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Of Disciplining Children
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strandloper
Don't hit a eleven year old boy. That's too old for a spanking.
Would you spank his behind ? I think he would laugh at you .
And if you hit him anywhere else than you will only piss him off.
Reason with him. That's what he needs to be taught
Would you spank his behind ? I think he would laugh at you .
And if you hit him anywhere else than you will only piss him off.
Reason with him. That's what he needs to be taught
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How do you suggest reasoning with a child who doesn't listen and does whatever he wants? I am not being sarcastic at all and I am actually all ears to suggestions or practical protocol.
I can count on one hand the times I have spanked 4 kids over 10 years, as I mentioned verbal correction is all my other kids need at this point.
Take away all of his things like a prison? What if he takes them back? I can ground him to his room but what if he just leaves? Explain that it is wrong to disobey his mother and if he decides he doesn't care? To me my goal as a parent is to teach the kids how to make smart decisions, sometimes you make a bad one thats how you learn.
Practical explanations for discipline would be great in this thread, however your thoughts.
We all want to be great parents so im all ears. I also have a 39 year old cousin who still lives with his mother, calls her every name in the book and begs her for hours for money everyday for weed. Would anyone be opposed to me giving him a pop?
I imagine swedish parents are very different from southern usa
Who knows the "curl" where you try to bend to get that belt to kinda wrap around you instead of a full on smack
I tried the multiple pant thing a time or two also hehehe, sometimes you did shit and knew you were riskin it!
Yo strand he already laughs at his mom, I cant even imagine telling my mom i wasnt going to clean a room and saying whatever to her after she said excuse me!
If it was someone elses kid id laugh my ass off, getting a lill jerry springer if ya ask me!
I can count on one hand the times I have spanked 4 kids over 10 years, as I mentioned verbal correction is all my other kids need at this point.
Take away all of his things like a prison? What if he takes them back? I can ground him to his room but what if he just leaves? Explain that it is wrong to disobey his mother and if he decides he doesn't care? To me my goal as a parent is to teach the kids how to make smart decisions, sometimes you make a bad one thats how you learn.
Practical explanations for discipline would be great in this thread, however your thoughts.
We all want to be great parents so im all ears. I also have a 39 year old cousin who still lives with his mother, calls her every name in the book and begs her for hours for money everyday for weed. Would anyone be opposed to me giving him a pop?
I imagine swedish parents are very different from southern usa
Who knows the "curl" where you try to bend to get that belt to kinda wrap around you instead of a full on smack
I tried the multiple pant thing a time or two also hehehe, sometimes you did shit and knew you were riskin it!
Yo strand he already laughs at his mom, I cant even imagine telling my mom i wasnt going to clean a room and saying whatever to her after she said excuse me!
If it was someone elses kid id laugh my ass off, getting a lill jerry springer if ya ask me!
spend more time with them.
I get that and we actually have a great relationship, we do stuff as a family all the time and me and him go out all the time too.Especially being a blended family from other relationships I have been mindful of that from the start, these kids have called me dad for a long time now. I know the importance of children having security and feeling loved. The kids are not punished with corporal punishment often like i said a few times in a decade. Maybe thats why he doesnt pull the crap with me , maybe she needs to spend more time too. One time when I was 14-5 I was working with my uncle and I had been fighting with my aunt at the time who I felt was being oppressive and he asked me why i thought she was being like that and I blurted out "cuz shes a bitch" I got the same backhand. I don't feel abused by it now, but i learned at the time not to use disrespectful language toward adults, for sure. I dont know if he had time to reason with me we were hauling shit out of a catch basin with coffee cans and five gallon buckets... lol
all my post count coulda been time spent schoolin the chibs
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strandloper
My mother was old school British raised by her grandmother on the family farm. She no problem hitting me. It didnt stop me being be defiant though. It just made less respectful of authority.
I highly recommend a book called :
"Non Violent Communication , a Language of Life". By Marshall Rosenberg
It can teach you ways to communicate with your son that he will respond positively to.
I highly recommend a book called :
"Non Violent Communication , a Language of Life". By Marshall Rosenberg
It can teach you ways to communicate with your son that he will respond positively to.
I was born in the '50s, a whole different mindset back then, "spare the rod and spoil the child." When dad wanted to get my attention he strapped me with his leather belt, when he wanted to hurt me I got the buckle, thank God he didn't ride rodeo or drive truck.
it didn't do much good though, when he shipped me off to a military academy a few years later I was toughed up enough already that they (NYMA) invited me not to come back.......
