WTF?should 13yr old be smokin pot w/ prnts

[SacredTHCRitual]

This needs to be repeated over and over again. This issue is not about the kid or any kids.

It's about the parents. When any parent makes the decision to give their kids permission to smoke cannabis in the house or in their presence, they automatically assume the consequences of their children being taking away, temporarily or permanently, from them if the Law finds out.

sad but very true. if it got to the wrong people it could get bad. Gotta teach your kids a bigger lesson that is when to keep your mouth shut

 

[HempKat]

Hopefully it goes without saying that should a parent allow their child to smoke at home and/or smoke with the parent, then all that information about security and what not goes along with it. Otherwise you're just getting wasted with your kid and doing nothing to prepare them for the future.

 

[kmk420kali]

That is definitely a case of child abuse! No friggin way would I do that. Those parents, IMO have given up being real parents. A child that age is very vulnerable, & impressionable. There needs to be barriers & boundaries, (no bongs!) I'm not going to write a book justifying my statement, but you only have one chance to raise a kid, & teach them to stay out of trouble. I would only look the other way if my son truly understands & is a legal adult capable of critical thinking.

My congratulations for being one of the rare Parents that has kids that NEVER lie to them...and has trust that EVERYTHING their kids do is within the set boundaries--
Otherwise, you are just worried about legal boundaries...and not your kids REAL welfare--
I won't say "Most"...but "Many" kids will choose to smoke...and there isn't a fucking thing you can do to stop them--
I would rather have an honest relationship with my kid...even if it meant they might have to hit me up on Visiting Days--
Maybe that will help them not do it...I don't fucking know--
We all have to face parenting our own ways-- Mine may not be Textbook...but it is mine--
No, I have never smoked with my 13 year old daughter (Mine is 12)...but I did smoke with my son, about a month before he turned 18--
I just can't see punishing my kid, for something I do...and fully believe is harmless--

 

[JJScorpio]

Here's my problem with this.

I teach my kids to tell the truth, and that's why I keep what I do away from them. If my kids were to be asked about my activities I want them to be able to tell the truth. I can't tell them to tell the truth about this, but when it comes to what "Dad" does, it's OK for you to lie. I also don't want to burden them with the pressure of keeping secrets and hiding things from their friends. They are young and I want them to have fun. I don't want them worrying about who can come over, who is cool or who not to trust with "our" secret.....

That's also the reason I don't grow at home any longer. If they were to find it I'd have to explain the entire thing to them and ask them to keep quiet about it. I don't want that pressure on them either. I want my kids to decide what they want to do on their own. If they knew what I did it would probably sway them to want to be like me. If and when they are old enough to be responsible for their actions I'll back them in what they want to do. But until then I don't want to be telling them what laws are bad and what laws are good. Then I'd be putting my beliefs on them........

 

[TruthOrLie]

I bet the dalai lama blazed all kinds of good herb when he was 13

 

[SmilinBob]

Seen an ad on tv that reminded me of this thread. The slogan was:

Parents who host, risk the most.

This ad was targeted at parents who buy alcohol for their children, because it's "safer" that way.

You figure it out.

 

[headband 707]

I think if my parents were into the herb and didn't tell me most of my life because they thought I couldn't handle it or keep my mouth shut then I would be disappointed in who my parents thought I was or how much I can deal with...No one wants a kid to have to hide or not have friends over ect. If it comes to my parents lying to me about who they really are that would effect me far more then what they were doing. It's also important to realize that not all kids can handle this but I would assume most can . Everyone understands when they get older that our parents are human and they can do things we might not do or understand but they are our parents and we love them irreguardless of the extra curricular.Not to mention the fact that they should be taught that cannabis is a medicine and it's used as such. Truth about everything is always helpful IMVHO.. peace out Headband707

 

[moresntoil]

Here's my problem with this.

I teach my kids to tell the truth, and that's why I keep what I do away from them. If my kids were to be asked about my activities I want them to be able to tell the truth. I can't tell them to tell the truth about this, but when it comes to what "Dad" does, it's OK for you to lie. I also don't want to burden them with the pressure of keeping secrets and hiding things from their friends. They are young and I want them to have fun. I don't want them worrying about who can come over, who is cool or who not to trust with "our" secret.....

That's also the reason I don't grow at home any longer. If they were to find it I'd have to explain the entire thing to them and ask them to keep quiet about it. I don't want that pressure on them either. I want my kids to decide what they want to do on their own. If they knew what I did it would probably sway them to want to be like me. If and when they are old enough to be responsible for their actions I'll back them in what they want to do. But until then I don't want to be telling them what laws are bad and what laws are good. Then I'd be putting my beliefs on them........

Hi jj

Very good point! I have never really considered the entire aspect of the children dealing with the pressure of what is "going on". I know I started growing when I was 14 and so that will be 21 years now
(off and on). and let me tell ya what, it completely stressed my life out at times! In fact, I think the stress its self has had a long term effect on me. Ofcourse thats not as much from the smking rather than the fact that is not legal in any way here.
So ya children should not have to deal with that until there older if they feel they have the nerves to handle it. and they choose to.
Who nows they may make that choice early like I did, but at the time I didnt realize what was at stake. Not saying I wish I hadnt just wish I was smarter about not getting noticed growing at such a young age.
Once your labled it sticks, makes life stressfull with anything you deside to do that you dont want noticed.
c-ya

 

[moresntoil]

Thanks hempkat! I was not awair of the hole timing out issue. good to know, I will not make that mistake again.

