I am heart broken

[imiubu]

Heres a funny thing we are indeed "soul mates" even if she fucked me over

And our heart chakras will forever be connected and in touch

Occassinallly i sned her a mesage thro heart.... i tell her only time will tell what will happen to us

Deep down, you knew and saw the signs that she wasn't really into you.
Like most of us have done... that 'intuition/ feeling' was pushed deep down and ignored.
This is important, do not ignore the signs. Learn to trust yourself an those intuitions.

What you describe is a very toxic and one sided relationship and you'll always loose if you continue to 'play'.
It is considered co dependency and means it's time to do a personal inventory and make some positive personal choices.
Otherwise, this won't be your last time this particular type of behaviors will occur between you and your 'love'.

I wish you the very best and kudo's for sharing, I hope it helps you process and make some good decisions moving forward.

 

[Hubbleman]

Since silly Imilubu declined to edit this post even tho i asked him TWICE in pm (so be it)

fuck this

none of your fucking businesss

This forum isnt ready for that kind of info

 

[draztik]

Yo snap out of it dude, you're acting like a bitch. She mind fucked you and it's time to man up and take responsibility for allowing her to have so much control over your emotions. From reading what you posted here I can say you're 100% at fault, you probably showed her you are weak emotionally on multiple occasions and she did many things that made you unhappy but you didn't have the balls to stand up to her so she lost respect for you each time she tested you.

Men and women are completely different no matter what the world says. Woman look to their men to be their rock. Woman want to know if you're weaker than them so they are constantly testing you to measure your weakness. It never ends, it's built into them, wired into their brains to seek out the leader, they want you to be dominant masculine figure in their life so they can be the feminine floating little flower by your side. It's all about confidence. You have to respect yourself and not allow her or any woman to disrespect you. If they do you have to walk away. You cannot get angry with a woman that have lost respect for you because it's you that put them in that state of mind. Remember they are testing you all the time and are wanting you to correct their bad behavior. If there is something she is doing that you don't like you must call her out on it, if you don't she will start to despise you for it over time. If she refuses then you have to walk away. Women remember everything you do, they keep a log in their mind of everyone of your fuckups. Once you have failed all of her testing she will begin to hate you for it and begin to look to other men to make up for what you lack. She will never tell you this because she can't. She is a reflection of you and you are responsible for your short comings. Once you have destroyed the relationship by being weak and feminine she will already have a dude to fall back on. At that point you would have sealed your fate in her mind and now she despises you, even hate you for what you have become.

Use this to learn and reflect on yourself and become stronger from it not weaker. I suggest never to talk to her again and work on yourself. Don't be a gluten for punishment because that's all you will get from interacting with her. Move on and respect yourself.

 

[Hubbleman]

fuck this

im not saying aother word

 

[Hubbleman]

Yo snap out of it dude, you're acting like a bitch. She mind fucked you and it's time to man up and take responsibility for allowing her to have so much control over your emotions. From reading what you posted here I can say you're 100% at fault, you probably showed her you are weak emotionally on multiple occasions and she did many things that made you unhappy but you didn't have the balls to stand up to her so she lost respect for you each time she tested you.

Men and women are completely different no matter what the world says. Woman look to their men to be their rock. Woman want to know if you're weaker than them so they are constantly testing you to measure your weakness. It never ends, it's built into them, wired into their brains to seek out the leader, they want you to be dominant masculine figure in their life so they can be the feminine floating little flower by your side. It's all about confidence. You have to respect yourself and not allow her or any woman to disrespect you. If they do you have to walk away. You cannot get angry with a woman that have lost respect for you because it's you that put them in that state of mind. Remember they are testing you all the time and are wanting you to correct their bad behavior. If there is something she is doing that you don't like you must call her out on it, if you don't she will start to despise you for it over time. If she refuses then you have to walk away. Women remember everything you do, they keep a log in their mind of everyone of your fuckups. Once you have failed all of her testing she will begin to hate you for it and begin to look to other men to make up for what you lack. She will never tell you this because she can't. She is a reflection of you and you are responsible for your short comings. Once you have destroyed the relationship by being weak and feminine she will already have a dude to fall back on. At that point you would have sealed your fate in her mind and now she despises you, even hate you for what you have become.

Use this to learn and reflect on yourself and become stronger from it not weaker. I suggest never to talk to her again and work on yourself. Don't be a gluten for punishment because that's all you will get from interacting with her. Move on and respect yourself.

"My fault" ... sure

 

[CosmicGiggle]

Cut this guy some slack, he's hurting!

