Weed and women

[Guest]

Does weed make you more introverted and unable to think of things to talk about? I've had many situations where I've lost the opportunity with girls because i was high. they'd appear keen and wanting me to approach them and I'd be a bit stoned when approaching them and I'd come off as an introverted no confidence loser or I'd say something and it wouldn't make much sense and feel really awkward and anxious.
I think I'm going to take a long break till i get a nice girl, another thing i don't think i've ever met a very attractive stoner girl, it seems as though weed is a turn off for a lot of girls. am i just a sad fuck or what? I don't think weed is for me to be honest.
i love it though and sometimes it makes me creative and i can think of things to say but sometimes i mix it with alcohol in the clubs and i can't get the balance right and i feel edgy so i drink lots and end up slurring and too drunk anyway. i'd love to be one of those types who can be happy without either. i just had to vent, thankyou.

p.s i think it's just underlying problems to be honest and i smoke too much at one time, ill get over it.

 

[Guest]

If it wasn't for weed, I wouldn't be able to deal with the handful of immature biatches life has thrown at me.

 

[Guest]

yeah i think weed makes you content with what u got and takes away any boredom. it's been a fecking long while but having a little break made me realise i really need a girlfriend. if all else fails i'll just head to the rld in amsterdam.

 

[Closet Funk]

I could care less if a lady thought I was high. The way I see it she isn't the one for me if she don't smoke. Be yourself man.

 

[teddybud]

bifta have you ever thought that finding the right girl doesn't exist... if your soul mates out there then she will be pulled to you... don't waste you energy, time , and brain looking for the right girl.. cause it just don't happen that way... it'll end in pain... take time let her find you..

 

[Tarkus]

Man, I am so glad daisy smokes and likes almost everything I do (except onions, but I can forgive her for that...).
I think being high helped me out with the ladies. Let me be myself, and be relaxed around them, not really caring either way if anything happened or not.

 

[Guest]

some cool responses thanks dudes. Yeah i guess i just think too much, it's just that everytime i meet an amazing girl i'm too high or high/drunk and dwell on what i could've done or said different had i been a little more sober. i'm quite shy too i think i just got the blues or low esteem or something, i'll just have stop being such a bitch and go with the flow.
it just pisses me off that your'e always expected to make the first move. time for a joint.

 

[georgexxx]

Yeah bro, its all about confidence. But cannabis defnitely makes you more introverted. But realize that, and don't smoke as much when you are about to go out...keep you chill and laid back, without being stupid/slow.

 

[Guest]

Yeah, Bif, the way the game works is all screwed up, and the worst part is that you have no choice but to play it 99% of the time.

 

[Jack Crevalle]

I found USA to be the same way as where you're at (uk im guessing?), chicks are just weird to approach if you don't know them, it ain't the herb bro. I recently travelled to different countries and it was a kiss-first ask questions later atmosphere. I'd say travel to a few latin countries where there are more women than men, and they're not all obese and crooky teethed neither. You'll have a fine time and meet real chicks who don't need to be impressed by a nicer BMW than the other dudes...
peace

 

[Guest]

Yeah bro, its all about confidence. But cannabis defnitely makes you more introverted. But realize that, and don't smoke as much when you are about to go out...keep you chill and laid back, without being stupid/slow.

thing is, i've smoked for so long i'm introverted when i'm sober now too and always hyper-aware. when i was a lot younger i could talk to girls and have a larf with them but my brain has moulded into the stoned way of thinking, i'm always on edge when sober. weed chills me out some but sometimes it makes me over analyse shit and feel like the whole world is watching my every move.especially on the come up. i can talk to the ugly ones no problem cuz i don't care if they fuck me off but when there's a good looking chick giving me the come on i freeze. i just think ' what a fucking opportunity, i better not fuck this one up'. i need to change my thinking, i'll be an alcy in 5 years time i'm predicting.

 

[Guest]

I found USA to be the same way as where you're at (uk im guessing?), chicks are just weird to approach if you don't know them, it ain't the herb bro. I recently travelled to different countries and it was a kiss-first ask questions later atmosphere. I'd say travel to a few latin countries where there are more women than men, and they're not all obese and crooky teethed neither. You'll have a fine time and meet real chicks who don't need to be impressed by a nicer BMW than the other dudes...
peace

yeah it's fucking system ain't it! weed makes u see the shit for what it really is! kiss first ask questions later sounds more up my street

 

[Storm Crow]

Hon, relax!

Hon, relax!

Most folks feel that weed is a social lubricant- it makes talking easier. You are still you, high or not! And I'm willing to bet, you're a nice guy. Most pot heads are good people. So just relax and be yourself. Go up and give her a compliment! "That's a cool necklace/blouse/shoes. My sister's birthday is coming up in a while. Where did you get it?" (You have just made yourself out as a man with good taste in jewelry/clothing and a loving brother- which tells her you are a caring person and worth talking to!) And take it from there!

