slightly more than 20s times, and neither died. They were medi-vacced, and lived
Both were shooting 9mm (another rd. with relatively good penetration, especially with 115 grain ball, but typically lacking in immediate knock-down power, unless striking vital mass or causing dismemberment; somewhat similar to the .223 in that regard).
Discounting others experiences during losses and hardship is a huge sin in my book. When I came back to school after my father died in '68, and the teacher invited me to explain my extended absence to the class if I chose to, instead of her doing so for me (respecting my boundaries), a neighbor, the daughter of a Baptist minister, blurted out, "No he didn't!! I saw his car in your driveway last week-end.!!"
It took two good friends to talk me out of a stall in the restroom. 2 weeks of trying to regain myself was blown to shit in seconds by someone who had a difficult time accepting that sometimes, even if there's a God, horrible things still happen.
Please be cautious when addressing others losses. You'd want the same.
Moose...
I couldn't rep ya so just thought you should know,
You've got a lot of power with the terms you use.
Your compassion is admirable!