Workplace Bullying/harassment, What's your story?

[purple_man]

well there was this manager who promissed me a higher position better payment etc. only to get me to do the work of a whole former team of 8 full time workers, with only 4 internship guys!!! it actually worked out with working 14+ hours daily (weekends as well), after another project was done, i requested a week off, and the fuqer started complaining, i tried being civil but the fuqer had the nerv to raise his voice and start cussing me out. i bitchslapped him once and told him, he better watch his steps from now on and he should not forget the company building is in an area where i grew up and which is mostly populated by my countrymen...

you should have seen that biatch nearly faint... needless to say a week later, i got offered all the stuff promised, but i quit anyways... certain things $ can't buy...

never let anyone bully you, no man was created greater than the other one!

blessss

 

[ali770]

Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying

Bullying cannot be defended on any reasonable grounds: it’s expensive; it creates turnover of the best and brightest; it impairs productivity; it damages employee health; it reinforces a workplace culture of destruction; it tarnishes an employer’s good reputation; and it lowers everyone’s quality of life and well being.

 

[ali770]

In my experience, WorkSafeBC provides little comfort when investigating Bullying Harassment claims. One of the investigator stated that, "If we can't control bullying in our workplace how do you think we can do anything about your wife's?" Needless to say I asked him to be removed from the case.

 

[mrcreosote]

As a tadpole, I got really yelled at by this dickhead boss in front of an office full of people who were trying hard not to notice.
I stood there with a smile on my face while staring at him and eventually he said "This is serious! Why are you smiling?"

Raising my arm, I pointed my index finger at him and said "Pull my finger."

The gales of laughter from the office sent him back to his cubicle with his head ready to explode.

Seriousman hates it when nobody takes him seriously.

 

[blastfrompast]

MRreosote:

LOL

 

[blastfrompast]

Workplace bullying....in the workplace...HR is your best best.

Outside of the workplace....ESPECIALLY if booze is involved with the other party....I say CLOCK them..claim defense.....Drunk VS Sober defense

Now when it comes to kids....It is pretty simple...ask my 4yr old...

Q: "If someone pushes you what do you do"
A: "You push back..."

When he gets old enough he will learn Version 2...
Q: "If someone pushes you what do you do"
A: "You push back Hard enough to make them NEVER EVER EVER even think about pushing you again...Just don't kill them"

 

[blastfrompast]

No point turning other cheek if it is just going to get curb stomped also....

It ain't Kansas out there no more Toto

 

[purple_man]

army was worst... but nothing as a good old fight could ever resolve the situations...

at work it helps alot if you got alternative job offers and let people know, you see/understand what they trying to do, and it ain't gonna work out well for them (let them know godzilla ain't got shit on king kong...)

blessss

 

[gws35]

One year of Brazilian jiujitsu classes can do wonders for a ya...just knowing you can take down, choke out and submit 99% of the punks walking around can do wonders for a young mans confidence...throw in some free weights and a coupla standup classes ..fuggedaboutit!

 

[benzaround]

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There are several different scenarios in my mind. Most of the time the bully sees that there is nobody else is around and this is the way they get away with it (so it's your word against theirs). Other times they analyze the situation and will bully you in front of other people they trust them (ie a manager they are close with), and will not protest against them, and even lie for them. WHY? Because when they act like this, they can easily deny what you say and turn it around and tell lies to make it seem like they were just trying to be friendly despite their aggressive/abusive/dominating tone, and even make you look like the bad guy even though you were being friendly and passive.
They also "walk the fine line". For example this means that all they said was, "how are you doing today?" But, the bully/harasser uses a totally different tone - an aggressive tone, like they are trying to dominate you, belittle you, or make themselves feel more and make you feel less by their careful choice of words.
IWhy they do this in my mind is because their psyche/ego/self esteem is like a "tire leaking air". If they do not refill the air by making themselves feel better than you, then they "deflate"; they need to make you feel less than them in order to "inflate" their ego... If they do not have a "toy" (someone to fuck with) to increase their own faulted ego, (to inflate their tire/egoself esteem) they go crazy, they "deflate their tire". <the worst scenario for this type of abuser is you take away their "pump" - you ignore them.
So, the cycle goes that they harass you at work and they feel big, then they go home and they feel small and think of ways for the next day to "inflate" their psyche. I hope this makes sense because it is something I see over and over.
Why do I see this over and over? I am somewhat passive, I avoid aggressive people, and am happy, so the narcissist/sociopath/psychopath sees me as a target and me as a threat. They see me as a threat because I see right through this chronic abusive personality. This also elicits the "hero effect" (phillip zimbardo) in me. This is when you see dan atrocity and you feel the need to do something about it despite the consequences.
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my situation
two days after joining I realized right away that the department I had joined were not interested in having me there.
1- constant refusal to show me anything particularly by the woman assigned to hand over some part of the processes.
2- repeatedly told "take your time, 3-4 weeks is ok for each process".
3- abusive language used over the phone to the then Manager when being requested that I should be shown at least one thing. now realize this was an act. the now Assistant Manager and her are hand in glove.
4- three weeks later and after a meeting; i was handed over a part of this woman's job.
5- then when one of the team members was fired; I was blamed for having taken over his job. this was spread around to everyone and anyone so much so that people walked into the department and came in with particular comments saying "you would know why xyz was fired".
6- the woman's friends from other departments come in after being messaged and comments are made such as "I will not train" and "let me see what happens" and "let it go where it has to go" "I have contacts right up to the CEO".
7- when the COO said that there should be 3-4 people like myself; the next day the woman organized a tea boy on his floor to complain about me saying that I was rude to the tea boy on my floor??
8- the woman is desperate along with the Assistant Manager to see me make a mistake.
9- any semblance of a prospective mistake is a cause for criticism in front of staff and visitors.
10- when I was sick and returned, the HoD said that I should take it easy because they need me to do the work. this was said in front of the Assistant Manager. the comments were communicated as usual to the woman and lo and behold the next day; a deliberate oversight was caused.

