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Girlfriend is demanding I open the locked door. What to say?

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Darkstarlive

Tell her to respect your privacy.
You've only been dating a couple of months.
Stay at her place.
 

Islandbud

Member
Kick the bitch out and shut down the grow until you are sure she doesn't sell you out to the cops.

A word to the wise here ..... if you are going to grow and you are not legal ~ tell no one !
 

dagnabit

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Kick the bitch out and shut down the grow until you are sure she doesn't sell you out to the cops.

A word to the wise here ..... if you are going to grow and you are not legal ~ tell no one !
and dont have people over..
people always forget this one...

your grow house is not for the following
parties
homless homies crash pad
hooking up
hanging out
parents visiting
brother ran away
lan gatherings
neighborhood watch meetings
yard sales
political signs


you get the idea
 

yortbogey

To Have More ... Desire Less
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actually..............to keep...SAFE...............loss the girl...
move the grow/ and U'r self to another house.......sever ALL............contact w/ said person.......live safe and live to grow again..............

better to be alone and stoned than together and in jail................
 

paulo73

Convicted for turning dreams into reality
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AHAHAHAHHA

AHAHAHAHHA

What a typo ::laughing::laughing:

Lousy portuguese pothead that should not "Thrust" his english language skills while high on ACheese... at least you had a laugh and me too:laughing:
Thrust no one...it might hurt:blowbubbles:
 

ThePizzaMan

Active member
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Seriously......I mean SERIOUSLY its a GF of two months!!! I had longer relationships when I was 11yrs old man! Not being a douche but she doesn't deserve to know shit. Be open and honest that " these are rooms used for storage and I really don't want you to keep obsessing over storage rooms, I need you to leave this subject and the rooms alone and when I am ready to discuss or show you the boxes n shit in the rooms I will. If you cannot respect the private and personal areas of my life, then I guess this isn't working out"

Done and done! I mean really what fucking right does she have to just barge into your life and demand to see every fucking nook and cranny / secrets at two months give me a fucking break!

I would absolutely not share with her at this point as you really don't know her at alllllllll!


This
 

David762

Member
A "ring on her finger" is no guarantee of security.

A "ring on her finger" is no guarantee of security.

I dont think i could ever tell her unless i put a ring on her finger or possibly have a kid with her. She a good girl and im no spring chicken nor have i had much luck finding good ones in the past. To all the people suggesting that i just drop her, i say... i wish it was that easy. I wish I could go back to being single but im pretty sure id be miserable.

A "ring on her finger" is no guarantee of security. While it is true (for now) that a spouse cannot be compelled to testify against the other spouse, that does not mean that they cannot do so voluntarily. When she knows the truth, how long will it be before her girlfriends or her parents or even the police know the truth, after your first serious falling-out?

If you are bound and determined to keep this relationship, then you need to lie (for a little while) that the locked rooms are a long-time friend's personal gear. Then clear away all evidence of your "other life", and keep it that way as long as you two are together. You have presented what is known in diplomacy as a "Hobson's Choice", with no middle ground and only one bad result or the other. If you don't come to that realization, we will eventually be reading about your ex-girlfriend getting you busted.

Three people can keep a secret only if two of them are dead.
 

Dojo

Member
Zach you keep dancing around this subject hoping for the golden answer that YOU want to hear...You want to hear a way to keep the girl and grow...dude you cannot do both and you have to make a choice...sure you managed to get some nice home pussy but listen man just because your afriad your gonna be alone dont let that cloud your judgement

You already know what to do but your hoping someone says "hey man itll be ok i had the same situation"....WRONG

Ive absorbed so much storys of betrayal and backstabbery and these were dude that were married...for YEAR....and KIDS and the woman STILL burns them...its enough to tell me that if your woman could betray you at ANYTIME...ring or not

I know youll stay with the home pussy though cause you seem weak for it...you seem to have no confidence that life will go on without this she devil .....first things first love yourself man before you love another...that way you wont be scared of being ALONE

I am my own best friend...Only I can relay upon myself for happiness...i would never let me down
 

cocktail frank

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i learned early on to be honest with my wife.
it's tougher trying to remember all your lies and stories than it is the truth.

now i'm not saying tell her, you gotta make sure she is ride or die 1st.
 
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ak-51

I am pretty appalled by the idea that if she doesn't smoke then she's automatically not cool.

