as harsh as it might sound: "a friend in need, is a friend indeed" ... everything above is fambly, everything below are "associates"...
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Define a Friend
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MaryJane0297
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Friends to me are the people who stick with you through thick and thin (i mean really thin lol).. some one who wont turn their back on you just because u made a couple mistakes. some one who has your back no matter what everyone else says.
When i was working and making really really good money i had lots of "Friends" but when i lost my job and had no money everyone disappeared, but there have been the few (very few) true friends that have stuck with me threw all my hard times and my bullshit.. but then again i wouldn't consider them friends i would consider them FAMILY
When i was working and making really really good money i had lots of "Friends" but when i lost my job and had no money everyone disappeared, but there have been the few (very few) true friends that have stuck with me threw all my hard times and my bullshit.. but then again i wouldn't consider them friends i would consider them FAMILY
I've got lot's of friends. But very few homies.
ColoradoOG
Member
Id say a friend is someone that cares about your feelings to where you could allow them to stay in your house without worry.Someone who doesnt expect anything for help but would always be there if needed. Someone who if lied had a good reason for it and owned up 2 it and ment sorry when they said so.
My job is helping people grow. Unfortunately I'm used a lot for that reason. I'd like to say i have some good friends but the reality is ive been around growing my whole life. I wasnt allowed to have "friends" growing up so I dont have friends from back n the day. Had quite a few "friends" burn me over the most retarded things when they know they could have just asked and i would have helped no questions asked. I often remind myself there is good people out there but they are hard as fuck 2 find. Im still looking thats 4 sure.
A lot of people think its harder to have friends growing. I personally think growing is the ultimate test for true friendship and really defines the term. I cant have even the slightest bullshit around because of growing and yeah its depressing not having anyone to really chill with but at the same time people ive considered friends didnt give a shit about my feelings and growing helped me weed them out faster whether they burned me or used me for info or whatever. I'll keep helping people and ill keep looking for friends, but its like my grandpa always told me "If you can count a single hand worth of friends by the time you die, your an extremly lucky person"
My job is helping people grow. Unfortunately I'm used a lot for that reason. I'd like to say i have some good friends but the reality is ive been around growing my whole life. I wasnt allowed to have "friends" growing up so I dont have friends from back n the day. Had quite a few "friends" burn me over the most retarded things when they know they could have just asked and i would have helped no questions asked. I often remind myself there is good people out there but they are hard as fuck 2 find. Im still looking thats 4 sure.
A lot of people think its harder to have friends growing. I personally think growing is the ultimate test for true friendship and really defines the term. I cant have even the slightest bullshit around because of growing and yeah its depressing not having anyone to really chill with but at the same time people ive considered friends didnt give a shit about my feelings and growing helped me weed them out faster whether they burned me or used me for info or whatever. I'll keep helping people and ill keep looking for friends, but its like my grandpa always told me "If you can count a single hand worth of friends by the time you die, your an extremly lucky person"
MaryJane0297
Member
Your Grandpa seems like a wise man
*sigh*
This thread leaves me feeling mighty depressed...
Oh yeah; also, it has come to my attention that I forgot to include the kitties!! *meow*
"I guess the saying "if you want a friend, get a dog" (or cat), goes for growers as well as the POTUS.""
Milli and Jelly, are very upset over this omission!
I better go kiss up to them, and bring 'em some wet food and nip...
'Hell hath no fury like a kitten!!'
This thread leaves me feeling mighty depressed...
Oh yeah; also, it has come to my attention that I forgot to include the kitties!! *meow*
"I guess the saying "if you want a friend, get a dog" (or cat), goes for growers as well as the POTUS.""
Milli and Jelly, are very upset over this omission!
I better go kiss up to them, and bring 'em some wet food and nip...
'Hell hath no fury like a kitten!!'
ProfGerbik
Active member
all i want from any person is literal understanding of one another.
to expect anyone to be at my every need and will to me seems selfish to define that as a friend, ive had people be there and ive had those same people never understand me.
i feel like because people expect so much from one another is a huge reason why it becomes so hard to understand each other. so i expect nothing from no one, if i need real help, i help myself.
saves me a lot of unnecessary bitching and pointless emotions to deal with.
so to me understanding a person has always been more important than anything i can think of to build a real relationship with someone. especially considering ive had "friends" for over ten years only to see they dont understand me regardless of how much they were "there".
in simpler terms i guess i realized just because people do nice things doesnt make them good people, i also noticed everyone literally everyone always holds things against you whether it be for money or to feel like they sit on a higher pedestal to bring it up in a argument later, which i find quite sadistic but again thats human nature for you even most of us dont understand what we really do.
i dont know how many people have told me i should be a psychologist. every person i talk to i end up predicting how their life will play out just from hearing how they speak, what they do, the friends they have and the decisions they make. i really havent been wrong yet and i cant even count on both hands the number of people ive "counselled" its not something im proud of because it only depresses me more to tell someone something for them to tell me years later after they have fucked up their life that "i was right.."
