How have you "broken up" with your weedman?

[TheDarkStorm]

Might not be a good idea telling someone whos gona lose money that you have plants...you have evrything to lose an nothing to gain...also dont terminate your relationship ..you may still need him at some point..just tell him one of your relatives who owed you money gave you a oz..simple
If he's already seen your whole grow then he is already expecting you at some point to have your own..but puting it in his face you risk making things awkward..an in that case get your stuff ready alone an just gift him some wen its all done..that way you can still chill an smoke together..if he is a real friend he'l still value the friendship an time you spend together over a bit of pennies.

 

[xavier7995]

Well if it is someone that has been a friend, invite them over to smoke and just pull out your bag of obviously not purchased from them weed. I get what you are trying to do and it's a nice thing. Just stop asking to buy it, but continue to ask them if they want to hang out. If the person has given you free weed in the past then it seems honorable to share some when you find yourself with abundance.

Edit: I always just quit calling, but I also kept dealer part separate from the friendship. Even with a friend I would think of the transaction aspect as separate from friend one. Ofteb buying weed, then leaving and coming back for the hangout part.

 

[Teddybrae]

Well, listen, look, feel ... I gotta say I found Tetragrammatons first post in this thread very funny indeed. It came as a total shock to my rationality. Like a ... SURPRISE! And picturing Snowy and Tin Tin is always pleasant. So it was a pleasant surprise.

(Especially compared to the pictures remaining in my head of dope dealers I have known and avoided.)


Besides, Tetragrammaton gave me rep for my post so he can't be all bad.


And Ms Giggle, should you not imagine our fellow members choking to death? What a dark view you share sometimes ...

problem solved, at least temporarily, it's just a recurring troll, report his posts and he's gone for a while, pray he gets hit by a car or inhales a seed or something.

 

[billy_big_bud!]

seems like a kind gesture to me. im sure he will appreciate the thought...

 

[art.spliff]

early last year i discussed my plans and gave them a grow organic pvfs catalog

last month i texted them about the ounce they sold me for 100:
"that tree worths about 20"
and that's it. i have not had a consistent reliable weedman prior to med/rec dispensaries, only varying levels of shady behavior and ridiculous prices
want to be somewhat courteous in the way i phrase this, sometimes you are looking at people in society who've had difficulty finding other kinds of jobs
and they rely on illegal means to scrape by, asking you for, or rather demanding a handout to support their inability to earn an honest living
kind of like military people, often have trouble in life so they go to the army instead of prison or gang violence, a place for lost or troubled souls drug addicts and thieves
i don't play call of duty i didn't drop out of high school i don't buy my dirt and fertilizer at home depot i don't primarily shop at walmart and mcdonalds and i don't collect guns...
why is it that so many black market weed people fit this description to a tee?

 

[art.spliff]

it's like the other person said

they either suck at growing or robbed me of my income take your pick want a trophy, cool story you made hundreds on one middle man trip...

 

[art.spliff]

these should be called one time or temporary dealers, as in sell it twice shame on me
like a job in real estate temporary bubble only works for a while...

let us see, what other career categories are similar?:

 

[tetragrammaton]

I find it absurd how many people find it incomprehensible that in an example of my current situation people don't agree with my gesture of giving away free quality bud. I am not a dealer, and if he was not a dealer, and i had met him by any other means, I would be doing the same.

It also might be worth mentioning that out of this harvest, it's just a quick outdoor auto-run so it's not like it's going to be some massive yield. As far as teaching him how to grow, he already expressed interest in learning, and I told him I can help him every step of the way.

(Also, don't forget, in my OP I also gave other examples where I've simply told others who weren't friends, strictly business to simply fuck off, their prices and/or weed isn't up to par).

Aditionally, forget what I have done and plan on doing, the purpose of this thread was to hear YOUR experiences terminating the client/seller relationship, if you remained friends, etc... NOT about my experiences.