I know nobody here wants to be judged for the drugs that they may or may not do. I don't want to be lumped in with a certain stereotype based on the drugs I do and/or the drugs I don't do. I'm sure that nobody who smokes wants to be judged for it, yet I hear so many people judging this person you don't know. She can't be trusted because she doesn't smoke huh? Maybe she just doesn't like it? Surely you don't actually think that everybody who doesn't actively smoke weed is a prohibitionist and a narc right? Obviously there are people who just talk to talk and love to tell other peoples business, and that is a valid and critical concern. Accusing her of being a narc is something else, I think that implies that she gets busted for something and decides to narc you out instead of do the time. If she doesn't smoke and is a law-abiding citizen (for the most part at least) why would she just narc you out out of the blue? If it's unlikely that she would ever be put in a situation where she would greatly benefit by narcing you out then that's a big plus to me. If I had somebody knowing about my grow who was slinging dime bags and pills outside of the local high school and everybody knew it, I would be way more worried about that person; that person can smoke 2oz a day and it's not going to make me trust them any more.

You gauge trust by looking deep into a person. Their integrity, their personality, the strength of will that they have displayed in their actions; do they live by a code or are they out to get over on anybody to better themselves? Pot doesn't factor into that when I ask myself whether I trust somebody; it doesn't hurt them and it doesn't help them either.
 

genkisan

Cannabrex Formulator
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I disagree. Its just a plant and I am pretty sure she wouldnt get charged with anything since she doesnt live here. Im in one of the better states as well.

100% idiocy, right here folks!


IF you truely believe that, you are totally fucking clueless and are behaving in a completely asshated manner.....putting her at that kind of risk so you can make money selling buds and still git laid...






fucking selfish, puerile little boy........grow the fuck up.
 

dagnabit

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100% idiocy, right here folks!


IF you truely believe that, you are totally fucking clueless and are behaving in a completely asshated manner.....putting her at that kind of risk so you can make money selling buds and still git laid...






fucking selfish, puerile little boy........grow the fuck up.

i tried to say it nicely but
well put
 

hempluvr

plant pimp
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Better to be single and miserable(as zach put it) than to be single and miserable in jail. Plus all ur grow equipment is taken as well as plants. While ur in jail that bitch gonna be on the street getting more ass then a public toilet. Lose a hoe gain a hoe!
 

ZZTops

Active member
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Talk about "Bones in the Closet"

If you got Tampax in your bathroom, your Toast...


I'm Betting She wants the door open to confirm her suspicions...

Remember the first liar doesn't not have a chance...



 

headband 707

Plant whisperer
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I cant show her yet. I know that. We've been dating for a few months and i honestly dont think she has a clue about the pot farm in the house that she stays at 5 days a week. She just doesnt know anything about the culture and i gave up smoking so how could she. I make sure we dont watch any drug related shows either lol. Lately though shes been on my case hard about opening the doors. I have 2 rooms that i keep locked. Ive always stuck with the excuse that its just storage and i hate clutter so i keep the rooms locked so i dont have to see the junk everyday. Shes either bought that or just doesnt want to know because shes afraid what it might be. But lately she wont quit. Im gonna have to get a second place to grow or quit or tell her soon i know but until this next harvest is finished i have to keep her at bay and come up with an excuse. Any suggestions or insight would be appreciated. I definitely cant tell her. The trust just isnt there yet. So what im thinking is saying that i wasnt honest with her and that i actually rent those two rooms out to a friend for storage and he keeps the keys. I mean im in a tough spot because i hate lying, but the money and lifestyle are too good to quit growing and the friendship and sex are too good quit the relationship.


Well why would you even start a relationship with a person you need to lie too??? Either man up and be honest or get rid of her LOL peace out Headband707:tiphat:
 

the_man

Member
On the other hand I wonder how many of her friends she's already told about your locked doors and you not showing her what's there. And how many her friends have mentioned to their friends. Seems that you may already be in trouble.

Yeah you know she has said something to another girlfriend already.

I would just come clean with her. If she is cool great. If not go you sperate ways and move on.
 

Chem&M

Member
I feel sorry for those of you that don't get to share the experience of growing with someone you love. There's nothing sexier than pillow talk about crossing strains. It's so fulfilling to share this dream with the one I love. We both get off on bud porn too.


Where have you been all my life? Seriously awesome. We need more of this......



Also, this can be said about anything, but if you think they know, they know. Maybe your lack of actually smoking cannabis lead to such a poor lapse in judgement? I make all types of dumb decisions when I'm not high.
 

Midnight

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I disagree. Its just a plant and I am pretty sure she wouldnt get charged with anything since she doesnt live here. Im in one of the better states as well.


Bullshit. If she's in the house when you get raided then she catches a charge. Count on it.
 
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