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dude wtf, am i about to get busted?
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#1-are you married?
#2-does she have a job?
#3-can you imagine life without her?
if the answer to #1 is no, & answers to 2 & 3 are yes, what in the hell are you doing still there? when she left for work, l i would pack & leave for another STATE, screw moving across town! the dime has been dropped, & you are on borrowed time. sorry....
#2-does she have a job?
#3-can you imagine life without her?
if the answer to #1 is no, & answers to 2 & 3 are yes, what in the hell are you doing still there? when she left for work, l i would pack & leave for another STATE, screw moving across town! the dime has been dropped, & you are on borrowed time. sorry....
Im with you. Now with respect to the OP who made mistake we all do it but I would never put my wife in that situation. To nice of a person, doesnt think anything like I do. I dont expect her to.
All the "your girl is stupid" and "dumb bitch" this and that is kinda childish. And old.
Read his post a raid will only scare his girl and kids. Yeah kick her and the kids to the curb. She goofed the OP goofed even more. Hopefully the 3rd time around a lesson learned.
Your gonna need a separate grow spot now dude. Unless you pack up and move far away, and not the other side of town.
What do you mean. It wasn't the cops the might have stumbled on his grow. It was someone who might talk to the cops. That person knows he seen plants and lights. He doesn't know how long they been growing. Or what they were. It would of been a nice way to save some time instead of tearing down the whole room.
Dumbest criminals, or better thinkers?
Females can hang tough, I know mine has, despite immense pressure from LEO. Not going into details, but I am proud of her.
Someone said it is Standard operating procedure for them to do a gas leak check. She probably figured he would come in and do a quick test. All the doors to the rooms should have been locked. They should be locked 24/7 anyway
I have had people in my house fixing appliances, cable, etc. I made sure there was nothing near my grow that would need access by repair people. Cable guy was fixing a signal booster in the basement, 20 feet from a 10K op. LOL But I had odor in check, and he never even saw the doors to the rooms, etc.
The OP has probably wiped his computer, and is not coming back until he feels safe or can post from elsewhere. Or he is trying to get bond. From what he said, it sounded like he got rid of everything.
good luck
Someone said it is Standard operating procedure for them to do a gas leak check. She probably figured he would come in and do a quick test. All the doors to the rooms should have been locked. They should be locked 24/7 anyway
I have had people in my house fixing appliances, cable, etc. I made sure there was nothing near my grow that would need access by repair people. Cable guy was fixing a signal booster in the basement, 20 feet from a 10K op. LOL But I had odor in check, and he never even saw the doors to the rooms, etc.
The OP has probably wiped his computer, and is not coming back until he feels safe or can post from elsewhere. Or he is trying to get bond. From what he said, it sounded like he got rid of everything.
good luck
Everyones coming down hard on the girl here, so with that in mind, may I invite you to consider things from her perspective.
AB is working a fulltime job that If I remember what he's said correctly, is somewhat sucky.
What that means is that his grow is not paying the bills, and if your grow is not paying all, or most of you and your girls bills, then it's just a personal use hobby grow.
This girl, like any other woman, would like to have a normal life, friends over, answering the door without fear, etc....
AB and many others here are saying she should be denied this for the sake of AB's little hobby grow, and that's not really fair is it?
If he was pulling down 15K plus per month off the thing, banking money and paying all bills, it would be normal to expect that you will sacrifice some aspects of a normal life, with the understanding that the end justifies the means.
But this is not the case here, and as such, I think it's a bit unfair to ask this woman to give up all these little everyday things that she likes, simply so you can grow your own personal use weed.
Relationships are about give and take, communication and compromise.
Move to a new place, set up the new grow ultra stealthy so the woman can have friends over and not worry about it getting discovered.
Something so you can still grow your weed, but she can still have a normal life.
Now if I'm wrong and this grow is paying some bills, then why are you still working?
If your going to grow commercially, then get to it and start pulling down some decent cash so you don't need that job, a half ass commercial grow that's not bringing in that much cash, a job you hate, and a compromised style of living does not sound like fun to me.
Work it out so all parties involved can be happy.
AB is working a fulltime job that If I remember what he's said correctly, is somewhat sucky.
What that means is that his grow is not paying the bills, and if your grow is not paying all, or most of you and your girls bills, then it's just a personal use hobby grow.
