If I request to report a crime anonymously, will I actually stay anonymous?

[movingtocally]

OK, so embarrassment be damned, heres the situation. I was molested throughout my childhood. Out of the blue, I decided to google the guys name who did it to me. He has recently been arrested and charged with sexual abuse of another young man and was released on bail.


I was in shock. I just stared at the wall for the last ten minutes, heh. Anyway, this guy needs to be away. Forever. But I'm not willing to get my name out there; it's a small town, and my family still lives in the area, etc.


If I call the local PD on my cell and report this crime, and request to stay anonymous, will they trace my call and or blackmail me into testifying if I don't want to?


Thanks so much. Sorry if it's poorly articulated, I'm kinda freaking out right now. Still in shock.

 

[Lord Doobie]

you could call from a payphone I suppose...and ask the police your concerns

 

[movingtocally]

you could call from a payphone I suppose...and ask the police your concerns

I considered this. The only pay phone i know around here doesn't have that little plastic privacy box and it's extremely crowded. I'm still considering it though.


Thanks for your input.

 

[horror business]

Hey man, I'm truly sorry about what happened to you.

I'm not familiar with the laws in your state or anything, but these are things that I wonder.

You say it happened all throughout your childhood, but how long ago was that? I know sometimes there's only a certain amount of time you have to report. Otherwise, it will be hard to prove and/or get evidence etc...

I'm pretty sure that in order for you to press charges or whatever, then he would know that you're pressing charges. Sometimes (in most cases) the law sucks, and the victims always get screwed.

Are you worried about your family finding out? Is that why you want to stay anonymous? It wasn't your fault, what happened, so there should be no reason why they wouldn't accept it. If they don't, that's bullshit, but I would think they'd be there for you, more than you'd think.

But you could always take the law into your own hands.

 

[DogBoy]

The police cant accept information unless verified so you would only be anon to the accused, not the police. Once the police have your info you can rest assured it will be mailed promptly to the accused by mistake at which point you'll get a half assed apology and a wry smile. I've had this done to me before.

If the guy is already being done by others i might be inclined to sit back and watch his downfall privately.

That said, at the end of the day this is one of those issues you need to deal with yourself as it's you that has to live with whatever fall out happens, all we can do is offer advice and our best wishes. I hope he gets his desserts though if he is a serial freak.

 

[Desiderata]

Patience will be the winner in this case, I supose. But why now? You never thought enough about it before to do something? It's your word against his word. Just be happy that KARMA has taken it's course.........you already have won.

 

[SemperAltus]

that sucks brother, but if hes on bail and what not why not just tcb yourself?

 

[I N Hail]

Dam sorry to here this , these bastards just don't what they do to us in the long run.

I THINK i would call a lawyer first though.


Good luck I N Hail

 

[movingtocally]

Thanks guys. This is kind of what I figured. I have no faith in the police department. i'm scared to even make a call from a payphone now. They could trace the payphone, tell the accused that they received a tip from a pay phone in XYZ state, he'll piece together it's me, etc.


I just don't have any confidence in law enforcement types at all to be even reasonably competent and or moral.


This sucks. I'm not about to cap the guy myself; I'm not doing time for his worthless ass. Yet I also know that he comes from a VERY rich family, was bonded out right away, has incredible connections and could very well not even do time unless others come forward.

I'm simply not willing to put my name out there though. Maybe that's selfish, but I'm not. My mom is old; she doesn't need to know this happened to her baby.

Tough situation.

 

[movingtocally]

Patience will be the winner in this case, I supose. But why now? You never thought enough about it before to do something? It's your word against his word. Just be happy that KARMA has taken it's course.........you already have won.

I don't know. Blocked it out I guess. Just happened to think of his name on a whim, googled it, saw his picture in the news report, light switch went off.

 

[I N Hail]

Thanks guys. This is kind of what I figured. I have no faith in the police department. i'm scared to even make a call from a payphone now. They could trace the payphone, tell the accused that they received a tip from a pay phone in XYZ state, he'll piece together it's me, etc.


I just don't have any confidence in law enforcement types at all to be even reasonably competent and or moral.


This sucks. I'm not about to cap the guy myself; I'm not doing time for his worthless ass. Yet I also know that he comes from a VERY rich family, was bonded out right away, has incredible connections and could very well not even do time unless others come forward.

I'm simply not willing to put my name out there though. Maybe that's selfish, but I'm not. My mom is old; she doesn't need to know this happened to her baby.

Tough situation.

I see your concern forsure ,BUT don't let this bastard do it to another child

 

[movingtocally]

maybe I just call them and tell them I want to report a "tip" and not a "crime?" The purpose being not to file another suite, but to just give them a heads up that this is the kind of guy they want to monitor..