 

[HempKat]

Thanks hempkat! I was not awair of the hole timing out issue. good to know, I will not make that mistake again.

No problem, I've not gotten an official confirmation that's what that check box is for but ever since I started using it I haven't lost a post and I often take quite a while compossing posts. I believe it's sort of a soft security feature for people who might get distracted and forget they're logged in. If the system automatically disconnects after a certain period of inactivity then it wouldn't be possible for someone else to stumble across the login and access potentially sensitive info. Then again maybe it's just a way from keeping the server from being too bogged down?

 

[moresntoil]

My son has watched me do it his whole life, and has known about the grow since he was 9 or so.

everything is subjective and based on the individuals involved.
there is no 'arcoss the board age' answer to the problems presented in this thread.

I say the world needs less judging and more empathy.

Your right, when I was a teenager I had a friend that we all partied with. Only one problem, he had a 8yr old brother, that he got stuck watching for entire weekends at a time. He constantly threatened to narc us out if he couldnt smoke and drink with us, so my friends solution was to let him drink and smoke with us. That little man got messed up pretty good, on the ground drunk.
Feel bad about it now, but hell we where kids too so....

anyways, your right for each child you may have to handle it differently according to how there mindset is at that given time. psychology is not black and white. what might be right for one persons 16yr daughter may not be right for someones 18yr old son.

Myself I would not allow any of my children to smoke pot at 13 no matter how mature they are, and if they desided to smoke it anyway, then I would deal with it, in a very loving way ofcourse that may or may not work.

"I say the world needs less judging and more empathy"?
I could not disagree with that. generally speaking I try not to judge, but some times I know I do, and I think its fair to say MOST of us do time to time. However I do have alot of empathy for almost everyone. Some people have actually told me Im too empathetic, but I do not believe that.

Just my opinion, cya

 

[moresntoil]

No problem, I've not gotten an official confirmation that's what that check box is for but ever since I started using it I haven't lost a post and I often take quite a while compossing posts. I believe it's sort of a soft security feature for people who might get distracted and forget they're logged in. If the system automatically disconnects after a certain period of inactivity then it wouldn't be possible for someone else to stumble across the login and access potentially sensitive info. Then again maybe it's just a way from keeping the server from being too bogged down?

So maybe its a good thing!

 

[HempKat]

So maybe its a good thing!

Depends, if you're at a public place or at work, then yeah maybe. If you're at home though and nobody else is going to get on your computer, then it's kind of nusiance.

 

[kmk420kali]

Myself I would not allow any of my children to smoke pot at 13 no matter how mature they are, and if they desided to smoke it anyway, then I would deal with it, in a very loving way ofcourse that may or may not work.

This is what this whole thing is about--
How would you "Deal" with it...specifically--
They are already smoking...and you don't want them to-- How would you stop them??
And what would you do to them for "Disobeying"??

 

[Captain Ginyu]

My congratulations for being one of the rare Parents that has kids that NEVER lie to them...and has trust that EVERYTHING their kids do is within the set boundaries--
Otherwise, you are just worried about legal boundaries...and not your kids REAL welfare--
I won't say "Most"...but "Many" kids will choose to smoke...and there isn't a fucking thing you can do to stop them--
I would rather have an honest relationship with my kid...even if it meant they might have to hit me up on Visiting Days--
Maybe that will help them not do it...I don't fucking know--
We all have to face parenting our own ways-- Mine may not be Textbook...but it is mine--
No, I have never smoked with my 13 year old daughter (Mine is 12)...but I did smoke with my son, about a month before he turned 18--
I just can't see punishing my kid, for something I do...and fully believe is harmless--

Like I said "truly understands", ie: the kid knows how, when to keep mouth shut, the effects, possible consequences of getting caught, making responsible & informed decisions, shit like that!

 

[Hollaachu]

No

 

[mean mr.mustard]

I smoked at 13.

There wasn't one informed adult who told me anything pertinent about cannabis use at that age.

Parents or no parents, kids are going to do it.

Would you rather them do it away from your supervision?

To answer the question I would say if they are smoking it's better done with the parents in their house than somewhere else with someone else.

 

[@MOZZfEAr]

i think the girl is too young to be toking a weed ,the parents have a very liberal outlook on life and not considerating the legal aspects of their actions on themselfs .

 

[mean mr.mustard]

Or the fact that liberals go to hell.

 

[moresntoil]

This is what this whole thing is about--
How would you "Deal" with it...specifically--
They are already smoking...and you don't want them to-- How would you stop them??
And what would you do to them for "Disobeying"??

man the more I think about it, it is very hard to say how I would handle it. my children are young so we have not gottin to that point yet in life.
there are so many variables that may effect how I would respond such as,
maturity level
age
what other drugs they may or may not be using
how often
for what reason
what kind of friends they have
my wifes opinion(could be a huge factor)
how it may effect there brothers or sister
my opinion in years to come may change

If she was 13 and comes to me and asks if she can smoke pot with me I would try talking her out of it until she is older, if she persists I may try prolonging it as long as possible, if she smokes anyway I would not condem her or punish her but would try educating her more than I allready have and would keep a close eye on her activity and do my best to guide her through her younger years. I dont know, I think no matter how you handle it, either way, our children could end up having a good life or they may have a difficult life. If they smoke pot or not.
To tell you the truth part of me doesnt know what the hell Im gona do. Just being honest.

Just my opinion