human nature is a complete mess of emotion that i really try to stay away from, although i get caught in it at times in all honesty when it comes down to it i just dont care anymore, i just know if everyone could read each others minds and truly understand how and what makes a person who they are, we would all think differently about each other in a better light.
sadly no one is ever willing to be that open and if they are in very rare cases they are thought of as being needy, crazy or talk too much.
one reason i love cannabis, makes me forget everything for just a short moment.. i "feel" happy.
sad i find my dreams to be more real than the life i have lived and the people i deal with on the daily basis, its become like watching your mother be killed in front of you over and over, after a while your brain starts to become numb and shuts everything out. thats how i feel everyday i wake up, i become more numb to this world around me.
i can only hope my next life is more interesting and less depressing. im tired of the lemons and having to make lemonade.. most people would tell me get more bud that will make everything alright which really pisses me off or if you were extremely rich you wouldnt care.. not true in either case yea getting high makes me feel happy but it isnt true happiness and if i were rich id still see the world for what it really is regardless of how much happiness exist in it, mainly the majority forces themselves to be happy, dont worry about it just be happy... no we need to worry about it.. im glad most people can hide how things truly are with a smile but i cant and never will be able to, i want to smile for the true purpose of just that knowing it came from absolute happiness.
i still dont think im any better of a person, i feel like after saying all this its only contradicting to me because i am human, maybe we just werent meant to surpass this. anyway thats enough thinking about people today, i get so tired of thinking about people...
to expect anyone to be at my every need and will to me seems selfish to define that as a friend, ive had people be there and ive had those same people never understand me.
i feel like because people expect so much from one another is a huge reason why it becomes so hard to understand each other. so i expect nothing from no one, if i need real help, i help myself.
saves me a lot of unnecessary bitching and pointless emotions to deal with.
so to me understanding a person has always been more important than anything i can think of to build a real relationship with someone. especially considering ive had "friends" for over ten years only to see they dont understand me regardless of how much they were "there".
in simpler terms i guess i realized just because people do nice things doesnt make them good people, i also noticed everyone literally everyone always holds things against you whether it be for money or to feel like they sit on a higher pedestal to bring it up in a argument later, which i find quite sadistic but again thats human nature for you even most of us dont understand what we really do.
i dont know how many people have told me i should be a psychologist. every person i talk to i end up predicting how their life will play out just from hearing how they speak, what they do, the friends they have and the decisions they make. i really havent been wrong yet and i cant even count on both hands the number of people ive "counselled" its not something im proud of because it only depresses me more to tell someone something for them to tell me years later after they have fucked up their life that "i was right.."
human nature is a complete mess of emotion that i really try to stay away from, although i get caught in it at times in all honesty when it comes down to it i just dont care anymore, i just know if everyone could read each others minds and truly understand how and what makes a person who they are, we would all think differently about each other in a better light.
sadly no one is ever willing to be that open and if they are in very rare cases they are thought of as being needy, crazy or talk too much.
one reason i love cannabis, makes me forget everything for just a short moment.. i "feel" happy.
sad i find my dreams to be more real than the life i have lived and the people i deal with on the daily basis, its become like watching your mother be killed in front of you over and over, after a while your brain starts to become numb and shuts everything out. thats how i feel everyday i wake up, i become more numb to this world around me.
i can only hope my next life is more interesting and less depressing. im tired of the lemons and having to make lemonade.. most people would tell me get more bud that will make everything alright which really pisses me off or if you were extremely rich you wouldnt care.. not true in either case yea getting high makes me feel happy but it isnt true happiness and if i were rich id still see the world for what it really is regardless of how much happiness exist in it, mainly the majority forces themselves to be happy, dont worry about it just be happy... no we need to worry about it.. im glad most people can hide how things truly are with a smile but i cant and never will be able to, i want to smile for the true purpose of just that knowing it came from absolute happiness.
i still dont think im any better of a person, i feel like after saying all this its only contradicting to me because i am human, maybe we just werent meant to surpass this. anyway thats enough thinking about people today, i get so tired of thinking about people...
oldone
Member
A friend is someone who cares more about my welfare than their own.
A friend is someone I trust my children with.
Here is a post I made called The Great Escape. These are 2 of the 3 friends I still have. They fit my definition completely.
Yes, I am lucky,
OO
A friend is someone I trust my children with.
Here is a post I made called The Great Escape. These are 2 of the 3 friends I still have. They fit my definition completely.
Sadly, F1 disappeared shortly after these events and I haven't seen him in over 30 years. PK, if you are reading this, come home we miss you.Back in the day 2 life long friends and I did a small guerrilla grow just outside of town. Friend 1 was the grower. Friend 2 was the lookout and I was the driver. It lasted all summer we did OK but no great amount...I think 10 small plants.