I understand that for many, cannabis is a cash crop, but for me, it's for my personal use, and since I will have more than enough to last me until my photoperiod dependent harvest in April, as well as another auto run, you must realize that not everyone is about greed or money. If I had the growing space, and the legal means, I would grow enough to supply as many as possible, for free.

I work in the music industry and don't need or want dirty money from my plants which are for me. If I choose to gift one plant's yield to someone I feel deserves it, I think that is honorable, not something to be laughed at.

Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread in a non judgemental way, and have contributed your experiences.

Peace and Love,
Tetra

 

[Capra ibex]

I find it absurd how many people find it incomprehensible that in an example of my current situation people don't agree with my gesture of giving away free quality bud. I am not a dealer, and if he was not a dealer, and i had met him by any other means, I would be doing the same.

It also might be worth mentioning that out of this harvest, it's just a quick outdoor auto-run so it's not like it's going to be some massive yield. As far as teaching him how to grow, he already expressed interest in learning, and I told him I can help him every step of the way.

(Also, don't forget, in my OP I also gave other examples where I've simply told others who weren't friends, strictly business to simply fuck off, their prices and/or weed isn't up to par).

Aditionally, forget what I have done and plan on doing, the purpose of this thread was to hear YOUR experiences terminating the client/seller relationship, if you remained friends, etc... NOT about my experiences.

I understand that for many, cannabis is a cash crop, but for me, it's for my personal use, and since I will have more than enough to last me until my photoperiod dependent harvest in April, as well as another auto run, you must realize that not everyone is about greed or money. If I had the growing space, and the legal means, I would grow enough to supply as many as possible, for free.

I work in the music industry and don't need or want dirty money from my plants which are for me. If I choose to gift one plant's yield to someone I feel deserves it, I think that is honorable, not something to be laughed at.

Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread in a non judgemental way, and have contributed your experiences.

Peace and Love,
Tetra

I think some folks are just weary of letting friends getting to close and comfortable when dealing with something like herb which is illegal in most places, especially in the past.
There is no one to call if things go wrong and shady people know this.
I have been on both sides of the fence, done something i shouldn't have (when i was a teenager) and in return karma paid me back twice in the ensuing decades.
Friends or 'friends' can change in times of desperation or when they no longer feel friendly, and when there is nothing anyone can do about it (by law anyway).
It is nice to trust friends and nice to feel trusted too, i think most people are just trying to say be careful, however they chose to express it.

 

[dekab247]

Tetra,

Good on you. First to answer your question originally posted in this thread. Have just not bought from no more, or when asked. Just told truth in regards to prices, and quality. Really never matter in my situation tbh. As I always had a minimum 7-8 main people, and a few on the side if desperate to get herbs...lol


Now good on you for looking out for another, and being kind. I like the idea of you gifting a few from each as well. No 20+ years ago. I met my dudes dude. Same name as me, and I ended up using him as my main guy. I am the only person after all these years that he's still in contact with. I moved away, but we've been best friends for 20+ years. Always shared with each other. run out, and toked me up, and looked out for one another. Had a family tragedy, and stepped up for him. As he did for me under bad times. Blessed with such a good friend. Best to you tetra...D

 

[tetragrammaton]

I think some folks are just weary of letting friends getting to close and comfortable when dealing with something like herb which is illegal in most places, especially in the past.
There is no one to call if things go wrong and shady people know this.
I have been on both sides of the fence, done something i shouldn't have (when i was a teenager) and in return karma paid me back twice in the ensuing decades.
Friends or 'friends' can change in times of desperation or when they no longer feel friendly, and when there is nothing anyone can do about it (by law anyway).
It is nice to trust friends and nice to feel trusted too, i think most people are just trying to say be careful, however they chose to express it.

Facts. If it makes any difference I am in South America where things are a bit different and live in a country where it's an extremely extremely grey area, in that there is a growshop on virtually every block, selling everything you need from substrate, pots, lights, MH, HPS, and LED, nutrient brands from around the world, seeds from well known seed brands from around the world, carbon filters, grow tents, etc... A large majority of those who smoke grow their own, or know at least a few growers.

