How should I deal with my Nightmare-in-Law?

[TheGroBro]

yeah dude . .sounds like a bad situation. From what I read of your post it sounds like your wife doesn't feel the same as you . .or not to the same degree. I don't think my wife would allow her mom to treat me or us like that (her mom is cool as shit, though).

If your wife agrees then I say you two should move away 1 last time and not tell the mom where you are going. If she doesn't agree then I say you should move on without her as much as that might suck (at first).

Good luck bro.

 

[upNORTH]

put her in a retirement home

 

[tighT]

Your best bet should be to move out of state it's not about the golf course, it's about getting your family back - and resuming your peaceful life!

 

[TwoOhSix!]

She was supposed to go to Ireland last year...That would have at least given me a break. She's also the world's biggest blabbermouth...all talk and no show. Obviously, nobody likes her.

Strange nobody has commented on her 55 year old virgin son...

lol that was the first thing that caught my eye
holy crap 55? He's gonna go his whole life without getting laid!???!
What does your wife think about all of this?

 

[sow the seeds]

Wow this is an interesting thread. Sounds like a really shitty situation. I would definatley look out for her daughter/your wife. Have you explained all this to her? Even if she agrees now and you guys move/whatever she might regret doing it later and go back to her mother. Remember blood is thicker than water...sometimes unfortunately.

I hate ignorant manipulative people like you explained her to be...it made me angry just reading your story. Good luck!

Oh and definatley kick the son's ass...if he is talking shit to you in your own house knock him the **** out. Hes asking for it...just be prepared if he can remember who did it, its gonna make some shit hit the fan.

 

[Guest]

decking the son would be stupid. It would just be giving in to the manipulation.

that's exactly what he and his mom want.....at least thats how it sounds. They want to be able to show how violent, unsafe, and mentally unstable you are so your wife will leave you and possibly so you're put away.

I'm sorry to say, but it sounds like without a drastic change, your wife will become just like her mother. You need to talk to her about it. Making a decision without her will post likely just prompt her to leave you, or start her down the road towards it.

Moving away is going to be your best option at this point. Otherwise, you'll just have to deal with watching your marriage be eroded away by your inlaws.

Think about discussing a few options with your wife. Remember, no ultimatums unless you're hoping for the worst result.

Have you thought about asking your wife to go to couples counseling with you? It might allow you to indirectly confront her about the issue while letting her hear the cold hard truth about her mother from the counselor.

 

[leaddraft]

buy a zip, put it in Her car/apartment bagged in 4 quarters..
Papers and scales are a nice touch...
Call leo on a "hot tip"..
problem solved...

 

[acgreenjeans]

Tell your wife to decide, it's you or her.

 

[Lord Doobie]

The nightmare-in-law hasn't come around lately...I think first warning her that the very next time she tried to drive me out of my home that I'd call the Police really may have scared her.

Maybe now, she sees that she's totally owned...

Getting a TRO would be childsplay for me. You're supposed to mention all past abuse before the judge. It's all in the demeanor you speak. The first thing I'd mention is that I'm the very last person who thought they'd ever need a restraining order and that I really don't want to be here. Then simply mention all the past abuse including where she physically hit me, screwed with my parents, drove me from home, sends everybody over, etc, etc.

But now that things have cooled...simply moving would probably be best. I've made it quite clear to my wife that I won't be living next to her mother...ever! Nobody can stand her.

Ha ha!

 

[tighT]

That's good that you came to the conclusion that you should move, but you shouldn't rag on her mother. As others said her mother might use that info to pit you against your wife. Move because "you want a different lifestyle" not to get away from the mother in law. If you keep stating that it might backfire against you.

 

[Habibi]

sounds like you got yourself three options and they all start with an r how conveniant

the roof
the river
the revolver

 

[D0nC0smic]

naw those three options are all kinda messy compared with a pillow, this woman is old after all

 

[Lord Doobie]

He's gonna go his whole life without getting laid!???!

I appears so...After all, he's 55, has no car & can't drive, is balding, takes the bus, and lives with mom...Doesn't look good. Of course others would beat him up for his abuse but I realize this guy isn't dealing with a full deck....
I've dropped it for now with my wife but I think you're right. I shouldn't give my nightmare-in-law as the reason for moving...

I shall try to be graceful when the time comes...and keep what little peace there is...and move to a new grow soon...I hope

 

[ToKEN]

I dont know man. I dont think you should move out. that's your home, and a restraining order is rather easy to obtain. with all the thing you said she's done the judge should have no problem with that. I think the hardest part of all this for you would be paying for it and calling that cops...and that shouldnt be hard at all.


best of luck

 

[ToKEN]

Haps you hit it right on the nose man
best post i have read in all the while i have been here
Lord Doobie follow this mans advise
it is good medicine

peace-bear ​

he's right, puppies are good. They dont nag or talk back and bring their inlaws over..it's awesome!

 

[The Iceman]

buy a zip, put it in Her car/apartment bagged in 4 quarters..
Papers and scales are a nice touch...
Call leo on a "hot tip"..
problem solved...

lame! You don't ever do that even to enemies...cant believe someone wrote this

 

[Undrgrnd Armory]

lame! You don't ever do that even to enemies...cant believe someone wrote this

All things are appropriate given the proper circumstances.

 

[devilgoob]

Tell us a little more about your wife and how she feels toward your relationship with your in-law. Man, I didn't think your description of this person would be so accurate.

She sounds like she is not happy, so nobody else will be. You need to call her a name she will never forget like "emotionless, heartless bitch." Or you need to act like you totally love her and be super nice to her in a very obvious attempt to try and cover up your manipulative plan, which you don't have, but will get her thinking about how she isn't in control.

 

[Harry Gypsna]

All things are appropriate given the proper circumstances.

not what was suggested there ....informing, setting ppl up as a way to solve disputes or rid urself of ppl you dont like is scummy.... im not talking about reporting a crime commited against you-thats what you poay the taxes to have the police for, but doing things like that out of spite or whatver is totally wrong, always with no exceptions.
hope the stress hasnt made you put ur head in the oven yet doobie lol
Maybe you and the wife should have a holiday together- directly and clearly explained to ur wife that the mom isnt coming in any circumstances at all, an that its for you 2 to have some time woithout the hassle to relax and sort it out, and that mommy tagging along will not allow that. and then while away talk some things through with her...dont slag her mum off ., but just explain the strain it putting on, both your marrige, and your own personal mental wellbeing...and that you apprecite she has to have a relationshipn ith her mom, but living next door and having this animosity isnt healthy, and that you cant even relax in your own home. If none of that makes any difference whatsoever then id say theres some thinking to be done...
Oh yeah, get one if your buddies to stay in the apartment while ir away...or change the locks/add another one that doesnt have a key to...-sent the cats to a cat hotel while u away

 

[Green_Goddess]

get a restraining order, dude! you are a grown man and your wifes a grown woman, both of you don't need some bitchy old lady constantly breathing down your necks. she has no business harassing you like this. just take the story you just told on this forum, and tell it to the cops. they'll give you a restraining order against her after they hear about how badly she's harassing you. this lady is crossing the boundaries of a normal in-law relationship and you have every right to get a restraining order against her. that should really help deflate her oversized ego and make her think twice this time before she bothers anyone.