I have been thinking about thinking, but I think I may have over-thought the whole thing.
Ya think?
I like your thinking.
I have been thinking about thinking, but I think I may have over-thought the whole thing.
Ya think?
I think this has gotten way too abstract. I think what is more relevant to the discussion of reality is how our beliefs, judgements, opinions, and just our sheer lack of paying attention shape our view of "reality". Because for most people reality isn't a question of "Is the sky really blue?" or "Does time exist?" It's more about unconscious assumptions about the human social world. Things like like "people are trustworthy", or "I'm not good at math" or "everyone is out for themselves I should be too".
Experiments in psychology have shown that there is a vast difference between the events that impinge on our senses and what we actually are aware of. And how our own preconceived notions about reality shape what we actually see or don't see.
There is a classic experiment they sometimes do in intro psych classes in college. You can see films on the internet of it. You have a bunch of guys wearing black shirts and a bunch of guys wearing white shirts. And they are passing a ball around back and forth between each other randomly. The object is for the students to count how many times the ball is passed from black shirt to black shirt. Unbeknownst to the students while they are doing this, a guy in a gorilla suit comes into class and walks through the room. Most people will not notice the gorilla AT ALL because they are so focused on the task at hand.
So the question arises, what are you not noticing in life by virtue of being focused on the task at hand, whatever that may be.
I'd have to say that this has been the most insightful post about the nature of reality that I've seen in this thread.
Love the new avatar SF.
First some definitions: Ego (ego) -- the sense of self defined in terms of separation and differentiation from others -- is a result of fear. The sense of self defined in terms of oneness with others is not called ego and is not a result of fear. In our culture, a sense of self defined in terms of oneness with others and All That Is - is practically non-existent, both in fact and in concept, consequently, "ego" by common usage is the sense of self defined in terms of separation and differentiation from others. And, the sense of self defined in terms of oneness with others is not given a name since it does not exist in our collective reality.
This definition (the way I use the word, ego) subsumes the common psychological definition of ego -- the sense of "I" as a separate individual. The word "separate" logically implies "others", i.e., relative to, or contrasted/compared with, other individuals. Ego is the "I" in counterpoint to "you" and "them". The ego describes unique individual existence among other unique individuals in terms of relationship to those individuals.
Ego is about me -- me in juxtaposition/relation to others -- thus ego is represented by an inward pointing arrow (pointing toward me). How does that affect me? "Me" is the subject and object of ego. Love is about others. Thus Love is represented by an outward pointing arrow (pointing toward others). Ego is fear based. The unnamed antithesis of ego is love based. Ego is generated in reaction to fear (me in contention with them). Ego is a strategy, a device, to ensure that dealing with interactions with myself and others is positive for me - it is about what you get. Love is about what you give. Love, being about giving unconditionally to others, requires fearlessness. Conditions are needed to allay fears.
If it is about "me" (I love me), then it is ego, not love. Some fear and ego is more debilitating and dysfunctional than other fear and ego. Fear can even be "helpful" in some situations -- the fear of being caught and punished may prevent horrendous fear based crimes from being committed. Fear of wasting your precious time during this experience packet may push you to improve your consciousness quality. Fear of generating even more fear (and a more debilitating fear) by dwelling on your faults and thus damaging your self-esteem (positive assessment of "me") may lead you to look for what you define as the positive in yourself -- and you may call this "learning to love yourself" but it is all machinations of trying to transmute more dysfunctional fear and ego into less dysfunctional fear and ego in order to help pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Sometimes it is very helpful for leading in the right direction, and sometimes hurtful for leading toward greater dysfunction and greater and more destructive fear.
You are a complex being - the result of all previous intents and choices -- your day to day choices and strategies toward growth as you interact with others are not always so black and white and straightforwardly simple as the underlying fundamental principles. That is why understanding consciousness evolution - e.g., love, fear, and ego -- is so intellectually easy but so frustratingly difficult to actualize in the present moment.
The fear of rejection is actually a fear of being inadequate, unacceptable, unworthy, and not good enough. One fears rejection because one believes that one is inadequate and wishes to hide from that belief. The ego comes to the self's defense and convinces the self that it doesn't really want or need what might end up rejecting us and that those who might reject our self are flawed undesirable beings.
Rejection (feeling pain because of being rejected) is simply ego feeling sorry for itself -- such an ego will create convenient beliefs to prevent rejection from happening again.
Fear often does boil down to an avoidance of physical, emotional, and spiritual pain. For the most part, fear is a reaction to an imagined pain (imagined negative circumstances). That makes it doubly interesting that fear is the direct cause of almost all emotional and spiritual pain and is the major contributor to most of the world's physical pain as well. Consequently, it is our fear of pain that creates almost all of our pain.
