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gf is beating me up... wtf?
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Damn accessndx, my morning coffee came back up through my nose-funny fukka! 
Yer, never hit her back man, especially with the lil tacker running around. Just makes ya look like a gutless prick. Reguardless who threw the first punch or how big n butch she is. Just imagine if ya hit her in the wrong spot or too hard and ya get locked up for it. Apart from losing your freedom for a pig, once the inmates find out what you're in there for, ya prolly gonna get beaten every day or be put in protective custody where yal be labelled a dog or worse and still get beaten every day lol
Much easier to walk and start again.
Yer, never hit her back man, especially with the lil tacker running around. Just makes ya look like a gutless prick. Reguardless who threw the first punch or how big n butch she is. Just imagine if ya hit her in the wrong spot or too hard and ya get locked up for it. Apart from losing your freedom for a pig, once the inmates find out what you're in there for, ya prolly gonna get beaten every day or be put in protective custody where yal be labelled a dog or worse and still get beaten every day lol
Much easier to walk and start again.
Years ago I was in the same situation...
My advice is to slowly reduce your grows, down to zero, above all get her to a doctor, sounds like it's a hormonal thing, and can get worse for all, another is to discuss this with close family, gather support!
If at all...fails quit, sorry but people do change
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It's going to be a long road.thanks for the replies yall... Yes i dont want leo anywhere near me or mine...
@hydro-soil
Ya you pretty much hit the nail on the head with the description.... Im gonna suggest the whole foods diet to her (If I can catch her in a more receptive mood
Thanks for sharing.. never been thru something like this before.. Its a shame because most of the time she is a really cool woman.
Iam not a victim in this, I have made my choices... I just get frustrated when it seems like nothing works to help her feel better...
I guess Iam taking a risk by not shutting down.. but... I wish herb helped melllow her out like it helps me..
well, actually it does.. if I can get her to do a vape she does usually feel better.. just wish she didnt need so much mellowing sometimes.. i hate drama and yelling.
I wouldn't trade my wife for the world.
She nearly killed me a few times, not by using me as a punching bag but... I trust her with my life and my childs now. As long as she stays away from porcessed food. Stay Safe! :bowbubbles:
I'd say that it depends on the source of her problem. As Hydro said, processed food, sugar, hypoglycemic rage, etc are all a possibility and things that can be addressed with time and effort. I had a girlfriend that was horrifically abused as a kid, and would strike out at the damndest times - I don't think that even she had any idea when it was coming. She was also fast as a snake. Now, a 90-pound woman isn't going to cause a hell of a lot of damage, but that shit gets real old, real fast. And there is absolutely nothing that you can do next that is appropriate. I bailed out.
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irishdude5186
Never hit a girl. Period. Just sayin'... Good luck mate, you know what to do.
Im sorry whole foods is not gonna make a nut sane. Don't make excuses for other peoples poor actions, that is the foundation of so many co-dependent relationships. I am breaking my rule here giving relationship advice. Odds are you won't listen. But get the hell out while you can.
i think diet can help but lets face it a large majority of people dont worry about diet and lead a happy life,
i think the only real victim here is the child. she need to learn how to be a responsible mother and i think that is the main issue here.
i would literally put things in place to move out, have cash and perhaps a place to stay if shit hits the fan. let her know that your gonna leave unless she gets her life together. she needs an ultimatum be decent, or be alone.
i think the only real victim here is the child. she need to learn how to be a responsible mother and i think that is the main issue here.
i would literally put things in place to move out, have cash and perhaps a place to stay if shit hits the fan. let her know that your gonna leave unless she gets her life together. she needs an ultimatum be decent, or be alone.
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sweetestsin420
mhhm,i hope your serious and not trolling or anything,and not making me write this shit for nothing,
but it seems like she going through a rough time,
i will start by saying,hitting someone,is never right,no matetr if your a girl hitting a guy,i dont hit guys,cus id prolly get my ass shaken or slapped back or some shit,the guys around here are serious,
but sweety,please dont lose your temper and hit her,thats kinda traumatic for a girl,even if she did hit your first,im not saying she can hit you,but your the man,just wlak away and cool off,never put your hands on a woman,it can screw with her head for a while after man,plus girls get scared of the bf's when they beat their ass,so im sure you dont want your girl scared of you,thats never good,trust me i know from experience..
my first suggestion,would be to talk to her,plain and simple,you have to sit down with her,no confrontation,and simple talk with each other,ask her why's she so down,whats on her mind,is it you?is it her?what is the cause of it,dont push,but keep pressure till she tells you whats really wrong.
theres two reasons,mainly,why somebody will act hostile like that:
1. some kind of mental brain imbalance,the kind that needs phyciatrict evaluation and medication,maybe she has an underlying mental illness,and you just think shes in a bitchy mood,i used to be on prozac and a shit load of other meds,cus one of my ex's was very abusive to me,and that shit made me really depressed and insecure,soo ask her whats the real reason,it could be you.
