Girlfriends and Growing - VENT

[Guest]

same boat man. My girl wont let me grow anymore or she will leave. I have only been dating her for two years,but she worth more then any plants! I loved growing,but a relationship is lot better, I believe it will get me farther in life!

 

[pescador]

I grow while living with my girl. She smokes though, but was not too happy with the idea. How we compromised is that I only grow 2 plants at a time. If they are both male, I just start over. Honestly, I am under a 400W MH, and the last 2 plants I grew yielded 4 ounces, which lasted us for about 10 months (we are not real heavy smokers, and the vaporizer also stretched out how long it took to go through the weed). I think if you were to only have 1 or 2 plants going on at a time, especially in a country like England, it is no big deal or risk. Giving weed to your friends could be viewed as trafficking, even if you are giving it to them for free. You might have to cut that out. But honestly, I don't think the law would clamp down on you hard for 1 or 2 plants. No way in court could they prove that you were growing with intend to traffic. I also think under the law?s eyes it is better to have 2 big plants (vegged long) yielding 5 ounces than have 8 plants yield 5 ounces. It sounds better. Hey man, you could have 1 plant potentially yield 5 ounces if vegged long enough. Just ask her if you could grow 1 friggin plant.

 

[Speeding Mullet]

Pescador - downsizing is a very good compromise in my opinion.

Weed for life - We both have to believe that a compromise is much healther for a relationship in the long run than an order.
The last thing I want to be is bitter about giving up my favorite hobby. I don't only grow weed, but also vegetables, fruit and flowers. I even dug a pond in my garden and set up an ecosystem in my back garden.
Gardening has to be a part of my life the same as staying fit and eating healthy has to stay a part of my girlfriends.

SM

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[Devilock]

Sounds like the only peeps compromising is the tokers. Fuck that shit. I guess if your not passionate about it its not that big of a deal but i couldn't stand not being able to grow and smoke in my own damn house. Peace and *bong* :friends:

PS. If you think your gonna change the non tokers mind in a relationship, keep on dreamin.

 

[NiteTiger]

PS. If you think your gonna change the non tokers mind in a relationship, keep on dreamin.

I beg to differ.

 

[Speeding Mullet]

Devilock you have quite a bleak view of relationships.

I for one can be very persuasive:


SM

 

[Devilock]

Not bleak realistic. I rather be with someone who excepts what i do and enjoy from the start. Rather than having something to hold over my head everytime theres an arguement. Also im not talking about compromises in general. Im talking specificly about mind altering substances and compromises. (hope that makes sense to ya) Peace and *bong*

 

[Speeding Mullet]

I don't think the mind alterating substances are the issue here, as I am free to use them as she is.
Its the growing which is under scrutiny here not the using.

SM

 

[Mr. Nevermind]

You could always show her the alternative to not growing. You buying alot of herb. I mean if you want to grow just for personal and she dont like it, then keep smoking and buy herb. After a month or 2 with you buying $400 oz's i think she will get tired of watching the $$ go out the door.

I mean given the choice of a small grow for personal use or you blowing $800 a month on herb i think the choice is clear for her.

I look at it this way. I have been growing herb before i was with a girl and i will be gorwing herb after any girl. Gorwing herb is something i love. If a women cant understand that then we have no reason to stay together





Nevermind

 

[Speeding Mullet]

Thing is Mr Nevermind, my monthly drug habit is about £20 at the most. I just haven't smoked that much recently due to exams. I'm planning on staying on a nice level where I don't spend too much but enjoy myself from now on.

So I still don't think thats the issue either. Its really the love of growing something and tasting what I've grown that is at stake:

The fun of planning and building a grow room.
The excitement of finally cutting the ribbon on your growing room and firing up those lights.
Seeing your plants grow and change shape into something of beauty and aroma.
Smoking what you've just grown and being on top of the world, knowing that something you have nurtured from seed could have such amazing and different properties.

Thats what it means to me, not a drug habit.