Fear has the unusual property that it manifests itself into physical form. What you fear generally comes true sooner or later. For example, the fear of being unlovable or inadequate tends to make you act in such a way as to make you unlovable and inadequate. The stronger the fear the more likely that what you fear will manifest in your reality. The power of negative thinking
Love has the same power. That is why the more you give, the more you get -- and the more you take, the less you have. The lower your entropy, the more satisfying, happy, and joyful your life becomes. The higher your entropy the more miserable, unhappy, and unsatisfied you are.
When I said: "the more you give, the more you get -- and the more you take, the less you have". I was not talking about love directly but indirectly. Within this context, giving to others is an expression of love. The loving intent expressed as giving reaps its own rewards whether love is returned or not. The arrow of your caring is pointed from you toward others. Likewise, within this context, forcibly taking, tricking, demanding, wanting, or needing something from others is an expression of ego. Ego is an expression of fear. The arrow of your caring is pointed toward you from others.
Needs and fears are a fact of our lives. Some have their utility and serve a useful function within our imperfect world. All of us would be better off if we and the situations we have generated for ourselves found no utility or useful function for the fear in our lives.
The fear, needs, wants, and requirements of our ego as well as our embedded entanglements with the fear, needs, wants, and requirements of others is a large part of our daily lives. This is the stuff out of which our opportunities to be better flow. Simply rejecting your fearful self and surroundings and entanglements is not the solution, or the way of growth. Applying your intention and free will within the ego soup you swim in to improve your own quality of consciousness and to provide an environment that helps others improve theirs is the way of love. One does not succeed by dropping out, but by dropping in. One does not grow by disengaging from the fearful world or disentangling from the limited reality of others -- one grows by interacting wisely and lovingly within the environment one has created for oneself.
The fears and needs of our everyday existence represent the challenges we have to work with - one should not think of them a negative, evil, or bad things to be avoided, rather as challenges to be met. Dealing effectively with them, reducing them, and overcoming them for ourselves and for others define the PMR virtual reality game we are enrolled in. The point of being here is to learn and grow - not to be perfect. Feeling flawed or guilty because you are not perfect is counterproductive, useless and silly. That you have fear, needs, wants, and ego is not nearly as important as how you deal with them - how effectively you learn and grow from the opportunities they represent.
Specific ego issues and specific fears belong to the experience packet that generated them and thus disappear when one leaves that experience packet. However, one's consciousness quality is more or less continuous from one experience packet to the next. The level of that quality from the last experience packet generally determines how prone you are to developing new specific ego and fear interactions within the next experience packet.
Lisa: My question is very specific. How would you, and your Big TOE, explain that 1/2 of 1%? How can the universe create people with a built-in desire to torture? How can a victim's soul grow spiritually by being chained, beaten, stabbed, and raped, sometimes for months or years on end? At some point, doesn't the universe say, "enough is enough?" These are really tough questions, and the best answers the experts can give seems to be "no one knows why." Please help me understand.
Tom: Such dysfunction is not one dimensional, there are many possible contributing factors. That it only happens to 1/2 of 1 % of the "bad guys" (a probability of 0.005 -- thus perhaps a probability of only 0.00005 within the general population) tells you that it is the result of an extremely unlikely combination of factors.
1) A large portion of our personality, how we interpret data, and what rings our bell (drives us to action, turns us on, upsets us, encourages our attitudes, set us off, piques our interest, captures our attention, makes us feel good or feel bad) is biologically influenced. A consciousness gets a body/brain that must exist and develop according to the PMR rule set. Within that physical process there is much randomness (notice 6 billion people and they are all different). There is interactive feedback between the environment and the body/brain -- each changing the other. The brain modifies how the entity interprets its reality while the environment causes the brain to modify itself in adaptation to the environment. In other words, the brain changes the perceived environment and the perceived environment [both experience based (love, trauma, fear, etc) and bio chemically based (drugs, pollution, food additives, allergens, glandular dysfunction, etc.) changes the functioning of the brain. Sometimes that randomness (which includes the possibility of combining just the wrong series of environment-brain interactions at just the wrong series of times) produces a dysfunctional being who has a much higher potential than normal to become a monster. Bottom line: it is not just a corrosive environment that raises one's potential to become a monster. The environment is usually not even the dominate influence. Environment, biology and chance conspire to only very occasionally produce a seriously elevated potential to become a monster. It is not surprising that some of these monsters come from what appears to be a very benign environment (at least it appears that way from a very coarse, after-the-fact examination that must necessarily miss (because of the passage of time) most of the important developmental detail). In fact, it would be very strange indeed if none of these monsters came from benign (good) environments.