Everywhere you go in my city, you smell marijuana in the air. In fact, we are the number one consumer of Cannabis in all of Latin America.

Personal use has been decriminalized. Bud is easy to be found, and most of the street vendors selling plastic bongs, metal pipes, and cheap plastic grinders also sell weed, you just have to ask discretely.

As far as the growers and dealers, it seems to me that law enforcement has and continues to be going after the BIG guys who clearly are growing for profit and clearly over the limit of what would be considered to be personal use, unless they try to claim it's for their life time which I doubt will work. On the news the other day they got a guy with 50 plants. Also the BIG dealers/criminal organizations. A few months ago they busted a guy with 700 kilos of Colombian Krippy. It didn't even put a dent in the supply though. There are much much bigger fish to fry and much much bigger problems as far as drug use in my country. Cocaine is prevailant and somewhat alarming to me is how it is pretty "common" in the workplace. And I'm not talking about fast food or minimum wage jobs, but in virtually all levels, from blue color to white color, to homeless, who smoke "pasta base" which is the byproducts left after the cocaine making process. Highly toxic stuff that is prevailant and is an actual danger and plague to every day living. I can't walk anywhere without one of those addicts asking me for coins. In my opinion, the cocaine and the pasta base, the prevailant alcoholism, and the codeine syrup addicts that mainly affect the poor are the problem.

The penalities for drinking a beer in public are much worse than the penalities for being caught smoking a joint in public. They will run your ID, make sure you aren't a wanted criminal, and depending on the officer or officers, will kindly ask you to put it out and do it in your house, or at worse, stomp it out, or at least give you the option to stomp it out yourself. Obviously, if you are disrespectful or rude to them, insult them, or something like that, they will probably not appreciate it, and take you to jail for an hour or two, but I think that's with anything. Treat people how you want to be treated. I witnessed a young woman smoking a joint and the police approached her. She was in distress and started crying saying that the reason she is smoking is because she was stressed out because she was robbed of her purse, and other officers did nothing, and they I guess felt some form of empathy towards her, because they apologized for bothering her, went on their way, and let her continue smoking her joint.

We have our own cannabis festivals, harvest festivals, private "cannabis cups", etc... smoking weed inside indoor events is very common, allowed, and if not, there are many designated smoking areas. In certain instances, only cannabis is allowed to be smoked indoors, where if you want to smoke a cigarette, you have to go outside.

There are stores that sell edibles, there are stores that for a small fee, they will convert your bud into Rosin, marijuana is simply a huge part of our culture, and most people except for the older generation who still view it as a drug (think reefer madness-era train of thought), realize that it is a harmless plant that is beneficial. Many old people are also now discovering the health benefits of it as well and cultivating their own as well.

Fortunately, most people in the cannabis culture/community here aren't shady, quite the opposite. We realize Cannabis is a plant that unites, heals, and has many benefits. Slowly but surely even the older generation who think weed is the devil are changing their minds once they try it and realize it alleviates their ailments better than anything the doctors have been charging them for all these years. In my experience, the only other drugs that a minority of members of the cannabis community occasionally partake in, or would consider partaking in, are psilocybin mushrooms and/or other psychedelics. They generally don't look favorably on the use of any other drug.

Peace and Love,
Tetra

 

[tetragrammaton]

Tetra,

Good on you. First to answer your question originally posted in this thread. Have just not bought from no more, or when asked. Just told truth in regards to prices, and quality. Really never matter in my situation tbh. As I always had a minimum 7-8 main people, and a few on the side if desperate to get herbs...lol


Now good on you for looking out for another, and being kind. I like the idea of you gifting a few from each as well. No 20+ years ago. I met my dudes dude. Same name as me, and I ended up using him as my main guy. I am the only person after all these years that he's still in contact with. I moved away, but we've been best friends for 20+ years. Always shared with each other. run out, and toked me up, and looked out for one another. Had a family tragedy, and stepped up for him. As he did for me under bad times. Blessed with such a good friend. Best to you tetra...D

Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for sharing your experience. It seems we have pretty much the same story, or at least will in the future. The fact that I met him as a customer is just a lucky coincidence. He too has been there for me in dark times, and I have been there for him in dark times as well. Out of the 8 years living here, he is the first solid person I've met, the first person I've met who I have many things in common with, the first person I've met who I can relate to (he is also new to the country/city), and I've learned a lot from him, just as he's learned a lot from me in just the relatively short time period I've known him. He's about 10 years younger than me, reminds me a lot of myself at that age. I try to steer him in the right direction as well. It's funny though, he has given me advice and encouragement you wouldn't expect from someone his age. He is one of the most humble individuals I've met in my entire life, treats me with the upmost respect, and overall is a very kind person who loves nature, animals, fitness, and healthy but great latin/carribean cuisine as do I.

I forsee him becoming one of my best friends of all time. Prior to meeting this individual the only person I actually considered a friend, my best friend of all time, since we were 7 years old, was fellow ICmager who unfortunately commit suicide Februrary 16th, 2016. dkmonk (RIP). I introduced him to icmag and he in a way apprenticed under me, and caught up to my level like no other, due to his dedication and desire to learn. We'd spend hours on icmag, and/or youtube watching everything growing related. While my new friend does not resemble dkmonk physically in any way shape or form, he has the same spirit, and I know dkmonk would be his friend as well.

 

[Benny106]

Business is business.

 

[GOT_BUD?]

I didn't break up with him. He is my brother from another mother.

He may not be my weed guy anymore, but he's still one of my oldest friends.

 

[moses wellfleet]

A friend of mine was a weed man for a couple years. There was so much more to the job. He became tangled up in people’s lives whether he liked it or not. Somewhat of a depressing time for him, he was selling outdoor that wasn’t always top shelf, it attracted a lot of sad sacks down on their luck!!

 

[packerfan79]

My bestfriend pushes pounds a day, grows, and works in a legal facility. Over the last 15 years their have been many times I have been up, and he's been down, and the opposite. Currently his prices are too high for me to make money, we still chill and burn. I still help him with issues in his garden. I have no desire to try to low ball him. I can always go to other sources.

No need to end a friendship, or be a dick. Don't forget you may need a sack between harvest. It's a nice gesture to throw a few nugs to your guy,but it shouldn't be mandatory. Who knows he may like your bud and become a customer.

 

[xavier7995]

Can you share what country you are in tetra? That sounds pretty enticing as a place to visit.

 

[Bobby Boucher]

Curtis was my first dude. Awesome dude. He was shot three times in the chest and twice in the throat during a break-in and still fought all the dudes off without losing a dollar.

He went off to prison, for a long time, and my childhood hero/mentor David took over. Half vietnamese half american war child. Shot in the leg during a chase and then again in the throat after he was stuffed in his moms car. Dead at 19. They found him 4 days later a few towns over, stinking up a parking lot.

911 received a call from the trunk right after he was kidnapped. The operators disregarded it is a prank. It was a whole fiasco. They were placed on unpaid leave for some time.

He had left my house to go make that pop. The cops asked me and my other dude Frank to come in for questioning. They saw we bought some weight from him in our texts, and wanted to know more about our personal relationship to him. We were there for 5 minutes before they saw how much the guy meant to us and just let us go.

Frank took over. Dude was the only guy in the world who ever lent me a dollar. Died in a hit and run on his motorcycle a few years later.

I didn't get to say "goodbye" to any of them. I still mourn for my weedmen, 15 years later.

Curtis got a real job and married the girl down the street with the boobies, and I started growing my own dope.

 

[EsterEssence]

The sheriff made my weed people break up with me, I can no longer grow very much. The majority of what I grow we make into Rosin for our personal use. The rest is for med patients who prefer organic, hand trimmed flower. I am pushing 66 so doing something else isn’t in the works. Luckily I don’t need very much to live on. It’s a big difference to living in Nepal making kilos of hash...

 

[BlueBlazer]

Don't break up with your weedman.

Both of you step away for a while, maybe see other people . . .