I guess this is the way you do it these days
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Id rather get my ass beat than have my ps4 broken.it took me months to earn platinum trophy on The Last of Us dammit!
Interesting convo.
I got my ass beat as a child when I was disrespectful toward my parents. I think I turned out OK but like Amanda... I think I may just be terrified of having my own children.
@Tony, your comment about wanting to teach your children to make good decisions is right on point. That, my friend, is your only job as a parent.
Getting the 11yr old to respect his mothers wishes may be a challenge if she hasn't placed herself as an Authority. If she's been on equal ground with the children, they see her more as an equal rather than an Authority over the household.
Respect is more powerful than punishment.
Both go hand in hand, IMO.
I got my ass beat as a child when I was disrespectful toward my parents. I think I turned out OK but like Amanda... I think I may just be terrified of having my own children.
@Tony, your comment about wanting to teach your children to make good decisions is right on point. That, my friend, is your only job as a parent.
Getting the 11yr old to respect his mothers wishes may be a challenge if she hasn't placed herself as an Authority. If she's been on equal ground with the children, they see her more as an equal rather than an Authority over the household.
Respect is more powerful than punishment.
Both go hand in hand, IMO.
Another thought...
Remove the gaming console from his possession and let him use it only as a reward for his good behavior.
Once he starts showing some respect, limit his time on the console.
If he's gaming online, he's probably gaming with a bunch of adolescent adults that act just like him.
Remove the gaming console from his possession and let him use it only as a reward for his good behavior.
Once he starts showing some respect, limit his time on the console.
If he's gaming online, he's probably gaming with a bunch of adolescent adults that act just like him.
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bigganjabud
That's a real good idea introducing a barter system
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Crotchety Old Crotch
We rarely did - our kids are grown men now, and we've talked to them about what they remember. Both couldn't think of a time, as we tended to go with loss of toy / no tv / no friends over / stay in their room, over corporal punishment.
There's a fine line between a spanking & a beating - I got both as young man and didn't want our children to have the same memories.
Our kids turned out A+, and that's not just our opinion. Well behaved, polite, socially extroverted and popular. Must have done something right.
There's a fine line between a spanking & a beating - I got both as young man and didn't want our children to have the same memories.
Our kids turned out A+, and that's not just our opinion. Well behaved, polite, socially extroverted and popular. Must have done something right.
Never too young to feed em pickled herring, lest they forget...
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Baron Greenback
I will never raise my hand to my child, he shouldn't have to fear me. I don't think it is ever right to hit a child, if you have to resort to violence then you have failed in your duties as a parent. You have no idea what psychological damage hitting them will do, will it then pass on a mentality of "might is right"?
As all of us on this forum are probably heavy smokers and as such should be a lot more chilled out than non smokers, violence should never be on the agenda (and even a slap on the arse is violence, do not conflate it with discipline, it's ruling by fear). If you cannot use things like the deprivation of technology, grounding and the suchlike then there is a lack of respect from your child that needs to be adressed as a matter of urgency.
The argument of "Oh, I was battered from pillar to post and it never did me any harm" is utterly specious - how do you know? If you still remember it, then it did do you harm, it impacted upon you psychologically.
There are innumerable grown adults who would benefit from having 7 shades of shit kicked out of them, but a child who is learning their place in life is not one of those grown adults and if you - as the guiding light/role model in their lives - cannot engender respect then the likelihood is that the problem is with you, not the child.
As all of us on this forum are probably heavy smokers and as such should be a lot more chilled out than non smokers, violence should never be on the agenda (and even a slap on the arse is violence, do not conflate it with discipline, it's ruling by fear). If you cannot use things like the deprivation of technology, grounding and the suchlike then there is a lack of respect from your child that needs to be adressed as a matter of urgency.
The argument of "Oh, I was battered from pillar to post and it never did me any harm" is utterly specious - how do you know? If you still remember it, then it did do you harm, it impacted upon you psychologically.
There are innumerable grown adults who would benefit from having 7 shades of shit kicked out of them, but a child who is learning their place in life is not one of those grown adults and if you - as the guiding light/role model in their lives - cannot engender respect then the likelihood is that the problem is with you, not the child.
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Geez Tony, I just wrote a long response to your important question and the system swallowed it. Gotta go to work now. I'll try later. Greatly appreciate the respect shown by everyone commenting here.
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strandloper
"Wrong do it again!", "If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding! How can you have any pudding if you don't eat you meat!!"" You, yes, you behind the bike sheds, stand still laddy !"
