Damn girl scouts came knocking on the door last night after 9PM. I was tempted to break my rule for some of those cookies, but I held back....
...be friendly and "neighborly", deceptive and manipulative. you don't have to follow the rules if he isn't going to. that would be like traditional against guerilla warfare.
It's all really terrible, but it kind of sounds like this dude might be kind of chill and his wife is just a crazy psycho bitch. He probably had to quit growing because his wife hated it, and when she smelled it she knew. She made her husband quit, then when she found out you were growing she was pissed, because she's a mean bitch. So she told everyone and called the cops. Now her husband knows she's a bitch, and he's actually a good guy, but there's nothing he can do. He can't leave her either way, but he doesn't want you to get fucked over, so he comes over and warns you. That's the way it seems to me. In my book, that's a really good outcome compared to the alternative.