2) The consciousness that inhabits the body/brain must work with what it gets from these random interactions -- once committed it is in for the duration of the experience packet -- however long or short that might be. If an entity gets dealt a bad hand by chance, then, all the more the challenge -- and at worse, hey, it's not often you will draw a 1 in 20,000 card .... and it's just one experience packet -- there are a thousand more of those where that one came from -- no big deal, just do the best you can with what you get, maybe next time you will get a piece of cake. In evaluating your score, the system allows for the difficulty of the game you are playing. You know, suck it up....cookies sometimes crumble. Now a more evolved consciousness will be able to deal more effectively with the challenge -- it might be able to reprogram the brain and apply great inner strength to resist and nullify the dysfunctional proclivities that come with the body/brain. Unfortunately, because of the elementary school nature of PMR, highly evolved consciousnesses are a rare breed and with a little more bad luck (more of that chance we were talking about in 1 above) a real weak low life individuated unit of consciousness (already failing to learn or perhaps de-evolving in previous packets) happens to get connected with this high monster potential. The environment may actually be all peace and light but this ill prepared puppy is all but doomed to go bad no matter how much "guidance" and help it gets. That's free will and chance in the PMR game -- you gotta let it unravel however it does and do the best you can. Outside interference in the game once the game has started is a no-no. Rules are rules.
3) So the 0.00005 (1 in 20,000 of the general population) monster is loose -- what about the rest of us? The fact is, such a person generates lots of lessons for hundreds if not thousands of the rest of us as he leaves destruction in his wake. And what about those hurt or destroyed? The answer is just the other side of that same crumbling cookie the perpetrator had to accept. For highly developed consciousnesses there is a difficult but high gain lesson to maintain fearlessness and a loving, caring intent and turn the encounter with the monster into something positive in the big picture. [Because that is hard to imagine, here is an example: read Victor Frankel's book, "Man's Search For Meaning". As a Jew in Auschwitz and other death-camps, he received an up close and personal encounter with a multitude of five star monsters as well as having to deal with the murder of his wife and family. He turned all that into a positive personal learning experience and eventually used that experience to help many others.] For less evolved individuated units of consciousness, the trauma is mitigated to the extent possible by those in NPMR so as to minimize lasting effects. Again, keep in mind that this is just one experience packet among thousands and it fades to dream status very quickly under normal circumstances and even quicker than that under the help received in NPMR. Being terminated from PMR by some monster would be similar to waking up from a barely remembered nightmare. It would be a little inconvenient (a minor waste of time) if one's experience packet was ended prematurely but, there's always another. Just like the perpetrator, the victim must also accept that sometimes the cookie crumbles, suck up the misfortune of drawing a 1 in 20,000 card, and go on. Jeez, for crying out loud, it's just a simulator for gaining experience. You are jarred to your bones by such a horrific tragedy because of your little picture PMR perspective -- which is good -- that's the perspective you are supposed to have while in PMR.
Now combine all three paragraphs in various amounts and degrees of each and you get a Big Picture of an unpleasant set of circumstances that must play themselves out because that is how PMR must work in order to be effective. After you have read all three books, this discussion will probably make more sense and be much clearer. Hope this helps.
Tom C
Lisa,
I am pleased you found value in my answer -- that is the point. Knowledge is good but shared knowledge is much better. Actually, now that I think about it, there are several points. If one has the unmitigated gall and temerity to claim discovery, or at least knowledge, of a genuine theory of EVERYTHING then he/she had better be able to provide a good solid answer to EVERY question that can be asked. If he/she cannot, then that points to a failure of the theory and a need for that theory to accept its limitations or expand its understanding. Any good theorist is constantly searching for flaws and limitations in his/her theory - the only way to do that is to meet the challenge of providing good solid answers to all questions within a public forum.
Unfortunately, I am not always so responsive; you just happened to catch me at a good time. This past week I have been enjoying a short temporary lull in my day job at NASA. So, yes, I do make answering your question a priority in my life.. along with taking care of and interacting with my family, my day job, and preparing for lectures and workshops.
The point of all the above is to provide the context for addressing your request. You have a terrific idea - shared knowledge is useful knowledge -- and sharing creates more and more of those valuable questions. Though your request resonates strongly with where I want to go with MBT, the issue is time. Though I can parallel process within multiple reality frames, because of the psi uncertainty principle, I am more or less stuck with just me in this one. These MBT forums have the core material necessary for another book - a very helpful book that addresses people's individual questions and issues much better than the MBT trilogy does. Organizing and laying that book out initially in terms of a series of YouTube videos or audio segments is a wonderful idea. However, I will need to wait until the just-right someone steps forward to do much of the work required, or, more likely, wait until the MBT trilogy becomes successful enough to first break even and then eventually liberate me from the day job. All will unfold in its own time.
