Need advice...grandparents hoarding my kids

[Swampdankv2]

I am taking the high road for sure. I spoke to the ex and remained cordial. I stressed to her that I don't, nor will I ever, verbally bash her in front of our children. If my kids are anything like me, they will be quite keen on reality and read between the lines.

I don't want them brainwashed. This has been happening too. My daughter snuck and called me and told me "mommy says you don't love me or my brother". I couldn't help but laugh. I confirmed that she knew that was bullshit. She knows I have been there every day of both their lives. I wiped their asses and cleaned snot, vomit. I have been there for all of it. So, in the end, they will know the truth.

I agree. I need to be near them as much as possible. The ex moved my kids to another town a distance away.this makes it hard. She took our car, among other things. I don't want to veer too far off topic but she basically sold every thing I owned. Tools, toys, furniture, clothes. Hell, my orange tree got dug up. So, this is the typemofmchickmshe is. It was a really POS thing to do.

 

[resinryder]

Dug up the fuckin orange tree. Damn what a bitch.

 

[Swampdankv2]

Dug up the fuckin orange tree. Damn what a bitch.

Yup. That's hitting below the belt.

 

[Kush_Master]

Damn I will never get married!

 

[Neekz]

Chicken skin braah (hawaiian slang for goosebumps)! Im glad your a well thinking brotha, cause most people woulda acted rash by now and fucked themselves over! Don't worry bredren, the kids will always know the truth bro! Take it a step at a time, and try not to get overwhelmed! I really resent women who refuse to find purpose in their life, and try and hound/leech onto the lives of those who they "love" at the moment... Glad your removed from HER situation. Keep a level head, and the kid's will always be there! Good luck brother!

 

[blastfrompast]

Relax, hire a lawyer, do facetime (iphone) etc. etc. if you have to ..seems like everyone is connected.

Most importantly Stay calm...Good to hear you talked to the In-laws...Good start...Be nice...nothing but roses flying outta your arse nice..

One suggestion, play down your new life..every time your ex hears how good your life is...well she will try and sabotage yours...Pretty simple...if she says her life is great...say yours is OK.....it is for your kids remember.

 

[JKD]

Reiterating what everyone else is saying, and it sounds like you're all over it anyway but - Always be calm and reasonable when talking to her or about her/this situation to anyone you happen to discuss it with, even if they're your friends. The more reasonable you are, the more reason people that know you both have to question her behaviour/actions. Play the long game and plan for the possibility of having to seek permission from the courts to see your kids. Not fair I know, but that's what could happen so it is best to be prepared. If your actions etc are faultless it will make it that much harder for her to succeed in denying you access. Keep the communication up with the in-laws and be cordial with them. Seek legal advice now for the long game.

Good Luck.

 

[Harry Gypsna]

Good on you for this stance. When my parents split, they got back together for a while for the sake of us kids (supposedly). Then they used me and my bro(sis was only a toddler) to play games with each other. I'd have my Mum begging and pleading and making me promise not to tell my Dad that next man was around (Dad worked away), and I'd have my Dad pumping me for information and wanting me to call him as soon as next man shows up or steal an item of next mans clothing as proof. Not good for a 10 year olds noodle.