SM

 

[BACKCOUNTRY]

I was pretty selective about my women, my fiance not only smokes, she has a history of growing.
For those of you not trapped by marrige, just get rid of that bitch now, the government is all ready brathing down your neck about this, the last thing you need is to be married to the problem

I wouldn't tell these women you are leaving her for Mary Jane, this will only make her spitefull, figure out a reason, and get out! Lots of fish in the sea, let this one go!!!

Decide now, or it may be for the rest of your life!!

 

[pieceofmyheart]

So I still don't think thats the issue either. Its really the love of growing something and tasting what I've grown that is at stake:

The fun of planning and building a grow room.
The excitement of finally cutting the ribbon on your growing room and firing up those lights.
Seeing your plants grow and change shape into something of beauty and aroma.
Smoking what you've just grown and being on top of the world, knowing that something you have nurtured from seed could have such amazing and different properties.

Thats what it means to me, not a drug habit.

SM

I'm with ya on that, I love growing it too. It brings me a lot of joy and then the rewards of a nice buzz at the end........I would be very sad if I had to stop.

Maybe you could get her to compromise if you grew on a much smaller scale.

 

[Speeding Mullet]

Maybe you could get her to compromise if you grew on a much smaller scale.

That's pretty much gonna be my tack I think. Just wanted to do something a little special this time round, stretch my legs you know! lol been doing small grows for a while!

SM

 

[HeadyPete]

Sorry to hear your troubles, mate.

I was a casual smoker again after quitting for 10 years. Before quitting it was mayhem...part of the reason why I quit for so long.

When I met my wife, she was the bigger pothead and ramped me up to where I am today. She is also very cool and eager for the grow. I love her for all of it!

My advice is if you really care and believe that this is "the girl", then put the grow on hold and when and if "you are the dude for her", you may have some more credit with her and she may be more receptive to your point of view. She may never be and that is something to weigh right now. If it doesn't work out between you, start growing and pick a bigger stoner for a g/f next time!

Good luck!

 

[Pops]

One thing that has not been mentioned on here is that if you are busted for cultivation or for possession with intent, your wife/gf shares your fate. Cops, prosecutors and juries often have a hard time believing that your wife/gf didn't know about the pot growing in the bedroom/basement or didn't share in the proceeds from a sale.

Women, in general, tend to think more about long-term security than men. We may be willing to risk our ass for a hobby/passion, but smoking/raising pot may not be as important to a woman as knowing that you will be together at home rather than separated and in jail.

There are a lot of gals that grow and consider yourself lucky if you are hooked up with one of them.

 

[pescador]

Pescador - downsizing is a very good compromise in my opinion.

Weed for life - We both have to believe that a compromise is much healther for a relationship in the long run than an order.
The last thing I want to be is bitter about giving up my favorite hobby. I don't only grow weed, but also vegetables, fruit and flowers. I even dug a pond in my garden and set up an ecosystem in my back garden.
Gardening has to be a part of my life the same as staying fit and eating healthy has to stay a part of my girlfriends.

SM

SM

Also use the argument that others here have made, that it would save you a lot of money if you grew. That argument worked for me. Also, another very good argument that was brought up here is that it may be riskier to buy weed on the black market than to grow 1 or 2 plants. The chances of you getting busted on a buy is a real risk. If you stay in the 400/600 kw range, your electric bill wont be high or suspicious. I would also advise you to get a compact fluorescent if she ever brings up the fire risk if you were to go on a holiday and had to leave the plants alone. Also, you could build your grow room with fire resistant cloth.

If you ever got busted for growing 1 or 2 plants, you could also say that you did not want to support the criminal orgs by buying weed. But in the OK, growing a few plants would be no big deal right?

 

[Trichome Toker]

I love fucking women, but anyone who lives with one is totally insane.

If I wanted that kind of stress I would just move back in with my mother.

 

[Speeding Mullet]

I love fucking women, but anyone who lives with one is totally insane.

If I wanted that kind of stress I would just move back in with my mother.

Thats going straight in the signature. K+

SM

 

[NiteTiger]

I love fucking women, but anyone who lives with one is totally insane.

If I wanted that kind of stress I would just move back in with my mother.

 

[jinxkakashi]

well i can say i know how you feel my x-g/f tried to make me quit for like 4 years....needless to say im now single lol but lovin every second of it