2.it could ne something not in her brain,but with her life.for example,has she gained weighth?that shit will make a girl really upset and irritateble,what has changed,since she first started acting like this?weight grain?a child? did she move in with you?something has to trigger it,cus girls dont just right hook a guy for leaving the lights on,a scream yeah,right hook no lol
another reason,but i doubt it,is maybe she was on her period and /or pmsing when she hit you?do you know when her cycle is? maybe its that,and you were just an unsuspecting victim lmao,iv never hit a guy on my period,but trust me iv freaked out on then plenty before lmao,so just ask her sweety,we cant help you,cus we dont know her.
but it seems like she going through a rough time,
i will start by saying,hitting someone,is never right,no matetr if your a girl hitting a guy,i dont hit guys,cus id prolly get my ass shaken or slapped back or some shit,the guys around here are serious,
but sweety,please dont lose your temper and hit her,thats kinda traumatic for a girl,even if she did hit your first,im not saying she can hit you,but your the man,just wlak away and cool off,never put your hands on a woman,it can screw with her head for a while after man,plus girls get scared of the bf's when they beat their ass,so im sure you dont want your girl scared of you,thats never good,trust me i know from experience..
my first suggestion,would be to talk to her,plain and simple,you have to sit down with her,no confrontation,and simple talk with each other,ask her why's she so down,whats on her mind,is it you?is it her?what is the cause of it,dont push,but keep pressure till she tells you whats really wrong.
theres two reasons,mainly,why somebody will act hostile like that:
1. some kind of mental brain imbalance,the kind that needs phyciatrict evaluation and medication,maybe she has an underlying mental illness,and you just think shes in a bitchy mood,i used to be on prozac and a shit load of other meds,cus one of my ex's was very abusive to me,and that shit made me really depressed and insecure,soo ask her whats the real reason,it could be you.
2.it could ne something not in her brain,but with her life.for example,has she gained weighth?that shit will make a girl really upset and irritateble,what has changed,since she first started acting like this?weight grain?a child? did she move in with you?something has to trigger it,cus girls dont just right hook a guy for leaving the lights on,a scream yeah,right hook no lol
another reason,but i doubt it,is maybe she was on her period and /or pmsing when she hit you?do you know when her cycle is? maybe its that,and you were just an unsuspecting victim lmao,iv never hit a guy on my period,but trust me iv freaked out on then plenty before lmao,so just ask her sweety,we cant help you,cus we dont know her.
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broham , i lived with my wife abusing me for 12 years , was horrific . wake up with black eyes, wife ask how i got that, punching me in blackouts and shit. i just left , pack what ya can take in 1 car and scram . no man needs to be abused , women know they can get away with it these days with all this fucked up dmv laws . start over, i did at 38 . i have nothing, but i dont have black eyes either . cops will come and find yer grow period with behavior like this .sorry man, i feel yer pain !
Unfortunately you need to move on. I know its very hard thing to do when you love someone. She needs to work on herself before your relationship can be worked on. I see a volatile situation just waiting to explode. Remove yourself from that. you dont need that kind of trouble. good luck
Max Bloom
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Interesting double standards we have. If the roles were reversed, the guy would've already been rotting in jail.
As to the OP's question, the most prudent course of action would be to break up with her (heck, I'd get a restraining order, but that's just me), chop your own grow, and get rid of all the evidence. Move if you can and never tell anyone about your grow again.
As to the OP's question, the most prudent course of action would be to break up with her (heck, I'd get a restraining order, but that's just me), chop your own grow, and get rid of all the evidence. Move if you can and never tell anyone about your grow again.
If she agrees to get help, see to it she gets it.
Or, get out of this situation, take your 'mom's' and go. It can only get worse.
As far as the child, A witness to violence,
is a victim of violence.
It is too late to save the kid, so save yourself. This can only escalate.
Or, get out of this situation, take your 'mom's' and go. It can only get worse.
As far as the child, A witness to violence,
is a victim of violence.
It is too late to save the kid, so save yourself. This can only escalate.
You've got an unstable person in the middle of your secret life. If you own your house that must take priority. All evidence of illegal activity must be eliminated. She knows you can't do anything that will draw attention to yourself.
Letting her hit you is teaching her nothing except that she can hit you with impunity. You are letting her hit you because you can't do anything that will draw attention. Bad news for the daughter's future to boot.
You can't get her out and you can't keep her without drawing attention to yourself. That's just how it is with unstable people. Attention is inevitable. Make it so it can't hurt you.
Letting her hit you is teaching her nothing except that she can hit you with impunity. You are letting her hit you because you can't do anything that will draw attention. Bad news for the daughter's future to boot.
You can't get her out and you can't keep her without drawing attention to yourself. That's just how it is with unstable people. Attention is inevitable. Make it so it can't hurt you.
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