This girl, like any other woman, would like to have a normal life, friends over, answering the door without fear, etc....
AB and many others here are saying she should be denied this for the sake of AB's little hobby grow, and that's not really fair is it?
If he was pulling down 15K plus per month off the thing, banking money and paying all bills, it would be normal to expect that you will sacrifice some aspects of a normal life, with the understanding that the end justifies the means.
But this is not the case here, and as such, I think it's a bit unfair to ask this woman to give up all these little everyday things that she likes, simply so you can grow your own personal use weed.
Relationships are about give and take, communication and compromise.
Move to a new place, set up the new grow ultra stealthy so the woman can have friends over and not worry about it getting discovered.
Something so you can still grow your weed, but she can still have a normal life.
Now if I'm wrong and this grow is paying some bills, then why are you still working?
If your going to grow commercially, then get to it and start pulling down some decent cash so you don't need that job, a half ass commercial grow that's not bringing in that much cash, a job you hate, and a compromised style of living does not sound like fun to me.
Work it out so all parties involved can be happy.
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unseeded
I would wait at least a year to 3 or not at all before groing again.The guy talking about rewiring is very strange.It could be he had the wrong address but I dont think so,him saying what he did say is scary!Something is very wrong.Look at your panel.Does it look right?if you know electrical?Like his girl,some people dont know cops and how they work.If you can leave and watch the house the best you can,this might help?
safe groing
safe groing
I think the main issue here is your relationship.
Maybe you two kids just aren't compatible. I agree 100% with KalicoKitty. This girl probably wants to lead a somewhat normal life. She wants to have those mothers over, with the 7 kids running around slamming doors and leaving greasy little hand prints over all your shit. That doesn't make her a dumb bitch, just a bitch... thats all.
At the same time, you is the Alfa Dog. Its your house to rule, and you need your bitch to respect you. Man, if my girl shrugged me off on an issue close to my heart like the importance of security for my grow op I'd be so pissed. It would probably end right there, but thats just me.
I think you both need to sit down and talk.
I kicked a cheating bitch to the curb once (yeah she cheated on me when I was away, bought strangers into my house where I grew). Her arse was out the door so fast she didn't know what was going on. A good year and a half later I met another girl and for me the hard part was when do I introduce her to that part of my life style. When do I tell her that yes, I grow and sell large quantities of Marijuana for fun and profit?
For me it didnt take long. I didnt want to tell her until I knew her properly, but I didnt want to know her then break her heart. I sat her down one day and basicly told her I had to come clean with her, and I wanted her to accept me for me. I wanted her to know that I had not told her up until now because its not something you can just tell anyone, but I felt I was ready for the next step in our relationship.
I also told her that I respected her if she wanted to end it. I told her if she couldnt live with it then I understood, but it was a part of who I am and it was something I had been doing for a long time (over a decade at leaste). So I basicly gave her a choice. Accept it, live with it, and join me or move on.
I am proud to say I have met this wonderful girl who accepts me for me. Helps me water my girls, and trim my buds. Loves me with all her heart and I return the favour.
I'll marry this one, one day. Of that I am sure. But remember I was prepared to let her walk if she didnt accept.
I think you need to give your woman a similar situation. It doesnt mean you cant be friends if she chooses to leave. Just let her know that if she chooses to stay its one in all in.
There are a lot of women out there, and it took a sour one for me to realize that the world is your oyster. You can find that ideal woman to love and to hold she is out there. And that goes to all of you.
Maybe you two kids just aren't compatible. I agree 100% with KalicoKitty. This girl probably wants to lead a somewhat normal life. She wants to have those mothers over, with the 7 kids running around slamming doors and leaving greasy little hand prints over all your shit. That doesn't make her a dumb bitch, just a bitch... thats all.
At the same time, you is the Alfa Dog. Its your house to rule, and you need your bitch to respect you. Man, if my girl shrugged me off on an issue close to my heart like the importance of security for my grow op I'd be so pissed. It would probably end right there, but thats just me.
I think you both need to sit down and talk.
I kicked a cheating bitch to the curb once (yeah she cheated on me when I was away, bought strangers into my house where I grew). Her arse was out the door so fast she didn't know what was going on. A good year and a half later I met another girl and for me the hard part was when do I introduce her to that part of my life style. When do I tell her that yes, I grow and sell large quantities of Marijuana for fun and profit?