In fact, with the help of Carle, a forum participant, I hope to soon start work producing an audio version of MBT - those audio segments, a chapter at a time, would also make good posts on YouTube if someone could add some pictures and music like "duran08" did with my Coast to Coast AM radio interview.
The day is young yet - MBT, still largely unknown, is, at this point, just a baby barely able to toddle - more potential than actuality. Because truth is not only not fragile, but also difficult to suppress, I have high hopes that your request will be more than met in the months and years ahead.
Tom C
Is it possible that reality is not what you think?...
This insight suggested to Bohm another way of understanding Aspect's discovery. Bohm believes the reason subatomic particles are able to remain in contact with one another regardless of the distance separating them is not because they are sending some sort of mysterious signal back and forth, but because their separateness is an illusion. He argues that at some deeper level of reality such particles are not individual entities, but are actually extensions of the same fundamental something.
To enable people to better visualize what he means, Bohm offers the following illustration. Imagine an aquarium containing a fish. Imagine also that you are unable to see the aquarium directly and your knowledge about it and what it contains comes from two television cameras, one directed at the aquarium's front and the other directed at its side. As you stare at the two television monitors, you might assume that the fish on each of the screens are separate entities.
After all, because the cameras are set at different angles, each of the images will be slightly different. But as you continue to watch the two fish, you will eventually become aware that there is a certain relationship between them. When one turns, the other also makes a slightly different but corresponding turn; when one faces the front, the other always faces toward the side. If you remain unaware of the full scope of the situation, you might even conclude that the fish must be instantaneously communicating with one another, but this is clearly not the case.
This, says Bohm, is precisely what is going on between the subatomic particles in Aspect's experiment. According to Bohm, the apparent faster-than-light connection between subatomic particles is really telling us that there is a deeper level of reality we are not privy to, a more complex dimension beyond our own that is analogous to the aquarium. And, he adds, we view objects such as subatomic particles as separate from one another because we are seeing only a portion of their reality.
Such particles are not separate "parts", but facets of a deeper and more underlying unity that is ultimately as holographic and indivisible as the previously mentioned rose. And since everything in physical reality is comprised of these "eidolons", the universe is itself a projection, a hologram.
Okay, here's one for the cause-and-affect believers, which pretty
much defines the current scientific model believed in our culture.
Would like to hear what those think of the following statement:
The thought behind objective causality confirms that everything must
be preceded by its cause...right?
But, must everything have a cause?
If the answer is NO, then one immediately leaps to invoking mystical
beginnings. If the answer is YES, then the beginning is a logical
impossibility.
I like this topic, southflorida. My question is, in order for your NO/YES options to be necessary, there is a certain definition of "beginning" necessary, right? So what are you referring to here as the beginning... the beginning of what?
Also, I believe most physicists would say that our current universe has beginnings in some version of the big bang. But the big bang itself is NOT necessarily the beginning of "everything", because quantum theories exist which postulate other universes along with the underlying mechanisms of universe creation. They also postulate that our laws of physics are contingent in such circumstances, that is, they exist in our universe and as a result of the processes which gave birth to our universe, but they do not necessarily exist outside of it.
This opens up the possibility that, while the laws of physics and the rule of causality you refer to exist and hold true in our universe, they do not necessarily before/outside of it. Thus its possible to hold to a law of causality without the logical impossibility of the "beginning" which you introduce, because the absolute beginning (if there is one) precedes the context in which causality has effect (our universe).
So, if we are talking about the physical universe, what was the
first thing that existed in it, and where did it come from.
As I already pointed out in my previous post, this makes the cause-effect
illogical, because the FIRST THING that ever existed sort of popped
out of nowhere - which makes the beginning of cause-effect
MYSTICAL...right???
Well, like I said, there are explanations for this in for example string theory.
Not yet. If there are dimensions that exist which precede our space-time dimensions and thus our laws of physics, we have an answer to the logical inconsistency you propose. The fact that the source of the beginning of our universe is not commonly known doesn't mean it has to be mystical. Right? String theory/m-theory explain many parts of this puzzle which remove the problem your talking about.
I do wish H3ad was around to contribute here, as he has a greater knowledge of this issue than me.
But I do understand what you're saying, southflorida, and I'm just pointing out that for some physicists this is not a problem, because of the existence of other dimensions and mechanisms preceding our own.