Weed and women

[Gangabiss]

Chill out Biftaman. The girls can smell your desperation lol

Just don't let it get to you man, when it's supposed to happen it will happen. And if you're out and a bird sees you and decides she wants you, she will get you no problem.
Both my best mates met their girlfriends without having to do shit.

You need to go out to places where you'll meet like-minded people so you'll have a better chance of meeting a lass you'll connect with without having to put on a front.

Don't worry.

 

[Jack Crevalle]

most people i know have always met their girls in clubs/bars and i always gotta make the first move, they should be asking me questions instead god damnit.

THATS THE PROBLEM, bars are for lame chicks who no guys can stand...

You need to go out to places where you'll meet like-minded people so you'll have a better chance of meeting a lass you'll connect with without having to put on a front.

That's a great solution. Go to a co-ed football club and join. What better than talking football (the real one ) with a cutie who likes to stay in shape?

Good luck.

 

[Feyd]

Well I'm more of an introvert by nature, but when I am high I find it muchhhh more easy to talk to anyone, including girls. I wouldn't say I lose all of my inhibitions but I adopt more of a relaxed carefree mindset. I don't just walk up to a girl and start hitting on them though. If one is talking to me, I don't try and impress them or try and make the conversation more interesting due to their lack of having anything interesting to say ... all the time. It's whatever, and it seems to work better.

 

[BrainBoy]

Yeah I tend to be more socialble when I get a bit blazed. However I also look a bit squinty hahaha.

 

[georgexxx]

thing is, i've smoked for so long i'm introverted when i'm sober now too and always hyper-aware. when i was a lot younger i could talk to girls and have a larf with them but my brain has moulded into the stoned way of thinking, i'm always on edge when sober. weed chills me out some but sometimes it makes me over analyse shit and feel like the whole world is watching my every move.especially on the come up. i can talk to the ugly ones no problem cuz i don't care if they fuck me off but when there's a good looking chick giving me the come on i freeze. i just think ' what a fucking opportunity, i better not fuck this one up'. i need to change my thinking, i'll be an alcy in 5 years time i'm predicting.

Just realize you don't have to come up with something brilliant to say...usaually smoothly introducing yourself with a warm smile and eye contact is the best opening. IME. Just take it from there. Ask a question. Whatever. Just get her talkin. It doesnt matter what you say(to an extent), its how you say it and your tone/body language when saying it....again, in my experience.
Do you exercise regularly? I found that when my brain is slowin down, I'll go run...roll BJJ, whatever... just work up a serious sweat to clear your brain. Lifting weights gets that testosterone and then confidence up. Dressing nicer helps with confidence, and the woman will be more open to giving you a shot.


Hope this helps.

 

[Feyd]

I think the best advice with women in general is just be yourself. If you present yourself the way you do normally, it will pay off later on if you do hook up with a girl. If you try and act like somebody your not, embellish a whole lot or make things up in order to make a girl laugh or get her attention, you might end up regretting it.

But then again, I'm not sure if you are interested in a long-term relationship or you are just trying to get some pussy and don't really care what happens after that.

It's my belief that if I act the way I normally do with a friend, or around co-workers, or around my peers elsewhere, and I meet a girl and develop a relationship with her while acting myself--I am very lucky. Of course, being yourself doesn't mean ripping a fart in front of a girl you are trying to talk to, or flirtaciously flipping your hair out of your eyes when passing a joint to your best friend sitting next to you.

The way I look at it, your personality is made up of many different traits.
The way you talk to elderly people maybe be different then the way you talk to your friends, but its still YOU. The way you talk to a girl you are trying to be more than friends with is obviously going to be different then the way you are talking to a platonic friend (ie. no sexual desire friendship).

I'm probably not making sense, as I tend to ramble about things when I'm high or tired, so I hope I can just sum it all up with - Just be yourself, always, always, be yourself. Being comfortable in your own skin helps. If it doesn't work out and you are being yourself, then it wasn't meant to be.