For me it didnt take long. I didnt want to tell her until I knew her properly, but I didnt want to know her then break her heart. I sat her down one day and basicly told her I had to come clean with her, and I wanted her to accept me for me. I wanted her to know that I had not told her up until now because its not something you can just tell anyone, but I felt I was ready for the next step in our relationship.
I also told her that I respected her if she wanted to end it. I told her if she couldnt live with it then I understood, but it was a part of who I am and it was something I had been doing for a long time (over a decade at leaste). So I basicly gave her a choice. Accept it, live with it, and join me or move on.
I am proud to say I have met this wonderful girl who accepts me for me. Helps me water my girls, and trim my buds. Loves me with all her heart and I return the favour.
I'll marry this one, one day. Of that I am sure. But remember I was prepared to let her walk if she didnt accept.
I think you need to give your woman a similar situation. It doesnt mean you cant be friends if she chooses to leave. Just let her know that if she chooses to stay its one in all in.
There are a lot of women out there, and it took a sour one for me to realize that the world is your oyster. You can find that ideal woman to love and to hold she is out there. And that goes to all of you.
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Artic, this is the equivalent of "strike two" for you and close-calls in recent weeks.
Even a blind man can see the danger here, homie
You can't "kick her to the curb" and you most certainly can NOT be without your kids.
Trust me, many growers here can empathize with one's need to grow their own meds, but until your situation (for growing off-site or in a purchased property) improves, there is no other answer than to forget growing for the foreseeable future.
Celebrating kids birthdays from behind bars is not the way to go here.
Take it from a friend
Even a blind man can see the danger here, homie
You can't "kick her to the curb" and you most certainly can NOT be without your kids.
Trust me, many growers here can empathize with one's need to grow their own meds, but until your situation (for growing off-site or in a purchased property) improves, there is no other answer than to forget growing for the foreseeable future.
Celebrating kids birthdays from behind bars is not the way to go here.
Take it from a friend
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everyone saying "bitch has to go"...did you miss the part where he said it's his wife, and they have kids(together i'm assuming). many of you saying that obviously don't have a wife and kids that you love. if an option were put up to me between "bitch has to go" and "growing has to go." I would choose my wife and kids over growing any day of the week.
to the op. maybe the grower lifestyle isn't for you guys. i know my wife isn't that into it, and i could honestly see her doing something like your wife did. i'm not going to get her to the curb though. i keep my grow and my family separate for this reason..among others. good luck man. just because she messed up something like this, doesn't mean you should dump her.
just my 2 cents.
to the op. maybe the grower lifestyle isn't for you guys. i know my wife isn't that into it, and i could honestly see her doing something like your wife did. i'm not going to get her to the curb though. i keep my grow and my family separate for this reason..among others. good luck man. just because she messed up something like this, doesn't mean you should dump her.
just my 2 cents.
superbolan
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As soon as she said whatever you should have called out and stayed home, not to mention when you found the shady doings of the electric guy. You made as many bad decisions as she did. You have to be proactive if you want to stay free, also one of the principle rules of growing is pay your bills on time if not early. Once you broke that one you opened this can of shitworms
Hopefully you read this between all the flames! There are a few things here I’d be concerned about. Great you cleaned everything up, its sounding probable that you may have a raid coming. If you didn't already have a problem just with the electrician, you do now with the gas man.
Firstly, call your power co. up and ask about the work to be done to your place, tell them that a rep visited you and you were concerned work may proceed without your knowledge as you are currently caring for an old relative and their support equipment or fall monitor requires no loss of power – they will then bend over backwards to find out who, why, where etc, they definitely don’t want a death lawsuit on their hands. If they have no records of work requests or preventative maintenance then you will know your position.
Your wife is definitely a problem here, too much stupidity, too much self-righteousness, too careless, she is simply too flippant about growing and what’s to ‘argue’ about? She stuffed up plain and simple for whatever reason it doesn’t matter, there’s nothing to argue. I would not be in ANY way reliant upon her in the future - never, this obviously just isn't for her. Sorry we have all dragged her through the ringer, but the truth can hurt.
Your wife is not totally at fault here though is she? I have to ask but how is your grow area not locked and secured? How is it that children are able to run around and access your grow area? And why is she your first and last line of defence?
