I think that's a great fuckin question man.....seriously....cause makes me think about a lot of things , situations (mine, past) and examples.......just opened a fuckin flood of thoughts (and was going to write something about it anyway, but, now, changes all that a little cause not necessarily where I was going to go with it, so, fuck it, will just weave a little in and out and touch on all (what I had on mind, questions, and then what question made me think of)...SilverSurfer_OG said:How long would you know someone before would consider them a potential partner?
I'm going to throw in a bunch of things....my own little riddles....
For example:
Which partner would one rather have:
1.FOAF......have talked in passing to them, nothing more, don't know them, know who they are.
2. Someone you've known for 30yrs and could trust your life with?
Which is "better"......
What is "better"?
In the above scenario?
I made more and had more success with the former, not the latter.
How about this one?
1. Hard worker, family man, job, kids,40's, average guy. know him 2yrs
2.Very hard worker, okay with family, 30's,average guy. 20yrs.
Once again, the former comes through.......
(thinking out loud.....)
People are people, and, I think that we all do instictively know the answers to that which we ponder......ie: Someone fuckin rock solid, is rock solid. Just because you haven't known them for long does not change this, and, most likely is obvious with the slightest of interaction with them....
Then it's about relationships and how they begin and how they are developed and progress.......
I could know you.....but that doesn't mean I know everyone you know.......
I could hang out with you and a buddy who I have seen a couple times and develop some sort of opinion....or a rapport........
Maybe they don't even bring it up in first place....maybe 2 partners have a friend who displays things which make them think he would be good for certain things.......Maybe someone you know is a little down, no knowledge but want to help them out......
What role for partner?, what do they know?, what do you let them know?......
Now, in the day and age of reverse stings.....who someone is plays more of a role than just are they dependable, so, that would be a whole different angle and subject, ya know?....ie: How could you trust them, know who they are, which is a fuckin book in itself, ya know? )
Also note, in my cases, I knew for years who people are/were......saw them, sometimes hung out but limited exposure and conversation, so....even though I didn't know them...might have seen and heard about them for 20yrs, so.......(which would also include seeing or hearing if they were busted .....)
So........what's most important in a partner?...
Hard worker?....well, what if not really, but, extremely dependable, reliable, extremely smart?......
Sounds good.......but, would have to think about what suits them best....
How about the reverse.......extremely hard worker, but undependable, unreliable, and not as trustworthy....
What about someone whose a moderate worker, reliable, but, dumb as a fuckin rock...
Which one would someone pick?......which one would work out?....
I've used all, and all turned out okay....some more than others........just different strengths and different weaknesses, and, if your talking production and distribution of any products, well, then your talking management, and, such is part of management.....
You see, you make the call......which might be affected by any number of things.......
Okay, one step further.....
I met someone recently in passing, at a place where I knew most. I did not know this person, but, found out he was a neighbor, very cool guy in passing, who knows his gardening due to landscape business and also smokes and appreciates quality ......
Such a person?.........I would be glad to talk with this guy again in passing, see a little more what's his thing.......(has he ever grown, throw a comment or two out there which would require some knowledge to respond to...etc....a strain question.....have they had it.......a curing comment, etc.......) Sometimes those might go somewhere and you get an idea....
Anyway....thousands of variables and your talking human nature and such, so....you know, each situation different.....
But, in the end, it's also about rapport and such and time.........so.....time answering the above question more I suppose.......over time, time spend, people develop a rapport and understanding, etc, and, either become closer if compatible, or, do not become close due to any number of things, so.....but, I'
ve done all, had okay results with people who I didn't know for 20-30yrs, etc.....and, vs. versa.....have had worse experiences of my life with those I have known 30yrs, trusted, loved like a brother...(because I had never seen them in the sense of working.....I don't work with them, so, I didn't know they were stupd lazy fucks .....) How would I know...they were a friend...not a coworker.....
I liked em , trusted em, and a pretty smart guy.....
But, I found "pretty smart" was not fuckin nearly enough and "lazy fuck" was left out, and, I soon learned extremely unreliable...
Fuck, there are people here and there on here which I would think on the surface of doing something with (hypothetical, point to follow), except the problem is don't know em, might not like em if I did know em......
When one says "well, I've known them all my life".....my response as of late is basically "no.....you think you've known them all your life...."
Do a fuckin grow project, and we'll see how much you did know....cause I've been through it 100 times......
Relationships....
Think any different from romantic relationship?......No?.....really?..
Hmmmm.....ever heard the phrase "You never know someone till you live with them"
You know, when your hanging out with someone casual.......deeper things do not necessarily get addressed....People don't always say exactly what is on their mind for many reasons, etc.....so....
You meet a girl (guy, whatever your thing )...might talk a little.....then, might talk again....and see, eh, not interested........
The more you talk with someone, the more you get to know them and get some sort of idea as to who they are....their approach to things, etc.....
But, you know....when your throwing these kinds of matters together (illegal, money, etc)......misunderstandings happen....you see greed where you never did before........lot of negative shit comes bubbling to the surface..,.....
(See, for me, never really a problem cause, fuck, you want more?.......I'll be glad to do more, let's fuckin do it .....)
On that note......things are worse the less you make...
Usually I have only seen the problems when not enough to go around, or make everyone happy, etc, so......
Lot of different reasons why one might need some help, or want some but, in the end, I mean, with more people working you should be doing more ...
If you were doing 20lbs alone, and get a partner and do 30 and split 50/50, well, your doing less than you were before without any help...
If I talked to someone doing 20 alone, I'd say your target with a partner is 80..(80=40/40, 40 double what you did before.....)
Has to be logical......make financial sense...(unless good friend, blah,blah,blah......give him a little for helping, etc, but, that may be seen as a partner or not....I always hear partner and think major interest, significant contribution, etc
Yeah man........known em all your life?....100% they're cool?....
We'll see
Discussed earlier here or elsewhere was the "Mine" syndrome..........(also known as the "Me" syndrome ...) It's real man.....it's fuckin real....and, as elsewhere discussed....a widely documented phenomenon
Some will work, some will not......some will perform better, some will perform worse....
I've worked with couple 30yr people last couple years on different things........and was very disappointed...(and pissed fuckin off) Yeah, solid, can trust em...one failed doing things he was supposed to creating a problem, did some things he shouldn't have affecting bottom line....another took all the energy you had to point em in direction of tasks and begin and focus....(once focused, a fuckin bull)....but on flip side, extremely reliable....
Anyway.......not sure how much just wrote (would have said it with a single breath , but, seemed long )
Everything's different...some work out, some don't....the ones that do make up for all the ones that don't.......
All should be aware no matter how much you screen, how much you think you know....when working on serious projects for months......you discover things you did not know or notice before....
Guaranteed....
A lot of the time, stress related, for, above I emphasized because it's not like putting something together or work on a house, or at work....talking an illegal activity requiring enormous work and dedication with penalty the legal system..
Lot of people break down under the pressure.....behavior maybe more out of anxiety or paranoia, etc, than unreliability, etc...
1000 different angles....