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My son turns 18 in days/Should I get high w/him?
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The_Leader
Non-Hilocentric
He's not mad at me, buthis mom has tried and tried to bad mouth me outta his life. I give him credit for going w/what he saw instead of what he was told.
no offence taken s4l. i agree w/you. i dont and will not be the reason my son starts smoking. At 18 I figure hes tried this and that, butgetting him to admit it?
Im going to leave a fat bud on the motel floor this weekend and rate his reaction. A smoker confronted w/a nug of kind for free will react...i guess.
Thanks for the great responce to this Q
no offence taken s4l. i agree w/you. i dont and will not be the reason my son starts smoking. At 18 I figure hes tried this and that, butgetting him to admit it?
Im going to leave a fat bud on the motel floor this weekend and rate his reaction. A smoker confronted w/a nug of kind for free will react...i guess.
Thanks for the great responce to this Q
you can always get to know him through that experience too man, i know everytime i supplied buddies and their fams its been a fantastic experience to come and have a bit of an intimate session together. nothing like smoking with old timers for me, id do it over smokin with young adults most days of the week.
The_Leader
Non-Hilocentric
im kindof thinking weed might be what we see eye to eye on and could give us a new start, kind of...diggity said:
broach?? dont you mean broche?? lol
i think you should let HIM ask YOU instead.
i think you should let HIM ask YOU instead.
The_Leader
Non-Hilocentric
Why?..nycdfan042 said:
My son was taken from me when he was 2 (By my Parents and Sister) My sister raised him...hiding him from me (I was a heroin addict back them...12 years clean now, but they made a good call, at the time)
I was re-united with him when he was 17...I flew him out to my house to stay for a week...and I did not hide my smoking...I just talked to him about it, telling him why I smoke...and letting him see it not disrupting the rest of my life--
He moved in with me shortly after that...and (he is now 23) we have a great relationship--
My point is...if you want a good, honest relationship with your son, you must also be honest with him--
I was re-united with him when he was 17...I flew him out to my house to stay for a week...and I did not hide my smoking...I just talked to him about it, telling him why I smoke...and letting him see it not disrupting the rest of my life--
He moved in with me shortly after that...and (he is now 23) we have a great relationship--
My point is...if you want a good, honest relationship with your son, you must also be honest with him--
Jay_Khrist
Member
take it from someone who knows..not everyone is like me but.. same situation but I was the son.. He never did we still haven't bonded like that even though he used to smoke, but I do respect the decisions he has made(not his fault you know).. However if his mom has been lying to him his whole life and this is true.. he will recognize and confront her on his own terms.. and trust me he will know!.. my suggestion is to light up a joint while hes over and ask him if he smokes.. i know plenty of dads who smoke with their kids and those who smoke around their kids who don't smoke.. it's your house, your life.. if they were raised well then they will respect that and youre cool either way IMHO.. just like said above its a great way to bond and learn about each other
G
Guest
Just because you want to keep a relationship honest doens't mean you have to smoke him out..........you could always just let him know you toke and see if he asks you to after that. (a comment to 2 posts up).
I don't know how your relationship is with your ex, but if you grow or even hold anything in your house/apt then i'd recommend not smoking out your son. Sure, you don't have to pay child support anymore, but it doesn't mean that he won't possibly accidently or purposefully let her know that you smoke and she might narc on you. I just think you need to consider your saftey a little bit. You have to remember too, if the ex narcs on you and you go to prison for possession or cultivation, how are you going to keep a good relationship with your son.
As for leaving a bud on the floor......thats kind of a tricky one. If my dad did that when I was 18, I probably would act like I didn't know what it was, pretend it wasn't there, or sneak it into my pocket (after pretending it wasn't there
).
I think putting it on the floor is subjecting your son to a stressful situation thats going to force a conversation that he might not want to have with you or be comfortable having with you.
In the end its your decision, but I'd vote no.
I don't know how your relationship is with your ex, but if you grow or even hold anything in your house/apt then i'd recommend not smoking out your son. Sure, you don't have to pay child support anymore, but it doesn't mean that he won't possibly accidently or purposefully let her know that you smoke and she might narc on you. I just think you need to consider your saftey a little bit. You have to remember too, if the ex narcs on you and you go to prison for possession or cultivation, how are you going to keep a good relationship with your son.
