Its not like you have to bring them to your grow on the first meet lol....If you wanted to meet up with someone check there icmag history (ie see how long they have been on,if they grow. Etc Etc)...meet up at a local area where there are other ppli.e. Beach(I think is the best)....Each bring a joint and shoot the shit....have a couple more meet ups to the point you are comfortable then talk trade....Not to hard just have common sense....Trust me bro your not the only Paranoid one on here (I think we all are lol) you would be dumb not to be....Hope I helped