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Those who have a SO or spouse who knows you grow, please help me out

macster

macster

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By the way I'm relatively new to growing and I own my own home, but I said to the wife we have a mortgage payment to make and I puff some so this is how it's gotta be and my first yield in a room in the basement under 2 1000 watters was 3lbs. which was good for a few payments.Now I'm improving on that, maybe this helps (maybe not) ?
 
Harry Gypsna

Harry Gypsna

Dirty hippy Bastard
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is say simply if she doent want a grow but still wants a smoke, she should buy er own weed herself---see how fast she comes around to having a grow LOL
Also, 2 600 watters to get 4 ounces a crop...no way, all you need is 1 of em or even a 400 if thats all ur after.....unless you plan to grow sporadically doing a large crop then stopping until you are running low on buds then strating up again.... no sense using all that electric when all u want is 4 oz every couple of months, shit you can do it with one plant in a bubbler..
hope you get it worked out mate
 
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Undrgrnd Armory

Member
I think I will starve her of smoke. After all, I am the one who put in the time effort and money to grow it. She was all excited cause i told her I bringing home another half ounce tommorow. Oh well. It might be mean, but I can't say it isn't fair. I just hope she comes around and doesn't take this too badly.

I too, would rather grow in a home that I own. I just wish I could make her understand that a decent sized grow could provide me with a downpayment for a home in less than 6 months.
 
G

Guest

Yea I bet if you stopped growing and started buying after about a month or two when she looks at the bank account she might change her tune. I doubt it tho. I tried cutting back but the answer was cut back more so I did and then when I said I was out she said you are smoking to much. Now she wants me to only smoke one joint a day. I told her that just isn't gonna happen. On the other hand macster may be right in thinking it is her way of getting you to pop the question. Who knows ... just stay safe with the apartment grow. I couldn't grow in a apartment, I am to paranoid.

Mo,

I hope you work it out to bro.
 
macster

macster

Member
I didn't mean too suggest she wants marriage in exchange for a grow, but home ownership is one more step to commitment and she did suggest she be okay with a grow in her own home.
 
Verite

Verite

My little pony.. my little pony
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Whats wrong with getting a couple big grows with the partner so you can afford a safer place to grow?
 
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70s_PotHead

Dude you asked for advise and you have been givin allot of good advice so listen to these people.

70s :joint:
 
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Phillabonger

New member
Quit smoking. Tell her that if she wants to smoke she has to go find and buy it herself.

I didn't have this problem, however. Maybe you are aiming your sights too high. Go for a smaller, stealth/cab grow. A landlord has no reason to inspect a clothing wardrobe, nore do they have the right to enter your apt without notice. I would never do a full closet grow in an apt.
 
mrjim5000

mrjim5000

Member
My otherhalf doesn't mind me growing in a closet in the bedroom. the room is in the attic of the house (3rd floor), and it's just a 250w light. It goes off from midnight till 6am, so nothing looks suspicious from the outside.

Our landlord never comes round (he lives in London), and no1 but us ever goes into the bedroom so it is safe from discovery.

Just show her that you can do it without anyone finding out. You sound like you have some experience, so it shouldn't be to hard. Also let her know the hundreds of £\$ that you will spend on weed if you can't grow your own!!
 
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Brother_Monk

Undrgrnd Armory said:
I already told her she isn't getting a ring until I have a doorbell.
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Just my honest opinion here...if she just graduated law school she might be "feeling her oats" a little. She must care about you by filling you in on the rhetoric she's been feeding on the last few years(lol)...Just put it to her like this........"Do you want to pay for the weed we smoke?" Or...."Would you rather know what you are putting in your body?"

On the other hand...it could just be a power struggle?

Either way...good luck!
 
Xdox

Xdox

Member
lol some harsh suggestions here, btw be nice and smoke up some of that half O with her she is your wonderful woman afterall. A few months ago my girl discovered my grow and was heated at me. Mostly because I hadnt informed her and shes scared of getting busted. I live in a rural area so I moved the plants outdoor...then they got eaten....but anyways my suggestion would be to figure out the yearly cost of weed if you bought it and then tell her and inform her that this could be going towards a house or many other things and that it would be better if you grew your own, not only cost wise but saftey wise this way you dont have to deal with shady people, dry spells, chances of getting ripped off, shitty bud the list goes on and on. Also if she was worried about the getting busted thing do whatsomeone else suggested and take her name off the lease of course she would still have just as much control of the aparment as you and pay the bills just itd be under the table. Good luck man and dont forget to share that bud. peace :sasmokin:
 
Verite

Verite

My little pony.. my little pony
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One thing could be if she just passed the bar exam she may be weighing the possibility of being disbared for life for being caught growing. [ just reread ] a felony may actually prevent her from taking the bar exam in the first place.

Get caught growing = felony = disbarment.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disbarment
 
HYDROJUNKIE

HYDROJUNKIE

Active member
heres an idea,...get a medical mj card that would make it LEAGAL for you to cultivate in your closet,...Therfore she would have nothing to worry about...
another is to change the locks on the door....a lanlord has to give you 24 hours notice to enter your unit anyhow and you would call in sick or take the day off to be in the apt. when he/she visits,...
or you could put a metal locking storage cabinet in the closet,...or put a lock on the bedroom door that has the grow closet,....
I have been involved in 3 home inspections,2 walkthroughs, and 2 maintnance repairs(stove) in the last 5 years of two different houses. so I know it can be done...
just remember your in an apt so you should be able to tear down the grow in a day or less.....you may want to go with 5 gallon containers with an inert medium(passive system/hand water) to be able to move them quickly if you need too.(I like botanicaire's ready-gro)
the only way youll be sure to be safe is to keep the bedroom locked that has the plants and tell your lanlord(if he asks) your girlfriend has the key and she's at work,.....then if he has to get in the room transfer the plants to another part of the house or a shed in the backyard temporarlly....(worked for me)
always have some sort of locking cabinet to either grow the plants in or to store them and the equipment temporarlly incase of an emergency.....
another idea is if you cant have a storage cabinet is to rent a small storage unit incase of an emergency tear down youll have a place to store the plants at overnight or however long you need too....
ive had to tear down a 14x10 room in 1 day and put plants in garbage bags and put in a backyard shed at 2am..lol
ok im a bit ripped so I will stop babbling but in short it can be done but you just have to have a plan for every situation that might arise and convince your girlfriend that youve got all angles covered...
good luck!
 
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Undrgrnd Armory

Member
Verite said:
Whats wrong with getting a couple big grows with the partner so you can afford a safer place to grow?
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MY partner is a small minded asshole who is an extremely difficult person and I no longer wish to deal with him. He makes every small minor conflict into a huge battle. I have considered just scrapping the grow with him as it is not worth the stress.
 
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Undrgrnd Armory

Member
Brother_Monk said:
Just my honest opinion here...if she just graduated law school she might be "feeling her oats" a little. She must care about you by filling you in on the rhetoric she's been feeding on the last few years(lol)...Just put it to her like this........"Do you want to pay for the weed we smoke?" Or...."Would you rather know what you are putting in your body?"

On the other hand...it could just be a power struggle?

Either way...good luck!
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We work very well together. I believe she has legitimate fear of legal consequences. I have always been one to disregard the law so while I acknowledge risk, I'll play my hand and hope for a win. She isn't the gambler that I am. I feel confident I can get a wardrobe/small closet grow going with some convincing talk though (cross fingers).
 
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