And about that "never met an attractive stoner girl" - stop looking at just their beauty or lack of it. Looks don't last- personality does! Talk to one of those "less than fashion model beautiful" stoner girls. You will find she is likely more intelligent, funnier and more appreciative of your attention, than a prettier gal! Plus you can be honest about your toking with a stoner gal- nothing better than lighting up with someone you love! And something I've noticed- mixed (drug) marriages seldom work. A toker and a non-toker have a rougher time of it. So you a lot better off with a toking sweetie! - Granny (married for 40 years- and one of those less than perfect stoner gals)

 

[stretchpup]

You think too much to begin with it sounds like, which is a buzzkill for any hot women and most women in general.

Then while high, it compounds even more.

Paralyzation through over-analyzation.

There are methods out there to get you out of your shell and more extroverted. Like anything else it's work. The more you do it the better you get at it. The more women you approach and talk to, the better you get at it. Crash and burn a few times (or 100), so what, just some girl at the bar/club/street...

Eventually you build up the confidence and attitude that screams "I don't give a shit what anyone thinks about me" and it shows in your personality, from the way you talk to the way you walk. This builds attraction.

Not giving a shit about the world around you can be attractive to a lot of women. You know that fun-loving guy who is laid back and doesn't have a care in the world... he's always surrounded by a group of people.

Meeting "real chicks" won't make you successful if your inner beliefs and your reality is not strong. On a completely UN-superficial level, the stronger your reality than hers = attraction.

 

[QueenofGreen]

You think too much to begin with it sounds like, which is a buzzkill for any hot women and most women in general.

Then while high, it compounds even more.

Paralyzation through over-analyzation.

That's what I was thinking. Being stoned or not it sounds like you're over analyzing everything. You need to just chill out when you talk to chicks and instead of thinking "Man, what a great opportunity for me to be with this gilr" you should be thinking, "Man, what a great opportunity this girl has to be with me." I'm not saying be super-cocky, but you have to have some self-confidence.

As far as hot stoner chicks, maybe you're just not looking in the right places? But the truth is you can't rush into finding a relationship; if you do the one you get probably won't last. Maybe f you gave up the hunt for a chick one will find it's way to you. Life works like that.

Oh,and I feel you on the mixing weed with alcohol thing. I sometimes have problems like that, which is why I don't drink too often. But if you know you're going to go out a drink then maybe don't smoke. It's better to be stoned then drunk though if you're worried about making a fool of yourself. ;p

 

[Guest]

yeah i guess. i don't have problems attracting them it's just keeping them attracted. as soon as i speak they get turned off. i think they sense the anxiety. i try too hard.

Oh and Jack I'd love a dark haired latin girl but the problem is most of them in europe only speak spanish/portuguese. I'll grow up and get a set of balls eventually. thanks everyone

 

[Guest]

Most folks feel that weed is a social lubricant- it makes talking easier. You are still you, high or not! And I'm willing to bet, you're a nice guy. Most pot heads are good people. So just relax and be yourself. Go up and give her a compliment! "That's a cool necklace/blouse/shoes. My sister's birthday is coming up in a while. Where did you get it?" (You have just made yourself out as a man with good taste in jewelry/clothing and a loving brother- which tells her you are a caring person and worth talking to!) And take it from there!

And about that "never met an attractive stoner girl" - stop looking at just their beauty or lack of it. Looks don't last- personality does! Talk to one of those "less than fashion model beautiful" stoner girls. You will find she is likely more intelligent, funnier and more appreciative of your attention, than a prettier gal! Plus you can be honest about your toking with a stoner gal- nothing better than lighting up with someone you love! And something I've noticed- mixed (drug) marriages seldom work. A toker and a non-toker have a rougher time of it. So you a lot better off with a toking sweetie! - Granny (married for 40 years- and one of those less than perfect stoner gals)

i'm thinking though maybe it would be a lot easier to not smoke and find a bird who doesn't smoke than to remain a toker, i'm umming and ahhing about quitting. i'm quite sure i wouldn't be single if i didn't smoke as i was outgoing before i started smoking.

 

[Guest]

bifta have you ever thought that finding the right girl doesn't exist... if your soul mates out there then she will be pulled to you... don't waste you energy, time , and brain looking for the right girl.. cause it just don't happen that way... it'll end in pain... take time let her find you..

most people i know have always met their girls in clubs/bars and i always gotta make the first move, they should be asking me questions instead god damnit.

 

[killa-bud]

it'ed have to depened on the weed, if its a strong couch lock indica,no,i sound like an asshole, strong sativa,also no,i sound like a parinoid asshole, nice mild day time smoke,sure no problem

 

[Guest]

It wouldn't be so bad if the girls weren't THAT fine but the ones i'm REALLY obsessed with i always fuck up bad. gutted this one bird who i'd marry in a sec just from looking at her, i could tell she was really nice as well. wheres the rope lol.