Problem Neighbour: What to do?

[Perpetual Nooch]

After two decades of quiet, peaceful existence in my house with neighbours that are cool and mind their own business, a new guy moves in across the street.

On New Year's Eve around 11pm he knocks loudly on my door. KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK!

He asks me for one of those old fashioned wire coat hangers. Turns out he locked himself out of his apartment after he went out for a smoke, and he needs one to get into his place. I tell him I don't have one, sorry, and he leaves.

Two nights later, KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK. I know right away it's him. He brought over a bunch of beers and wants to get to know me. He says that all the neighbours are older and I'm the only one close to his age. I'm taken aback, in my head I"m thinking WTF is with this guy, but foolishly I let him in and have a couple of beers with him. It was probably a mistake but I thought it would be better to be neighbourly than to tell him to fuck off. In the end, I had to kick him out ("Sorry man, I have to crash now.") after a couple of hours.

So, the very next night: KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK!

WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! I know it's him.

"Sorry man, I don't feel like company tonight." In other words, LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE!

I sense that this guy is going to become a nuisance in no time at all. Hell, it's already happened. How do I let him know that I don't want to be friends without being rude or drawing suspicion?

 

[LEF]

Man, i made a thread about this kind of situation... Not neighbour but "friend" who is dangerous/untrustable/unpleasant

I totally know the situation, reminds me of thr movie, the cable guy

I would say, ignore the person when she knocks

So what is it about the guy you dont like, is it because its a security breach ?

I would never allow a stranger in my home... But then again hes your neighbour and you played it cool...

You can either

Be honest
Lie
Ignore the person


I try to be cool with people, as in, yeah i will cut them out if i dont feel at ease with them , but i will be honest/respectful with them about it

my dad told methat his mother always said never to burn bridges
I always remembered that, lol family wisdom, you dont go against it

One guy i hung out with before cutting relationship
He was selfdescribed sociopath, had a license to own a handun, was fascinated with death

One time he asked me if i had slept with his ex, i said no, and he kept on staring at me

Since that time, i decided not to be around that person for fear he would go baloney

 

[Perpetual Nooch]

It's a security breach, he's a stranger, plus he's unpleasant and weird. We smoked a joint and it was obvious he was a lightweight. He started babbling incoherently and just saying he was baked over and over like Dulli in Blow. He thought it was funny but I was just staring at him thinking what a goof. Just someone that I would never be able to be friends with.

Normally I wouldn't let a stranger in either. I shouldn't have. Like I said I was caught off-guard. I didn't want to appear unfriendly or suspicious.

 

[luxcultivars]

Don't answer your door unless you know who it is. Period. Have your friends call first as the norm. This is my standard policy and it has honestly saved me a ton of grief over the years. But get ready: he will catch you out front eventually.

I guess I would do a basic psychology number on him; tell him that you are a very private person and you often have panic/anxiety attacks when you socialize, so you keep basically to yourself... you appreciate meeting him and will "see him around the neighborhood." Nip that shit in the bud with some good old-fashioned manipulation. For some extra fun, stare at one of his ears or maybe the top of his head whenever he talks to you. It'll mess with him and he will eventually avoid you.

I'd like to think you could be honest and up front with this person, but they don't sound like they would respect that very much.

Since you have already had this guy in your house this is now a bit more complicated. Various things come to mind, as I have actually been robbed by someone who did a very similar thing. They cased my place by bringing by beers, then cleaned me out - and then acted unconvincingly surprised at the burglary. The whole thing sickened me. Couldn't call the cops for 'personal reasons'. I should have trusted my initial intuition about him. I moved within a month.

Wish I'd stared at that asshole's ear instead of having beers with him.

 

[Scrappy-doo]

Sounds like one of those pushy types that are a pita to get outta your life once they get in. I've known many in my life and avoid them like the plaque. You don't wanna be a dick but you gotta just ignore him. Believe me he's used to it. Don't answer the door, don't talk to him, if he walks up to you when you're coming or going, be short and in a hurry. Don't give him an inch cause he'll take it and pull for more. He's new, bored, and lonely and sounds like needs to be around people. Endure it for a while and eventually he'll 1-get the hint and 2-find someone else to hassle.

 

[Perpetual Nooch]

He's new, bored, and lonely and sounds like needs to be around people.

Hammer, meet head of nail.

 

[SpasticGramps]

Sounds like he's a needy extrovert.