Then came harvest day. F1 and F2 got dropped off early in the day to do the chop. I picked them up successfully at 12:30 pm. We had been in contact with hand held CB radios as this was long before cellphones were even thought of. The trip home was dark and quiet and there was only that one car behind me...
On go the lights..oh shit...what do we do now? F1 took all our personal stash and kept it himself thus protecting us from possession charges. He would claim that the wet 20lb bag in the back of the pickup was his. Friends like that dont grow on trees. So I pull over.
2 officers get out of the car and approach from our rear. Of course F1 and F2 have that wonderful reek permeating their clothes. We were all smoking cigarettes to try and mask the smell. The officers ask the usual questions and see right away that they are not dealing with hardened criminals here. They get us out of the car all of us on the same side. Then one of them asked "...BTW whats in that bag in the back?..."
Whereby F1 grabs the bag and takes off into the fields. I have never seen anyone run that fast since. We were out in the country on a moonless (on purpose) night and F1 disappeared instantly. One officer tried to pursue but it was no good. F1 got clean away.
Then F2 and I are put into the back of the police car and they get our id and check us out. About then I noticed that they had a CB scanner and had been listening to us all night...sigh. F2 and I concocted a story whereby we picked up this hitchhiker and had no idea who he was. It was an Oscar level performance but the cops weren't buying it one bit. They should have kept us separated.
Anyway they were going to take us in and book us and catch F1 and all 3 of us were going to jail and our lives were ruined and
Over the radio comes a call for all cars to come to a no-shit murder scene. We get one maybe every 10 years. They had to let us go.
We drove to my house and all of that night the police would cruise past the house shining their lights in the windows. I parked openly so they knew we were there. I had nothing to hide.
F1 came out of hiding 24 hours later tired, filthy and starving. We never heard a word from the police...
Yes, I am lucky,
OO
Usually the ppl with huge friend lists on facebook, have no friends in real life, funny how that goes, eh?
There's a great russian song that defines a true friend pretty good, too bad i can't find a english version of it, and i ain't about to translate it.. Ppl rarely know russian on ICM, but if you do, here you go:
Vladimir Vysockij - Pesnya o druge (song about a friend)
That is a FRIEND. Hope He is well. And shows up someday..
This one is actually not hard for me lol listen to the song they have called "Freinds" when I post my threads and this is what I call a real friend
The song was done by Nas and Damian Marley and is one of my fav song of all time peace out Headband707
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cH-KBON4cqY
"friends"
Next fav song is "Patients" also by them ..
The song was done by Nas and Damian Marley and is one of my fav song of all time peace out Headband707
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cH-KBON4cqY
"friends"
Next fav song is "Patients" also by them ..
Great story oldone...
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Originally Posted by ColoradoOG
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but its like my grandpa always told me "If you can count a single hand worth of friends by the time you die, your an extremly lucky person
Sounds like...."If you have one friend you can trust thats great, but if you find two its impossible"
Quote:
Originally Posted by ColoradoOG
r but its like my grandpa always told me "If you can count a single hand worth of friends by the time you die, your an extremly lucky person
Sounds like...."If you have one friend you can trust thats great, but if you find two its impossible"
ColoradoOG
Member
same here
good karma from a brother across the pond
Good vibes in this thread, one of these days i will be able to use pm. Haha
You're almost there! Post #40!
Oh wait, I mean: you've been here almost a year and a half and only have 40 posts!?
Heck, even at that rate, it should only be ~2 more months, lol.
Cheers, CO OG!
ColoradoOG
Member
You're almost there! Post #40!
Oh wait, I mean: you've been here almost a year and a half and only have 40 posts!?
Heck, even at that rate, it should only be ~2 more months, lol.
Cheers, CO OG!
haha!
its cause those girls i have keep me busy! I lost track of time..it happens but im getting there!Better late than never
Friends are those people you count on one hand and thier names are the first one's listed during this process.
Friends are the people that take you in no matter what you have done.
Friends are the people that you would take in no matter what they have done.
Did anyone ever see the movie "A Knight's Tale" with Heath Ledger? That scene where he was stuck in the stocks and 4 people stood in front promising "lots of pain" to anyone harming him. Those were friends.
Friends are the people that take you in no matter what you have done.
Friends are the people that you would take in no matter what they have done.
Did anyone ever see the movie "A Knight's Tale" with Heath Ledger? That scene where he was stuck in the stocks and 4 people stood in front promising "lots of pain" to anyone harming him. Those were friends.
Spot on. These type of real friends are very hard to find, ESPECIALLY in the weed industry. I've had many fair weather friends in my day but very few true friends that I'd trust my life with.
It is a very nice feeling to know that someone has your back no matter what. Not because they are into violence or have something to gain, but because they straight up care about you.
I ain't got no friends.... 
