Don't tell

[datura_kid]

first of all, you cant trust ANYONE!!!

in theory, but in practice also, someone (even yourself) coud be sleepwalking and talk all kinds of shit which he/she wont even remember in lucid state of mind. This may sound a little bit too much, but if you want to be 100% safe, you gotta think about everything and cover every possiblity!

also, if you cant keep your mouth shut, how can you expect someone else to do it...

i understand the position of a man that thinks is going to marrie this girl, and its a though choice i know...you think if you cant be honest with the woman your sharing your life with then fuck that life, but then again things change very fast, and you get backstabbed from someone you loved the most, and you see the world collapse in front of your eyes...was it worth it?

 

[DoffCocker]

first of all, you cant trust ANYONE!!!

in theory, but in practice also, someone (even yourself) coud be sleepwalking and talk all kinds of shit which he/she wont even remember in lucid state of mind. This may sound a little bit too much, but if you want to be 100% safe, you gotta think about everything and cover every possiblity!

also, if you cant keep your mouth shut, how can you expect someone else to do it...

i understand the position of a man that thinks is going to marrie this girl, and its a though choice i know...you think if you cant be honest with the woman your sharing your life with then fuck that life, but then again things change very fast, and you get backstabbed from someone you loved the most, and you see the world collapse in front of your eyes...was it worth it?

While i know the sentiments are good, everytime i see someone talk like this, i cant help but think that they have already won.......

Was it worth it?..... depends on what happened inbetween imho. like i said earlier, fuck living like that.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

Whatever you do, best of luck.

 

[Dr. Smokepuma]

Everyone always talks about not telling a soul about what you are up to. However I'd like to get some opinions or feedback on what you guys really think on this. Say you grow for a living and have done so for years and have no plans on stopping for at least another 5-10 years. If you started dating a girl surely you wouldn't say shit, but assuming later on down the line you were to marry this girl. Now what? Would you keep living the lie or would you guys tell her?

don't dropp the soap...i'v seen thing that gone sideways amke sure its forever..and then some

 

[GardenCaress]

You have to know she has internalized the risk and how much people like to share secrets that don't affect them. Everyone likes to talk about cool secret stuff. Gonna have find a way to make her paranoid... My gf has already told one of my coworkers.. My thing is super small and legal but still... Fucked up shit.

 

[Dr. Smokepuma]

You have to know she has internalized the risk and how much people like to share secrets that don't affect them. Everyone likes to talk about cool secret stuff. Gonna have find a way to make her paranoid... My gf has already told one of my coworkers.. My thing is super small and legal but still... Fucked up shit.

exactumumdo....

 

[thirtyshort]

You have to know she has internalized the risk and how much people like to share secrets that don't affect them. Everyone likes to talk about cool secret stuff. Gonna have find a way to make her paranoid... My gf has already told one of my coworkers.. My thing is super small and legal but still... Fucked up shit.

Exactly what I'm afraid of. Damn dude that's messed up. Legal or not someone could end up stealing your meds that you spent time and money on. Not to mention the people ripping you off might think it's a lot bigger than it is and you end up in a violent home invasion senario.

 

[GardenCaress]

If anyone could recommend a movie that is good at communicating the importance of keeping a secret, I think it might help some of us. You can tell somebody but having them experience it through a story is so much more effective. And the more the better, we humans respond well to repetition.

 

[rasputin]

GC, that calls for some harsh response because what your gf did is completely unacceptable. I couldn't honestly say what I might do, one never knows until they're in that position, but I feel confident in saying it wouldn't be nice. Some people just insist on learning things the hard way in life.

thirtyshort, DTA.

 

[GardenCaress]

Yeah, from my experience, I'd suggest not telling her. Which is really fucked up if you marry her but not as fucked up as you being behind bars, imo. How low are the chances she'll let something slip? But if she does, most likely it would be very 'hush hush' to whoever knew (close fam and friends) and would never get to LEO. On the other hand, how low are the chances, in the event of a break up, she won't go crazy and talk to the cops? Hope she's a stable girl with a good head on her shoulders if you tell her

Couple interesting links. Who knows, might help.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Bernoulli#Statistics
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/dan_gilbert_researches_happiness.html

 

[Lord Doobie]

even if you told her the marriage will hinge on this, the first thing they do is tell their sisters and girlfriends...their "partners in crime"

 

[whiterabbit9]

sometimes it's better not to know.

better for her, better for you

if you were always nice with her, respect, honesty, etcetera, and if she did find out, then at least you haven't pulled other shit on her

but then.. there is the criminal factor

yeah man, I know why you brought this up, a little bit complicated

ya I think out of respect... maybe the person should know about it

dangerous... ya...

guess you gotta really feel out the person

and what if she don't accept ?

p.s.
GardenCaress
man, I dunno how you take that shit lightly..

LOL

 

[Muleskinner]

you'll have to tell her if you're going to get married. I'd try to bring it along slowly, talk about cannabis, talk about people growing, talk about medical MJ in the news. See how she reacts.

You're going to have to find out how she reacts before getting married.

Consider the following series of events:

1) Marriage
2) she starts to realize she doesn't like you that much, gets a little sick of you, meets new co-worker that hits on her & sucks up to her constantly and has more money than you
3) she realizes that your grow + divorce = shitloads of money for her
4) She calls divorce lawyer one week, calls cops on you the next
5) you're broke for life AND being prosecuted

You better find out where she stands!

 

[GardenCaress]

While Muleskinner's five step road to damnation seems pretty unlikely, probably not a bad idea to think about though.
The first thing Mule wrote is probably good advice.

thirty, do already have some idea of how she feels toward the plant in general? medicinal qualities? ...growing? maybe show her this before you (if you do) tell her
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=077UtUWGQOA

 

[GardenCaress]

Whiterabbit, totally man. Thank goodness I'm not the beatin' type. I have since reemphasized the importance of secrecy to her in regards to this subject. As a woman you would think she would know she can't trust one of her own kind! sucks being between a rock and a hard place

 

[hashit]

My wife has always loved cannabis and one day I just started watching youtube grow videos and decided to try it out. Well, I tried it out with bag seed in a cup and had a stretched seedling about 6 inches long...didn't know if she would get mad if I showed her. When I showed her she said "Why don't you just use our closet to grow?" She now loves to grow and she always cooks a turkey dinner after we harvest! I got lucky...and maybe you will too...you never know!

 

[thirtyshort]

While Muleskinner's five step road to damnation seems pretty unlikely, probably not a bad idea to think about though.
The first thing Mule wrote is probably good advice.

thirty, do already have some idea of how she feels toward the plant in general? medicinal qualities? ...growing? maybe show her this before you (if you do) tell her
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=077UtUWGQOA

Wtf is up with the toss the salad vid? lmao!!!!

I can tell you that if any girl ever pulled that five step road to damnation shit on me she'd feel the wrath of Satan himself the minute I made bail or got out on parole.