parents of IC

OG bub · Aug 22, 2007

I almost feel like this thread should have its own forum..lol Im shure so many of us here on IC are parents...
How would the world look at us...

I love my kids. My daughter is 2.5 yrs old... my son just turned 2 months on the 19th.

it is true. our children are our future..
then comes the question... "what do we teach our children"........

I will never impose anything upon my kids... but then, how would I teach them what I believe what is right....
how would I justify what "daddy" did as right.. without imposing it on them as 'what to do'.......

I am an observer of the tao.. I am confused....

but beyond me.. this thread is for the joy of the children that we have, and the children that inspire our lives..

lets share.
our kids are our pride!

Peace, bub.

PhenoMenal · Aug 22, 2007

"what do we teach our children".......

"Turn that shit off and go do your homework, NOW!"

Kailua Kid · Aug 22, 2007

Give them lots of love. Set a good example. Teach them to reason.
Mine are 29, 32, & 34 now and just as beautiful in my eyes as the day they were born. Enjoy yours, they'll bring you a lifetime of joy.

HuffAndPuff · Aug 22, 2007

I would love to contribute my thoughts on this topic- there are so many things to examine/contemplate. Thing is, I don't know how valuable my opinions would be to you, as I am not a parent. I fully plan to be, someday, and as I have gotten to the age where several of my friends are married, my girl and I have talked all about this.

What the hell am I going to tell my kid about XYZ? An extreme example would be abstinence education vs safe-sex talk, but no girls in room vs "Hey, they're 16, I was having sex at that age, why shouldn't they?"

Is parenthood inevitably the path towards hypocrisy? Do as I say, not as I do? I mean, how do you separate that from wanting better for your kids?

So much....

So Bub, Lemme know who you're looking to hear from, and in what capacity, and I'd love to shoot the shit on this one.

Stay Safe,
HuffAndPuff

cocktail frank · Aug 22, 2007

i have no children and alot of money in my wallet.
i have a feeling once kids come, that trend will change.

rusto · Aug 22, 2007

Tell them one day they will realize daddy was/is an IC legend ahahaha

Maj.PotHead · Aug 22, 2007

mine are 28 and 18 yrs old i brought them up knowing the difference between right and wrong how to love and forgive. they understand what i do isnt wrong except in the laws eyes

7ate9 · Aug 22, 2007

I would let them have their own view points of their world as they grow up and also voice my own, and let them choose the path that they want to believe. <---government and society type stuff, not life lessons, of course I will teach those properly. In their late teenage years I may have a conversation about weed and telling them I think it's okay for them to do it but have control and not until they are 18.

It really sucks that what we are doing is considered wrong by society yet we want to teach that it's good...honestly it's kind of scary to think that many things are looked like that, hate for an example.

kmk420kali · Aug 22, 2007

I have 3... 9, 19, and 23...all at home-- :spank:

I keep waiting for one to move out...so I can turn their room into a grow...so far, I think the 9 yr old will move out soonest.... :badday:

Feyd · Aug 22, 2007

A lot of props to all of you parents out there... being a full time Mom & Dad is probably pretty tough
I wouldn't know, I don't think I want kids :[
I'd be a great father, I'm 100% positive of that, but I don't want to financial responsibilities/I would hate myself if anything went wrong and I was responsible.

However, my bro had a son in April so I'm a proud...uh...Uncle! lol...

His name is Jack and hes a MONSTER! I never knew I could be so amused by a baby.
Seriously when I let him sit on my leg facing me and I just hold him and make smiley faces at him I get a warm fuzzy feeling whenever he imitates me and smiles back.

Seriously, babies are awesome. Until they start crying.

I was laying down and he was sleeping on my chest (I was watching Oz in the living room while babysitting) and I guess he woke up and got hungry, because he was pissed.
Seriously, he was ****ing pissed off. He wasn't crying, he was screaming O_O
Then I stuck a bottle in his mouth and he was fine. Talk about a mood swing.

Pops · Aug 22, 2007

We teach our children what our values are and when they are mature enough,they will form their own values. We cannot live their lives for them and we cannot make their decisions for them.