11- I have made detailed notes. However, these have not been taken seriously.
12- the current Head of Dept (HoD) now says he is not interested in the past.


As much as I love the job; I'd like to know what my options are to expose the repeated going-ons. And what I can do to ensure that this stops.

 

[D. B. Doober]

that sounds like hell man, glad I don't work anymore. I'm not sure what to do, sounds like you need to find a better job man, doesn't sound like you're happy there

 

[stoned-trout]

homey don't play that

 

[benzaround]

that sounds like hell man, glad I don't work anymore. I'm not sure what to do, sounds like you need to find a better job man, doesn't sound like you're happy there

hi thanks for writing back.
basically, I love the job. and this woman has done a similar thing to a person who was previously in the same department. she kept complaining about him and forced him to transfer out of the department using another Manager to pressurize him.

she did all sorts.. to ensure that she got rid of him.. and what he had to say was the same thing that was tried with me... getting friends to come into the department... have chat sessions... have loads of telephone sessions... basically jabbering 24x7 so much so that he couldn't work... however, she still got the then Manager and his Manager to pressurize him. he transferred out.

this was a recent revelation.

all this time I thought it was happening to just me...

the only difference is that I can concentrate and picked up the stuff in 40 minutes despite the click methodology training session..

this annoys her no end... they (she and the then Manager) thought that once they lumped me with the work which was forced away from her... i would cave in and be servile like the rest who come and open her drawers for biscuits, sweets, and whatever else...

that didn't happen...

so now it's anything that she can lay her hands on..

considering that she can't get me at work or using abusive language...

i'd like to give the notes to somebody but i'm not sure who to trust..

 

[Dropped Cat]

We just pantsed our bully, dragged him outside in the cold
weather and set his pants on fire in the trash bin to keep him warm.

He was fond of the n word and misogynist as well. A floor supervisor.

We said that next time we won't bother taking them off
before we light them up.

Crude but very effective.

Bullying is real, and needs to be dealt with accordingly.
My example is obviously a rare exception. Please use
proper channels.

Setting someone ablaze may seem constructive at the time,
but once done, cannot be undone, lol.

 

[shithawk420]

What the hell did he do to warrant his pants removed and burned?I would go apeshit if someone did that to me.if said person got hypothermia and died that's manslaughter.who's the bully now?

 

[Dropped Cat]

What the hell did he do to warrant his pants removed and burned?I would go apeshit if someone did that to me.if said person got hypothermia and died that's manslaughter.who's the bully now?

He was a bully.

Black folks don't really like to be called n*gger all the time by
their white supervisor, my guess. What he got was humiliation.
None of us were reprimanded. He had a change of clothes in his
locker and finished the shift.

Although he kept his position, the rest of the crew moved on
shortly after that.

I know, it's all fun and games until somebody gets charged with manslaughter.

That's the thing with bullying, it makes you crazy and you do
things that you see as justified. What sucks about it is bullies
push and poke just a little at a time.

Nothing by itself that would be hurtful, or called out on, but it all
adds up to those who are bullied, until they react in what seems like
a disproportionate response.

And the bully backs off, raises his hands and whines "what did I do?"

If the guy did die out in the cold, and charges were pressed, and we
went to trial, and got convicted, we'd do the time.

Gotta stand up for what you believe, know what I mean?

So, my example is old school, no doubt. Please understand I believe
that nine times out of ten a victim of workplace bullying needs to report
to his superiors and get paperwork filed to build a case against the bully.

It takes time and patience, like growing a stretchy sativa in a small tent.

That's the proper way to go about it, natch.

Time and patience.

 

[stoned-trout]

everyone bleeds......end of story....there aint no bully that cant be hospitalized or worse.....I was bullied horribly as a young kid till I snapped...that one tasted a 2x4.......

 

[benzaround]

the incidents carry on unabated. i'm still on probation and i feel threatened. don't want to lose my job and i know that what is happening is deliberate and designed to frustrate me into leaving.

last week something horrid happened, i was threatened by one of them (from a different floor) for not giving something. that something was lying with the team leader and both the TL and this P knew that it was with the other.

and yet the P kept calling me. and when he called TL, TL would forward the call tome. And then came the nasty "I want it right now" and I said "what did you say" and the P said "I want it right now". I put the phone down. After a few minutes the P was on the floor and said "if you don't come out right now I will report you to the CEO and take it to the highest level".

that was last thursday.

the TL was pleased as punch that it happened.

the HoD (head of department) promised me that he would speak to the P's HoD and all week passed and finally when i asked him today I was told that "i'm not going to do it" if you want to talk to him then you are free to do so and anyone else that you wish.

i'm tired of living in fear
fear of being confirmed considering there is a few weeks left
fear because they've been there and done that
fear because they know so many people

and i'm angry because the HoD said that I shouldn't "think" that I'm being victimized.

so tomorrow I will be going and speaking to the P's HoD and I hope he will give me a few minutes. i cried lots today. it was terrible. i feel disturbed and i'm angry for being told something and nothing done about it.

 

[benzaround]

i can't stop crying.. i know it sound pathetic... i've prepared the reports and still have to finish the overall one on the bullying.

i hope I'm doing the right thing by speaking to P's HoD and i'm not sure what I will do if P's HoD doesn't give me some time.

feel isolated and alone.

 

[Calimed]

That isn't a way to live. There are other jobs out there. Get out of this one before it leaves a permanent dent in your life or a bad reference. It can take awhile to find work with a legit company/group...I mean look at this industry.