And I'm guessing you have an active grow going on in said house? Or if not and you want to get rid of him then just always having something going on.

KNOCK KNOCK "I brought beers." Sorry bro I'm getting ready to go out. or Sorry man I have work to for my job or whatever.

Be short as possible. Even the most annoying people will stop talking to you if you only have one or two word answers whenever they try to talk to you.

You did the neighborly thing. If he was cool then it'd fine. If you don't like him then keep it short. "Sorry bro, I'm busy. Gotta go".

If you do have an active grow going on and don't want him around then might be best to just be an asshole to him.

 

[Max Headroom]

try to find out what political/sociological/religious beliefs he has and then pretend to have diametrically opposed views.

 

[shithawk420]

Tell him your gay and find him attractive.but then again that could backfire.in all seriousness the worst thing you cold have done was smoke with him.he sounds like a shady character.try not to piss him off.just try to avoid him,Always lock the door even if your at home,and don't answer the door.best of luck bro

 

[LEF]

Take it easy man

If there's a prob, you'll know where to go get him

 

[stoned-trout]

answer the door naked and wink at him...that ought to work

 

[Stoner4Life]

sounds to me as though he's just being neighborly.......

sounds to me as though he's just being neighborly.......

and that he's socially inept & probably harmless, but if there is a gardening security issue then you obviously can't allow him into your life at all.

He sounds like the kinda guy that will come over and tell you "Hey Nooch, I found your back door open while you were at work, I had a quick look around inside then locked it up for you." leaving you wondering wtf he was doing in your backyard to begin with.

introduce your gf to him but tell him it's your sister, then start molesting the hell outta her

idk a lot of guys that condone incest, jes sayin'

 

[resinryder]

Tell him your gay and find him attractive.but then again that could backfire.in all seriousness the worst thing you cold have done was smoke with him.he sounds like a shady character.try not to piss him off.just try to avoid him,Always lock the door even if your at home,and don't answer the door.best of luck bro

answer the door naked and wink at him...that ought to work

All that while wearing a gimp suit with a strap on on your head harness should send him "packin"

Seriously tho he's sounds pushy and is just trying to make friends the only way he know how. Tuff situation and is has to be handled as amicability as possible to avoid problems down the road.

 

[shithawk420]

I wish people would show up at my place and bring me beer.Sounds like a keeper!

 

[barnyard]

try just being honest, but I had a neighbor like that and they usually don't take a clue until you end up yelling at them to leave you alone...then suddenly you're the bad guy...

 

[OvergrowDaWorld]

Sorry to hear that. I dont let anyone in where I grow. Shit, I dont even tell anyone I know where I live. Nevermind letting in a total stranger. I would tell the guy straight out. I dont like to hangout with people. Im a loner and like it that way. Im busy all the time and dont have room in my life for a friend. Thats not rude or offending. Thats just being honest, in a way. Tell him your sick with cancer and need to be alone. IDK?
Im sure you will come up with something.

 

[EclipseFour20]

This may not work in your situation now--since you smoked with him; but one strategy I used to employ to "rid myself of pests" was to go gospel on them. I would look them in the eye and ask them, "have you accepted Lord Jesus as your personal savior?". You would think I had some disease or something.....lol.

Back in the days when permission was not needed to move to another airplane seat...and there were two of us traveling, we would reserve the aisle and window seat (leaving the middle seat "open"). Should the middle seat became occupied, I would look at my traveling partner in the eye and "go gospel"...lol. 9 out 10 times the person in the middle seat would get up...and never come back.

Moral of the story: becoming a pest might be one strategy to rid yourself of an unwanted pest/guest. Know what I mean, huh? huh? You know...like you know man? Huh? What's that you say...huh? Like wow man...guess what? Have you ever......lol.

I had a friend that would do something similar, but instead of going gospel, he would "be the mooch". He would borrow shit (not even use it) and then return them late at night or early morning. One time he borrowed the guys lawn mower...did not use it and left it in his garage for almost a month. That guy was pissed and stopped talking to my buddy....guess it worked.

 

[Red Berry]

ouch.

nobody talks about other members in that way. nobody should talk about other forums that way . or new members.

 

[shithawk420]

Ya,know,that kind of strategy worked for me kinda.go to HIS HOUSE and bother him a couple times.maybe try to be a pain in his ass.doesnt sound like it will work in this situation though.

 

[Red Berry]

lol. u r a centipede shit hawk.