This is all common sense stuff and I don’t want to be a dick about all the after thoughts you’d be having but this is your second security breach (that you know of), many don’t even get one warning sign before a bust occurs. No point harping on it though.
There are many doubts surrounding your landlord and the electrical company visit, power co reps. or more likely their contractors don’t just drop by to do meter rewiring work, there are many procedures they need to follow before work can start, arranging a time with dwelling occupants for a power outage being a minor one – I work in power transmission & distribution so if you want to know more about why this is so suspicious let me know, I didn’t want to start an essay about it here.
It doesn’t add up so assume the worst and hope for the best, get rid of ANY and ALL plant matter (not in the rubbish bin) – not a single leaf anywhere, remove all smoking implements from the house, no loose baggy’s with scraps inside or stashes, mullers/scissors, stokers, pictures of your grow on cameras, PC’s etc nothing should remain – they will try to bust you for anything if your plants are gone, nothing will be left unturned. Tomato plants will do nothing unless you want to toy with the popo, if you get raided they already know what you’re doing so better not to piss them off – they’ll always get the last laugh somehow. If you have friends who grow that you regularly visit then subtly drop them a warning about ‘stuff you’ve heard around’ without implicating yourself, just as a courtesy – or not.
I don’t know how long you should keep your house ‘paraphernalia free’ before you can feel safe again. Personally I’d be moving far away being that the gas man saw too much.
I would not be growing in your rental again, it’s not worth the risk. Certainly, don’t bother growing with your wife’s knowledge she obviously doesn’t understand that such actions will put you (and possibly her) in jail – bottom line!
Firstly, call your power co. up and ask about the work to be done to your place, tell them that a rep visited you and you were concerned work may proceed without your knowledge as you are currently caring for an old relative and their support equipment or fall monitor requires no loss of power – they will then bend over backwards to find out who, why, where etc, they definitely don’t want a death lawsuit on their hands. If they have no records of work requests or preventative maintenance then you will know your position.
Your wife is definitely a problem here, too much stupidity, too much self-righteousness, too careless, she is simply too flippant about growing and what’s to ‘argue’ about? She stuffed up plain and simple for whatever reason it doesn’t matter, there’s nothing to argue. I would not be in ANY way reliant upon her in the future - never, this obviously just isn't for her. Sorry we have all dragged her through the ringer, but the truth can hurt.
Your wife is not totally at fault here though is she? I have to ask but how is your grow area not locked and secured? How is it that children are able to run around and access your grow area? And why is she your first and last line of defence?
This is all common sense stuff and I don’t want to be a dick about all the after thoughts you’d be having but this is your second security breach (that you know of), many don’t even get one warning sign before a bust occurs. No point harping on it though.
There are many doubts surrounding your landlord and the electrical company visit, power co reps. or more likely their contractors don’t just drop by to do meter rewiring work, there are many procedures they need to follow before work can start, arranging a time with dwelling occupants for a power outage being a minor one – I work in power transmission & distribution so if you want to know more about why this is so suspicious let me know, I didn’t want to start an essay about it here.
It doesn’t add up so assume the worst and hope for the best, get rid of ANY and ALL plant matter (not in the rubbish bin) – not a single leaf anywhere, remove all smoking implements from the house, no loose baggy’s with scraps inside or stashes, mullers/scissors, stokers, pictures of your grow on cameras, PC’s etc nothing should remain – they will try to bust you for anything if your plants are gone, nothing will be left unturned. Tomato plants will do nothing unless you want to toy with the popo, if you get raided they already know what you’re doing so better not to piss them off – they’ll always get the last laugh somehow. If you have friends who grow that you regularly visit then subtly drop them a warning about ‘stuff you’ve heard around’ without implicating yourself, just as a courtesy – or not.
I don’t know how long you should keep your house ‘paraphernalia free’ before you can feel safe again. Personally I’d be moving far away being that the gas man saw too much.
I would not be growing in your rental again, it’s not worth the risk. Certainly, don’t bother growing with your wife’s knowledge she obviously doesn’t understand that such actions will put you (and possibly her) in jail – bottom line!