It is very difficult to let your children go, and difficult to let them make a decision if we feel it is the wrong one. We all learned from our own mistakes and, hopefully, we can share some of those mistakes with them when they get older, so that they don't make the same ones that we did.

As a father of 4 adult children and a grandfather, I have found that the most important thing that you can give your children is your time, your attention and your love. If your kids know that you love them and that you will always make time for them, the rest is fairly easy.

mysta177 · Aug 22, 2007

nice thread....I have 2 boys 7 and 5 and they are a lifesaver. Who knows what route I would of went if not for them. I try and teach my kids respect and morals among others. My boys are diff in there own ways.....lol its kind of funny. I let them explore pretty much anything witch has made them pretty self effeciant. One thing that they do love to do together is to play Hack!
my youngest hacking it up in Venice

trouble · Aug 22, 2007

Cute picture mysta177, I have two boy's as well. When they were younger they always wanted to spend time with their old man and now that their getting older it's me that always wants to spend more time with them. My oldest went off to college last year & I got my youngest his first set of wheels & all he wants to do is chase the girls.

When they do somthing wrong or that I do not agree with I have always let them know it , but I have never been overly strict or harsh with them. I must admit that despite all of my imperfections & defects as a parent they are growing-up to be fine young men. My boy's will certainly be the best thing I leave behind when I depart from this old world one day.

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Guest · Aug 22, 2007

hello

great thread

I've got a 2.5 years old daughter
I'm waiting for my son to born in the following days ..... :smile:

much love and pride for your children, these are our future , our joy

:smile:

neur0n · Aug 22, 2007

im not a parent but i wanted to read this thread

and i had to pop in to says congrats on the one coming n good luck noideddroid

Chamba · Aug 22, 2007

having a child makes everything else that's happened in your life, no matter how much a highlight it seemed to be at the time, pale along way off into insignificance....well, to me anyway

saying you do not want to have kids due to financial reasons is an excuse, not a reason...some of the best & most balanced kids are raised by low to mid income families.....as mentioned before, it's all about love and time..not money....

(edit : and sacrifice!)

and of course not having an idiot box (TV) in the house helps..those things just dumbs a brain down and destroys free thought with it's nonsense and repetative stupidity.

teddybud · Aug 22, 2007

i have a god daughter that is a little over 2 years if that counts... I see her everyday.. she's young but she has been taught the diff from right and wrong me and her actual blood parents... best friends of mine for a long time, we put alot of time and thought into raising her... not watching all the mindless violence and stuff that turned me sour (in a sense) when I was young.. It'll be an intresting ride.

Old Man Time · Aug 22, 2007

Having children is the most rewarding experience life can offer. There are lessons in compassion, selflessness, and patience.
I have two children. Ive learned kids are smart....to hide anything from them only generates curiosity. That curiosity is what can lead to some problems.
There is no book on how to raise kids correctly. The only one who knows is you....you are their guide, mentor, and father. Its not easy all the time....but its at those times when they must know that you love them the most.

Guest · Aug 22, 2007

if nothing more my friends...teach your children that we all are one..for if humanity does not learn this it will never reach its potential and will always be controlled by sin(separation)....peace

mrwags · Aug 22, 2007

GREAT THREAD. I to have the same problem. Our hobby is great and all but for some of us it's illegal and how in the hell are ya gonna set a good example for your kids when you are breaking the law your own self? My little one is my best friend but I would NEVER share my hobby with her but the torment I have as she grows up is getting very very heavy and the time I feel is near of a path I must choose. Any more when the DARE guys come to school they hold up pictures and ask if they have seen any of these in their home and here lies my problem.

I over the years have spent each and every day teaching my shadow the act of respect and honesty. If you have these 2 things I told her the rest will follow,she has even gone as far to prove my teachings by telling me things she did wrong throughout the day and said she was sorry because she knows I will not scold but WE WILL DISCUSS the matter and then get a solution to ensure it never happens again calmly and collectively like adults should do

Bottom line if my kid is asked a question she will tell the truth and for better or worse if it is the truth I will be proud of her for doing so even if it sends me to prison for I am the one in the wrong not her and that is my deli ma.

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