 

[GOT_BUD?]

most people i know have always met their girls in clubs/bars and i always gotta make the first move, they should be asking me questions instead god damnit.

There's your issue. You'll never meet anyone worth a damn in a bar or club.

 

[Guest]

its weird for me. Sometimes smoking makes me really quiet, i just listen to everybody else's conversations. It lets me feel more at ease though just chillin doing nothing. It does make me lazy about approaching girls though.
Other times smoking just lets me say whats on my mind, though that can be a bad thing. It definitely has been bad before when i combine it with drinking and just sound like an idiot.

 

[QueenofGreen]

It wouldn't be so bad if the girls weren't THAT fine but the ones i'm REALLY obsessed with i always fuck up bad. gutted this one bird who i'd marry in a sec just from looking at her, i could tell she was really nice as well. wheres the rope lol.

Wow, you need to calm down. No girl is going to want to be a with a guy who sounds as desperate as you do in that post... I'm not trying to offend, but seriously. It also sounds to me like you're going way too much off looks... You say you want to marry a girl just by looking at her? You can't you want to spend the rest of your life with someone when you haven't even spoken with them.

 

[Guest]

Wow, you need to calm down. No girl is going to want to be a with a guy who sounds as desperate as you do in that post... I'm not trying to offend, but seriously. It also sounds to me like you're going way too much off looks... You say you want to marry a girl just by looking at her? You can't you want to spend the rest of your life with someone when you haven't even spoken with them.

I know looks aren't everything but it's just those love at first sight type things that i experience when i'm too high to string a sentence together, it's like that james blunt 'beautfiul' song lol.
i can go chat to em but i fumble my words up and run out of convo so i end up just telling them how great they are which they seem to find creepy. (and maybe i read too much into them when i think they keep looking at me and I think they might be interested when they're not)

i've only experienced couple girls that made my jaw drop and unable to take my eyes off and both times i was high as a muthafucka but they seemed really polite and nice when i attempted to talk to them but i'd just walk away in embarrassment.
i think i'm jumping in the deep end though i guess.
i think i'm aiming too high as most of the attractive ones need a lot of maintenance and some successful carreer man and are all up their own behinds.
i going to find a nice normal lady i don't find stunning but i can get on with and not give a shit if she rejects me.

Bars and stuff probably are the wrong place to look but my town is fucking shit with no social events just fucking pubs/bars nothing else. but i've given up looking now anyway and don't care anymore, i'll just keep jacking off if i have to!
i'm trying too hard i now know that. what has been said about being myself sounds like the solution, i think having the thought of a possible relationship ruins it, i need to to try and picture them as i would my friend or sister or something and just chat to them normally instead of thinking of good things to say and building my hopes up.

some great replies which i appreciate a lot which have made me look at things in a more rounded perspective so thanks a lot.

 

[Duder]

good thread, hehe

 

[wordtree]

do not think about thinking
do not think, do.

 

[Guest]

don't you find these sluts in bars just expect you to be some fucking clown or comedian and you have to do all the work and they look at you as if you haven't got the right to be in their presence unless you got a huge cock or can dance like fucking mj? like biss and jack suggested i need to go somehwere where i can find like minded people but the culture in england is just work go to pub bar and go home it;s so fucking lame. i've met nice down to earth girls in foreign countries but this alcohol fuelled bollox pisses me off i'm emeigrating soon as i can or moving to a big city with a variety of people.
and yeah wordtree i think i do just think too much, i'm cutting down on weed for time being so i can stop over thinking about these uselss types. i think weed makes you see many pictures and over ophisticate stuff which your average numb bar type person can't grasp.

i don't blame the weed at all, i think it's just the clash of substances, and ways of thinking i guess. i love the herb i just feel i need to cut down if i'm going to attempt to fit in. i just want some fun for the time being nothing too serious.

 

[Snug]

its threads like this that make me happy i found a girl who smokes.if she dont smoke then on to the next!their plenty out their just find the one who is right for you.