As for leaving a bud on the floor......thats kind of a tricky one. If my dad did that when I was 18, I probably would act like I didn't know what it was, pretend it wasn't there, or sneak it into my pocket (after pretending it wasn't there
). I think putting it on the floor is subjecting your son to a stressful situation thats going to force a conversation that he might not want to have with you or be comfortable having with you.
In the end its your decision, but I'd vote no.
Overgrow_OG
Member
if he smokes go for it id love to blaze with my dad
G
Guest
My son, getting 18 next spring, knows about me smoking. It was years ago when we first discussed 'drugs', I was kinda sniffing out if them drugs were already an issue with his buddies or whatnot. We were both cool about all the conversation, I think..
I firmly believe that in parent - child relations honesty is THE most important thing, and I never lied to my children about anything. At the time when most parents, being scared about all the entrapments life can pose to their children, try to SCARE their children off of different things, like 'drugs', I honestly told my son what I believed was truth and what was propaganda, and what were real dangers and what was just bullshit... What my son learned was that he could always ask me ANY questions.
He doesn't smoke, never tried, he drinks occasional beer or two sometimes, and he knows I am going to keep up with my deal offered to him: whenever he feels like trying out some greens he is supposed to ask me to light it up with him for his first time. He still says he wants to finish high school first, damn, I wasn't that responsible 23 years ago..
Yeah, I smoke with my parents as well, but hey 'learned' it from me
Do whatever you feel is right, be honest, let him know that it's cool with you to talk about anything, try to find out what kind of guy your boy is and act accordingly
W.
I firmly believe that in parent - child relations honesty is THE most important thing, and I never lied to my children about anything. At the time when most parents, being scared about all the entrapments life can pose to their children, try to SCARE their children off of different things, like 'drugs', I honestly told my son what I believed was truth and what was propaganda, and what were real dangers and what was just bullshit... What my son learned was that he could always ask me ANY questions.
He doesn't smoke, never tried, he drinks occasional beer or two sometimes, and he knows I am going to keep up with my deal offered to him: whenever he feels like trying out some greens he is supposed to ask me to light it up with him for his first time. He still says he wants to finish high school first, damn, I wasn't that responsible 23 years ago..
Yeah, I smoke with my parents as well, but hey 'learned' it from me
Do whatever you feel is right, be honest, let him know that it's cool with you to talk about anything, try to find out what kind of guy your boy is and act accordingly
W.
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irishSoCo said:
That (I thought) was what I said-- I really won't recommend either way, because it is totally up to what kind of individual he is--
I was just stating that if you expect honesty from someone...you should be honest too-- After all...Education is the key, and we are the Teachers--
G
Guest
my bad kmk:
I apparently pulled a 'read and forget' there
.........effectively combining something else i read in a different post with waht kmk420kali said and then commented on what i thought i read. No offense intended
your point was spot on kmk.
I apparently pulled a 'read and forget' there
.........effectively combining something else i read in a different post with waht kmk420kali said and then commented on what i thought i read. No offense intendedyour point was spot on kmk.
It's all good, Irish-- 
im thinking abou doing the cannabrex thing too...i want my lungs in tip top shape,,,even tho well prolly die at 70 lol....but i do think smoking with your family can create a stronger bond....
FRANKENBLUNT420
me blunt is like, wicked yo!! owight
i do have to agree with this stoner on this one, it would take me a good while to warm up to the very idea but i guess time would tell,Stoner4Life said:
now this i plan to do whether they are smoking or not. i want to explain things to my children so that they gain understanding and aren't just mindless sheep in regards to what the government has to say about things. make your own choices of your own knowledge/choosing with regard/respect to those around you. im in the same boat as "the_leader", ill be getting rid of that moron i married once the liluns turn 18, then they can be free of that psychotic "dont eat pork, it will kill you" , "love me best" mentality she was blessed with. i worry about my lilunseasyrasta said:
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