ZackMorris
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Everyone has pretty much covered what i wanted to say like why wasnt there a lock on the door and you deserve some of the blame for not realizing your girls incompetence. I mean all she had to say was something like there is a baby sleeping in that room, please dont go in there but the fact that she couldnt do that like everyone else has said means you cant grow around her again. What im wondering though is weather you can still be brought up on charges based on two eye witness's testimony? The gas guy and your girl. I mean, if the cops make the effort to raid you theyre gonna do whatever they can to charge you with something to save face. You'll be able to get off with a good lawyer probably but its gonna cost you 10k. So i would get the lights out of there and not piss of the retard you live with incase they try and get her to turn on you. Either way, unless you move far away, youre growing days are over.
ZackMorris
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paranoia w/ perspective, maybe ok...
why allow gas to get turned off?
safety inspection seem common when turning on gas... why go to work?
seems that is your garden, not hers... hence, your responsibility? "yeah, yeah, sure, whatever" is not a reply that subs of *mistress* could ever utter... & have *mistress* trot off to work, whistling
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his job, maybe... why continue going to work?
@ least stay until issues w/ gas+elec out of way...
but, seems left anyway...leaving grrl to deal w/ elec man, gas man & even possible landlord man, that you woke up!
texts dont work?
missing fifty calls is bunch!... could have been fire, fall, fainting, etc...
esp w/ plantys under lyghtys...
why not call boss & say cant go to work until after lunch, or so?
seems boss had no issue letting go home early, why go @ all that day?
w/ no less than 2 men that you left your grrl-friend to deal w/...
maybe, had several signs & chances to not leave home @ all that day...all ignored...
unless grrl friend helps watering, ph'ing & checking temps/rh, etc, it seems your garden...
if it is your garden, it is you that tends to it... that include tymes when it not just growing plantys, which fairly simple, but also sheparding garden itself
best wishes
Bias much? He told her not to let anyone in the house! How hard is that? He deserves some blame, but that bitch deserves most of it. Thats like if you and your guy are coming home from the bar, get pulled over and you tell him- hey, dont tell the cops about the ounce in my purse. Then the cops walk up to the car and your guy goes- hey officer this girl has an ounce in her purse! So, youre pretty much saying that if this happened it would be your fault that you went to jail that night? Same scenarios.
my retarded wife would probably do something like that too.
you gotta drill this shit into her head, and make sure she understands this shit isnt anything to fuck around with. thats what i do. drill it into her head, show her examples, etc etc. thats what im currently doing and im very slowly making progress. i still get the excuses, arguing blah blah nonsense, but she uses us having our med cards as one of them. and i make it damn clear that i still treat it as if it was 1970's nevada law style. im right there with ya man.
you gotta drill this shit into her head, and make sure she understands this shit isnt anything to fuck around with. thats what i do. drill it into her head, show her examples, etc etc. thats what im currently doing and im very slowly making progress. i still get the excuses, arguing blah blah nonsense, but she uses us having our med cards as one of them. and i make it damn clear that i still treat it as if it was 1970's nevada law style. im right there with ya man.
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how's everything going AB?
Sounds like ya need to take a break for a lil while and get yer head on straight especially if this has happened again.. once shame on her.. twice shame on you and well we all know 3rd strike OUT!!! so its time to re think what yer doing and whom your doing it in front of.. She seems like she would roll over faster than she does when ya ask her to do it doggie style.. 
.. Is it time for a new gurl or time to take a looooooong break.. good luck being paranoid for the next who knows how long.. peace n pufs..
edit: just saying i never used curses to yer gurl.. dumb or not.. she needs a good talking to but kinda sounds like you do as well.. Sounds like ya got way to comfortable.. Good Luck.. peace..
sackO
.. Is it time for a new gurl or time to take a looooooong break.. good luck being paranoid for the next who knows how long.. peace n pufs..edit: just saying i never used curses to yer gurl.. dumb or not..
she needs a good talking to but kinda sounds like you do as well.. Sounds like ya got way to comfortable.. Good Luck.. peace..sackO
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White-rhino
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I agree. Its taken years but I finally have everyone in my house hating cops & refusing to answer the door for anyone. Someone comes knocking, they don't even look up. Sometimes we wonder who it was. It's a beautiful thing. If its someone we want to talk to, they would have already called ahead.
If I'm home I go out the back door and come around front & send them on their way. And sometimes I just sit there and watch TV. And whenever the subject comes up, I drill it in to them do not talk to cops. Don't lie, just don't talk. Constant vigilance.
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