whateverman
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It's normal to get emotionally devastated when a truth is told, and you have no realistic shot of achieving the means to that truth.
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no kids, feeling empty?
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It's normal to get emotionally devastated when a truth is told, and you have no realistic shot of achieving the means to that truth.
odogyouknow
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That response is about as twacked out as your name
CoCoSativas
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Coke vs. Pepsi all over again, different actors.
Doing a good job raising kids is like anything else, you can do a half ass job if you don't care about the outcome. Any job worth doing is worth doing right.
QUOTE=white Jamaican;7020156]no they dont. courts despise anyone that smokes or uses drugs unless they are sick . most men try to do "dirt" not in front of women and that creates issues for all people because it creates separate personalities for the children . the kid that watches a fight is guaranteed to come out different then the one who only ever hears stories about fights. neither personality is helpful any where in all of life. fights have to be natural and the reason why needs to be understood by all of the observers not explained to them . most women's idea of men is the person who explains the situation the best which leads to men using drugs that allow them to talk or think for longer periods of time then people not on drugs which leads to women hurting themselves by trying to keep up or hurting men in other ways by forcing placebo chasing games into there lives.[/QUOTE]
Doing a good job raising kids is like anything else, you can do a half ass job if you don't care about the outcome. Any job worth doing is worth doing right.
QUOTE=white Jamaican;7020156]no they dont. courts despise anyone that smokes or uses drugs unless they are sick . most men try to do "dirt" not in front of women and that creates issues for all people because it creates separate personalities for the children . the kid that watches a fight is guaranteed to come out different then the one who only ever hears stories about fights. neither personality is helpful any where in all of life. fights have to be natural and the reason why needs to be understood by all of the observers not explained to them . most women's idea of men is the person who explains the situation the best which leads to men using drugs that allow them to talk or think for longer periods of time then people not on drugs which leads to women hurting themselves by trying to keep up or hurting men in other ways by forcing placebo chasing games into there lives.[/QUOTE]
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Part of me admires people who decide not to have children, it might not be for altruistic reasons but they are not bringing another mouth into an already overcrowded planet with an uncertain future.
Having said that, I adore my son, he is the best thing I have ever done. Yes, your life will change but if you have made the choice to have a child then you are somewhat prepared for that change. There's no more staying out all night, getting shitfaced as and when you want, shagging around probably stops too but the love you get back and give to your child is unconditional and more than makes up for all of the things you have to stop doing.
The other thing to bear in mind is the undeniable power of the biological clock ticking for a woman; there may well come a time that she really wants a child and you may have to decide whether you do too, or if you are prepared to lose that person, or to live with them resenting you for not having a family.
There is also the biological imperative; we are animals and one of our drivers is to reproduce, it is utterly natural.
Obviously don't have children if you are a moron who won't care, will abuse them or worse.
Ultimately, it is your choice, no-one will judge you for deciding to remain childless and to be honest, sometimes you will get parents looking at you thinking "You lucky fucker, I've had no sleep in weeks and my child is being a little shit" (and then the child smiles at you, gives you a cuddle and all is well in the world
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Having said that, I adore my son, he is the best thing I have ever done. Yes, your life will change but if you have made the choice to have a child then you are somewhat prepared for that change. There's no more staying out all night, getting shitfaced as and when you want, shagging around probably stops too but the love you get back and give to your child is unconditional and more than makes up for all of the things you have to stop doing.
The other thing to bear in mind is the undeniable power of the biological clock ticking for a woman; there may well come a time that she really wants a child and you may have to decide whether you do too, or if you are prepared to lose that person, or to live with them resenting you for not having a family.
There is also the biological imperative; we are animals and one of our drivers is to reproduce, it is utterly natural.
Obviously don't have children if you are a moron who won't care, will abuse them or worse.
Ultimately, it is your choice, no-one will judge you for deciding to remain childless and to be honest, sometimes you will get parents looking at you thinking "You lucky fucker, I've had no sleep in weeks and my child is being a little shit" (and then the child smiles at you, gives you a cuddle and all is well in the world
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Tripsick you are right, but you didn't go far enough. Life is a blur.
It's like going down a steep mountain with no brakes, picking up more and more speed and then a sudden stop at the end.
That's why you may as well roll one and enjoy the ride while you're at it.
It's like going down a steep mountain with no brakes, picking up more and more speed and then a sudden stop at the end.