 

[Hubbleman]

Word


(thanx)

 

[Guest]

i feel both ways, yes some commiseration is in order but guys show this in different ways than women sometimes, for better or for worse.
people responding at all is because they deem you a rational person who has had a moment of clarity and is asking for help in unpacking said moment. We are trying to help, i see only various shades of this. you Have described a toxic, addicted, possibly codependent relationship, and we are telling you about the warning signs. its a wake up moment that takes a minute, but it is real. do a search on codependence and toxic love addicted relationship cycles and you will this is a classic textbook example you are describing. .
We are sorry but as guys the rule is rip the bandaid off and help the other guy walk it off, not baby them towards thinking about the bandaid....
all we have is what you have given us and it sounds like what some of us personally know well.... like an al anon meeting........
much aloha, nothing personal, if i see someone getting off on your situation i will call them out on it. its hard to see someone run back into the burning barn, we are here for your moment of clarity.
-Cud

 

[pop_rocks]

man, this sucks
14 years is a long time; you think you know someone man and the this kind of shit
when you said she can go out and have fun you dident mean for her to get intimate with others, but it is hat it is
dont feel bad about crying brother
when you feel like you need to get it out cry as hard as you can and let it all go
not al women are bad and hopefully one day you will find th one thats right for you

 

[member 505892]

fuck this

im not saying aother word

Just ignore anyone who thinks they have all the answers about YOUR relationships.... all the stuff about 'man up' and don't let anyone effect your emotions etc., while there is an element of truth are just over simplified.

Some people WANT to experience the emotions associated with vulnerability, not just transactional ego boosting.... both have their place but neither is right or wrong, evryone has different needs.

For some people love is pretty basic but others like depth and complexity.

 

[shithawk420]

Lot of good advice here but people are ignoring that he told her she could go sleep with another guy.wtf did you think was gonna happen? I can't feel sorry for a person who does that.

 

[moose eater]

Lot of good advice here but people are ignoring that he told her she could go sleep with another guy.wtf did you think was gonna happen? I can't feel sorry for a person who does that.

I think you misread what he told her, 'hawk. He told her she could go have fun. Not -that- kind of FUN. I understood his statement as meaning he told her she could go fraternize, or have social interactions with another person/guy, not have sex with them.

While hubble seems fluent in English, far more than I am in any dialect of Russian (that's for damned sure), I suspect English is still his second language.. Though that's an assumption on my part, as well.

 

[shithawk420]

I understand moose.i shouldn't make assumptions.at the end of the day it's none of my business.i guess I'm just thinking about a past experience I had.ill refrain. Good to see you moose.

 

[Cuddles]

well even if a person does say `you can sleep with someone else´ does not mean that they should. I mean it´s not an order or request. I mean when you love someone, you don not do that
She went with someone else because she wanted to and what Hubble told her was just an excuse to do so. And this means to me that she has been somewhat emotionally detached from the relationship for some time.
But she ony just now told poor Hubbleman about it.
PS. I don´t think the english language and expressions are a problem for Hubble at all!

 

[shithawk420]

I guess I'll explain my own problem.my neighbor and I started watching football together.and his girlfriend and I became drinking buddies.then I find out her parents and my family grew up together. then we became real close and I fell for her.and when she went to prison her boyfriend sent my mom a dick pick! So I don't feel bad for that punk.but I'm not gonna persue that shit anymore.

I didn't touch her until she came to my house and said they broke up.she came in with a bag of stuff and said they were over.and I let her stay a while.m not that kinda guy who takes advantage of people

 

[Cuddles]

I guess I'll explain my own problem.my neighbor and I started watching football together.and his girlfriend and I became drinking buddies.then I find out her parents and my family grew up together. then we became real close and I fell for her.and when she went to prison her boyfriend sent my mom a dick pick! So I don't feel bad for that punk.but I'm not gonna persue that shit anymore.

I didn't touch her until she came to my house and said they broke up.she came in with a bag of stuff and said they were over.and I let her stay a while.m not that kinda guy who takes advantage of people

why for heavens sake send a pic of a dick to your mum!?!?!

 

[shithawk420]

why for heavens sake send a pic of a dick to your mum!?!?!

I guess cause people are perverted.i guess people are doing that sick crap these days.i would never think of doing that.i think the guy was drunk.i flipped the hell out when I found out.i think he did it cause his girlfriend ran to my house when he hit her.

 

[Cuddles]

I guess cause people are perverted.i guess people are doing that sick crap these days.i would never think of doing that.i think the guy was drunk.i flipped the hell out when I found out.i think he did it cause his girlfriend ran to my house when he hit her.

a guy who hits women, well that says it all really. how come he´s not in prison ?

 

[shithawk420]

a guy who hits women, well that says it all really. how come he´s not in prison ?

Because she has a prison record for drugs and is suicidal.i saw him punch her right in the face.but I didn't want to go to prison getting in that tango.she really is a nice person but has problems.hopefully I'll be leaving this place soon.i should probably write her but she won't write me back.

 

[Cuddles]

Because she has a prison record for drugs and is suicidal.i saw him punch her right in the face.but I didn't want to go to prison getting in that tango.she really is a nice person but has problems.hopefully I'll be leaving this place soon.i should probably write her but she won't write me back.

just write a letter.