 

[Machine Elf]

Nothing to be embarrassed about, 1 out of every 2 women is sexually abused and I believe 1 out of every 3 men is as well.

It depends on how long it has been between the time of the crime and right now, the statute of limitations could be up. I believe if it happened when you were a child and you are an adult now you have up until you are either 24 years of age or maybe 28 if there is an issue of mental blockage of the abuse.

I think you should perhaps first get a lawyer and come forward and tell the police what happened to you. Call or go down to the station and tell the investigating officer what happened. They will either tell you you can bring charges (or can't if the limitation is up) or bring the charges for you. Also there may be a possibility of suing your abuser. Or tell them and see what they do and then get a lawyer.

I say do whatever you can to nail the fucker, even if its hard and you want to put the past behind you. Otherwise, don't, don't worry about it and move on (but, that doesn't seem like you can, as you still looked this person up wondering whats going on. Which tells me it still bothers you and you need justice and rectification of the situation. Which, going to the police and seeing what you can do WILL help with getting that restitution I sense you seek).

Abusers pride themselves on being able to get away with it, on their victims being too ashamed or afraid to speak out. That's how they get away and go on to do it more. Even with this current charge this guy could get off or get off lightly. Don't let that happen! Also, if you sense the police are corrupt and won't help you (or that this guy has friends with the police) go to the FBI! Seriously thats what they are there for! I know, no one likes pigs, but this is the one kind of situation that they are there for to do some good and they should be sympathetic and help you.

 

[cocktail frank]

i would assume you would not be anonymous.
i know its hard, but you should probably step forward.
the accused has done it more than once.
if you dont do it for yourself, do it for his next potential victim.
it will be tough on you, but doing nothing will not be good for your mental state.
just my

 

[Lord Doobie]

you will have to dig down deep and ask yourself if you are strong enough to fight for what's right

major families and corporations have been brought to their knees by individuals who have taken a stand

you may have untold wealth coming your way because they usually settle out of court

let's hope it's not too late...

 

[manwithnoname]

fucking bastard should rot in jail. i see where you are coming from. it's probably not so much that fact that your name would be out there, but that you would have to put your mother through it.

my girlfriend was molested when she was 13. authorities came to her school and talked to her about it. she was to scared to do anything about it and just lied and said that nothing happened. it was her mom's live-in boyfriend at the time.

little did she know, it was happening to her 11 year old sister as well.

the guy got off with no charges whatsoever. it's a good thing he will burn in hell for it though.

like others have said, best to go to the authorities. but i'm not the one in this situation and never have been so in the end you will have to do what you think is best.


pretty sure your name would have to be know publicly for this, but do talk to a lawyer.

take care

 

[Che]

I applaud you for having the courage to speak about this on a public forum.

Cally, just think if you feel like this now, how do you think his other victims feel?

Not only would you be facilitating justice by contacting police and pressing charges, but you'll also be showing solidarity to the other(s) who have already come forward. And possibly help to encourage other victims to come forward as well.

If you remain silent, you are conceding (and encouraging) him to continue to commit these acts.

If you want advice, there are some good points in this thread. Get a lawyer who can speak on your behalf (this is important) and present him with the news story, as well as your personal history with this individual. Get some history to back up your story. Dates, locations, witnesses (placing the accused at the scene or area in question), anything that might be relevant.
Express your concern that the information is pertinent to the case, and maybe be crucial to getting a conviction.

I wish you the best, and I hope that you can help your self come to terms, as well as help others who have been effected by this. Put away a child molester for good!!

 

[P-NUT]

if hes in florida I got a hole in the woods and a shotgun, nobody would ever know. I've seriously thought about taking out all the child rapers around here. I was a juror on a case where a church man molested 2 boys under 10. when he took the stand to defend himself all I could think about was ripping out his jugular with the needle on my jurors badge. good luck with whatever you do.

 

[movingtocally]

I read every word of this thread and I appreciate it more than you folks will ever know. I'm clueless as to "the system" as I have never dealt with it before, but I'm naturally skeptical as hell. Being a pot smoker facing jail every time you inhale the fumes of a plant will kind of implant that mentality into you, I suppose.

I'm calling a lawyer within the hour that I found online for a free, brief phone consultation. Depending on what he says for a few questions I have, we'll move forward.

At the least I've got to tell the po po to be on the lookout. I've decided on that much. I can't just sit back and watch.

 

[TwoOhSix!]

Tough situation is a tad of an understatement. I can't imagine how you might feel. You can try the legal route, but personally I would find some way (not necessarily kill) to fuck him over for good.