My son turns 18 in days/Should I get high w/him?

[Trancerman]

A good parent would do his kid a favor and give them a heads up on things...share the knowledge you know...


not all substances are created equally....


little bit of weed...little bit of mushrooms when your ready


cheers!

 

[Connoisseur]

When I started smoking as a teenager my father found out months before I turned eighteen, but didn't say anything. A few days after we were sitting in our separate parts of the house, then he calls me out askin' if I want to hit the joint. I say no thanks, but I don't smoke (bullshit!), and my old man's just like, "Come on mother****er, I know you toke!" And that was the first time we got blazed together.

 

[LiLWaynE]

heres what i did. i talk w/him and told him i would never look down on him for his life. i just want him happy. i told him if he wanted to try Any drug to ask me 1st and told him why.( street elements) he is a mommas boy, but it seems his inner person is screaming "freedom".

he knows i smoke in word only. i introduced nothing to my child and the nug i was talking on letting him find wouldnt have pointed at me as the owner. i would have played it like it wasnt mine.

thanks everyone.

If you havent really seen the kid much in 18 years, I think it MIGHT be wise to talk about other things not related to the sweet greens...at first

My guess here is that the mother knows about your habits and has traumatized the kid about how horrible those habits are.. and we all know they are not horrible...but at 18, the "age of majority," he is still more less a young adult and is at a culminating point in his life where every decision he makes will either make or break him

i suggest you offer some valuable insight on life. Talk philosophy with the kid. Educate him. MAKE HIM LOOK UP TO YOU. Fathers are important role models. If you have determined that the kid has got his shit together, and respects YOU, despite what his mom says... THEN ROLL ONE UP

I am 26 now, and have come across many stories of my father being a big time dealer/user... i found these stories out from Aunts, Uncles, friends of my father, etc;....my father never mentioned ANYTHING to me.

I look up to the guy above anyone... but... what i am coming to find out is that history repeats itself...

bottom line is this... whether or not you incorporate weed as a tool to communicate with your son... always remember that you ARE his father, and that YOU should be his role model...

 

[The_Leader]

I thank you all for the post.

I am going to do what comes natural. That seems best. He does look up to me, and it's because iv always treated him like a human being, not a child. dont take that wrong. he had a great childhood when he was w/me. i was wooped as a child, so he got the benift of the doubt. Iv neva hit my kid, no need. I proudly say hes a good person. he was a great young person everytime i was near him. i think it will all be good.

thanks again.

 

[UkanduiT]

I thank you all for the post.

I am going to do what comes natural. That seems best. He does look up to me, and it's because iv always treated him like a human being, not a child. dont take that wrong. he had a great childhood when he was w/me. i was wooped as a child, so he got the benift of the doubt. Iv neva hit my kid, no need. I proudly say hes a good person. he was a great young person everytime i was near him. i think it will all be good.

thanks again.

best of luck dude, it worked out for me, but was shocked to find hed been tokin 2 years longer

 

[Guest]

Yes, you will bond in ways impossible without the herb.....

Unless the youth has an extreme problem with addiction. Not that I am against usinig cannabis all day - quite the contrary, lol..... Just look at my signature, for Dog's sake, but it may get him in trouble in places that politically are not friendly to the pot smoker if he is a bit over the top with taking chances....

 

[ToKEN]

so how'd it go TL?

 

[The_Leader]

I just let things go naturally w/him. he toid me he had tried smoking cigs, weed, drinking and that he didnt enjoy any. he has asthma....

he'll do fine, but i dont think he'll ever be a toker and thats fine.


NOW, in 4 days my daughter turns 16. She is my girl....lol. Iv a bad feeling about her. shes my youngest, but middle in her moms house. She is a wild child, and i know she drinks and has a steady boyfriend. her mom was havin sex at 13 and Im sure my daughter is active. OH Hum.....

wish gl.

 

[Guest]

Best of luck, Leader, with the daughter. You'll need it. I find/found honesty is the best policy. Always be honest and take it from there. For what it's worth- I smoke with both my kids (one of each). But it was after they were 18. It really changed the relationship and for the better. It brought us to a more common ground. Neither the wife and I nor the kids had/have to hide anything. I started talking to both kids about drugs when they had to attend DARE. I figured the state was giving them one side on drugs. I'd give them another. I was honest. We sat down and went over each drug-coke, heroin, tobacco, alcohol, etc. I was as honest as I could be. But I got lucky. Friends and family had problems drink and hard drugs. They got to see bad examples up close and personal. You're a smart guy, Leader (you found this place, didn't ya? lol) Be honest and let honesty take you where it leads you. Good luck with the daughter, though....lol Been there got the f ucking tshirt. Though it's been shredded.

 

[Green_Goddess]

this is one strange discussion. i still find it so hard to comprehend how some parents get high with their kids. my parents would beat me up over it. they were so mean. i will not say how mean because it brings back bad memories. they don't say anything about it anymore, but i can tell they're very upset and disaproving.