 

[Jack Crevalle]

Bars and stuff probably are the wrong place to look but my town is ****ing shit with no social events just ****ing pubs/bars nothing else. but i've given up looking now anyway and don't care anymore, i'll just keep jacking off if i have to!

One of my close friends from the US was in your situation up until a year ago. I've known him for close to 10 years and never saw him with a chick. There was one girl who he would do anything for including fixing up her expensive hot rod just to get her to see him once every other month, even then she would just play him. This is socal and you better have your ducks in a row to meet the hotties.

He has high standards like you, but in his hometown he is the average Joe in the looks department. He is a bit short, kinda balding, but an overall OK good looking Scottish kid in his 30s. Well, I kept telling him he needed to go back with me to south america or any latin country, so I could show him what he was missing.

Well last years he grew balls and bought a ticket to Spain, by himself. Got there, went out at night to a club, and first week there he had already hooked up with 2 different chicks, and is in a long distance relionship with one. The thing is, in richer, anglo countries, the dating thing is way harder. There are alot of fat chicks, most want to meet all your friends and "get to know you better" before they kiss, and the other half want to see $$$, because so many people have $$$. Down there in 3rd world countries, people see you for who you are, not for your $ first. I'm sure it also helps to be a gringo and have $, but I guarantee you chicks are more approachable. I feel you man..

 

[Guest]

yeah it's the ones i really find gorgeous that i have trouble with. i'm not gonna try so hard and i'll let come to me instead if they're that interested, otherwise they're not worth my time. but then again that's probably their mentality. i don't think me and bars go, at least the way things work in them. i enjoy the music scene though so i'll just go out with the boys for a good larf instaed of wondering if i'll meet some top lady. i'm done with trying to impress. i'll just smile at them instead of approaching them, unless they eyeball me too much then i'll say 'wot you staring at, would you like something?' lol.

 

[Jack Crevalle]

Humans are most attracted to what they can't have.
I truly believe in that. Treat 'em like they can't have it..

 

[Guest]

One of my close friends from the US was in your situation up until a year ago. I've known him for close to 10 years and never saw him with a chick. There was one girl who he would do anything for including fixing up her expensive hot rod just to get her to see him once every other month, even then she would just play him. This is socal and you better have your ducks in a row to meet the hotties.

He has high standards like you, but in his hometown he is the average Joe in the looks department. He is a bit short, kinda balding, but an overall OK good looking Scottish kid in his 30s. Well, I kept telling him he needed to go back with me to south america or any latin country, so I could show him what he was missing.

Well last years he grew balls and bought a ticket to Spain, by himself. Got there, went out at night to a club, and first week there he had already hooked up with 2 different chicks, and is in a long distance relionship with one. The thing is, in richer, anglo countries, the dating thing is way harder. There are alot of fat chicks, most want to meet all your friends and "get to know you better" before they kiss, and the other half want to see $$$, because so many people have $$$. Down there in 3rd world countries, people see you for who you are, not for your $ first. I'm sure it also helps to be a gringo and have $, but I guarantee you chicks are more approachable. I feel you man..

I've been to Spain but the resorts I've been to are filled with the same silly whores as most bars in the UK. I'll think i'll visit somewhere where there's not too many fellow country-women. Chicks here in the UK expect you to have the great job, the fancy almost camp like clothes greased up hair and fast kitted up car, i guess i'm generalisng too much but yeah i need to visit somewhere where the general attitude is more real. and your right there's way too many fat girls in these countries, and they wear stuff that makes it all ooze out too. have some dignity woman! thanks for ya 2cents anyway bro that makes sense

p.s, what a gringo sorry, a latin person?

 

[Guest]

Humans are most attracted to what they can't have.
I truly believe in that. Treat 'em like they can't have it..

You understand my pain Jack! They wanna play hard to get? I can do Bobby Brown!

 

[Guest]

This is what i have been getting lately, 'you are good person absolute gentalman, that likes to do very bad things :O'. And i thought smoking huge blunts in public was a "GOOD THING"

I guess some gals just can't hang :O