That's why you may as well roll one and enjoy the ride while you're at it.
never wanted kids.
one of many reasons is that i don't want to add another inmate to this global slave labor camp.
many of my friends have kids and (in small doses) they are a TON of fun - just pure energy and joy. but also insanely hard work.
be prepared to work 24/7 for at least 5 years. be prepared to go months without any one-on-one time with your partner. if you're fond of uninterrupted sleep, you might have to reconsider for a few years.
yes, i can totally understand that parenthood is a life-changing experience that is unmatched by anything else on this planet, but like all experiences it comes at a price.
for me, that price is WAY too high.
i'm content and happy as it is, so no reason for me to spin the wheel.
also a general observation: if there are any selfish reasons at all for wanting kids, it's most likely going to be a nightmare.
being a parent is all about selflessness.
one of many reasons is that i don't want to add another inmate to this global slave labor camp.
many of my friends have kids and (in small doses) they are a TON of fun - just pure energy and joy. but also insanely hard work.
be prepared to work 24/7 for at least 5 years. be prepared to go months without any one-on-one time with your partner. if you're fond of uninterrupted sleep, you might have to reconsider for a few years.
yes, i can totally understand that parenthood is a life-changing experience that is unmatched by anything else on this planet, but like all experiences it comes at a price.
for me, that price is WAY too high.
i'm content and happy as it is, so no reason for me to spin the wheel.
also a general observation: if there are any selfish reasons at all for wanting kids, it's most likely going to be a nightmare.
being a parent is all about selflessness.
In the end, everyone must face death alone. No matter how many folks are with you, you are leaving them behind as you enter the unknown. I'm at peace with that.
I wouldn't mind having kids if the world was more like how I remembered it when I was a kid. The way it is now though I'm very glad to not have children.
When I was a kid I could play out in the summer sun for hours and at worse I would get a slight sunburn now I have to use SPF 30 suntan lotion (back in my youth this was known as sun block) or I'll fry and have a horrible sunburn after just an hour or two.
Back in my youth it was safe for kids to run around neighborhoods by themselves with no fear of predators. Now a days, not so much.
Back in my youth you had maybe one or two bullies in school and fights were settled in one on one fist fights. Now a days if you say the wrong thing to anyone you might get shot even in school. Hell you might even get shot for doing nothing at all since nut jobs looking to go on a murderous rampage seem to frequently target schools.
It's just a much less safe world then it was back when I was a kid and there is no indication it's going to get any better.
When I was a kid I could play out in the summer sun for hours and at worse I would get a slight sunburn now I have to use SPF 30 suntan lotion (back in my youth this was known as sun block) or I'll fry and have a horrible sunburn after just an hour or two.
Back in my youth it was safe for kids to run around neighborhoods by themselves with no fear of predators. Now a days, not so much.
Back in my youth you had maybe one or two bullies in school and fights were settled in one on one fist fights. Now a days if you say the wrong thing to anyone you might get shot even in school. Hell you might even get shot for doing nothing at all since nut jobs looking to go on a murderous rampage seem to frequently target schools.
It's just a much less safe world then it was back when I was a kid and there is no indication it's going to get any better.
no use for rugrats... yeehaw..1 son and DONE !!!!!.. if she hadn't of tricked me ,,,even he wouldn't of been born...he doesn't know that ,,but he was born out of love anyhow....mid 20s now...I might have a child from banging a lesbian in maine too..she just wanted my sperm and done...
are you Fvcking insane? the biggest regret in my life was having my kid. crazy bish lied and stopped taking the pill and trapped me. i hate kids, I have everything about them. always making noise, ruining all your things, you'll never get any sleep just to name a few things. and your gonna be BROKE!!!!!
just remember this you have ZERO say in anything pertaining to her decision on keeping it or not. your on the back seat on this and a lot of other decisions. I haven't slept with my fiancé in over a year until I get my boys snipped. id rather not even have sex if it guarantees me never to have another one.
id rather have a cat, and I think cats are the most worthless animal in the world besides rats.
and I have to lease a commercial spot to grow my medicine in. woo hoo, another 800.00 a month PLUS insurance.
just remember this you have ZERO say in anything pertaining to her decision on keeping it or not. your on the back seat on this and a lot of other decisions. I haven't slept with my fiancé in over a year until I get my boys snipped. id rather not even have sex if it guarantees me never to have another one.
id rather have a cat, and I think cats are the most worthless animal in the world besides rats.
and I have to lease a commercial spot to grow my medicine in. woo hoo, another 800.00 a month PLUS insurance.
Soldiers are better without women and kids
I break a lot of legs to make Christmas happen for my girlfriends son. I'd literally have taken a bullet for him some holidays. Just so that he can read a little better, have more fun and not have to deal with what's coming, quite as soon.
He's not my kid, but I think of them as a kind of family. Friends. Something like that.
