Growing weed a curse?

[Guest]

I'm really starting to think so. Some of you know I grew quite a bit of smoke this past summer. I still have plenty to hold me over for some time. I have even sold some and given some away. But, It has also cost me a few friendships. A use to be friend asked me to front him an oz. This is after I gave him over an oz. I also gave him a plant to grow inside. But he fucked that up because he trimmed all the large fan leaves off and half the early buds. Which stressed out the plant and made it herm on him. He trimmed the buds cause he didn't have the money to buy smoke. But anyways, I knew he couldn't afford to pay me for the smoke so I didn't front him any. Now this all happened before Christmas. And the funny thing is I gave most of my friends a half oz for Christmas.
Also, At halloween I had a party. A group of people decided not to wear a custom. And also tried to sell smoke to my guest. I was giving away one bone per person at the door, to smoke for themselves during the party. Too, bad my woman fell out and I had to put her to bed for a few. :friends: Sorry for the rant. But I still feel bad that he left me a nasty note on my door theatening to say shit about me here and other places. They chose an oz over being friends. Don't get me wrong. I've fronted before. But I won't do it anymore. No matter who you are. There comes a time where you have to say enuff is enuff. Maybe I'm wrong?

 

[jojajico]

I'm really starting to think so. Some of you know I grew quite a bit of smoke this past summer. I still have plenty to hold me over for some time. I have even sold some and given some away. But, It has also cost me a few friendships. A use to be friend asked me to front him an oz. This is after I gave him over an oz. I also gave him a plant to grow inside. But he fucked that up because he trimmed all the large fan leaves off and half the early buds. Which stressed out the plant and made it herm on him. He trimmed the buds cause he didn't have the money to buy smoke. But anyways, I knew he couldn't afford to pay me for the smoke so I didn't front him any. Now this all happened before Christmas. And the funny thing is I gave most of my friends a half oz for Christmas.
Also, At halloween I had a party. A group of people decided not to wear a custom. And also tried to sell smoke to my guest. I was giving away one bone per person at the door, to smoke for themselves during the party. Too, bad my woman fell out and I had to put her to bed for a few. :friends: Sorry for the rant. But I still feel bad that he left me a nasty note on my door theatening to say shit about me here and other places. They chose an oz over being friends. Don't get me wrong. I've fronted before. But I won't do it anymore. No matter who you are. There comes a time where you have to say enuff is enuff. Maybe I'm wrong?

naw dud u were right i nwhat you did. if he didnt want to be a friend to you because you wouldnt give him and ounce after u already gave him over an ounce and a plant hes not a real friend to you man. he was just using you. dont feel bad you seem like genrous person but when people take advantage iits time to cut them off.

 

[pieceofmyheart]

I don't think it is the growing that's your problem, its your friends hun. They aren't good to you, they bring you much grief, I say, get rid of em.

Welcome back sweetie!!

 

[wantaknow]

them aint friends ,friend ,they are bringing the bad k around

 

[Guest]

Yea I am finished giving to my "friends" When ever they were out they would always come and ask me. I gave and never expected money, just a return on the favor someday. Now that I am out. They can't return the favor even tho they are smoking up right now.

Anyway I know the feeling.

Mo

 

[genkisan]

Growing is not a curse....



Donkeyhonker "friends" are a big curse.

 

[jojajico]

Yea I am finished giving to my "friends" When ever they were out they would always come and ask me. I gave and never expected money, just a return on the favor someday. Now that I am out because I was waiting on clones from someone that never intended on giving them. They can't return the favor even tho they are smoking up right now.

Anyway I know the feeling.

Mo

wait let me get this right. you gave ur boys some smoke and now that you are out you ask them for a bit of the smoke you gave them and they wont hook u up?!?!? how fucked up is that. when i grow i hook up my friends and they never act like the people you guys have been describing in this thread. man you guys need some better friends.

 

[Guest]

I know ... I am done with them.

 

[9Lives]

I know the feeling...

I dont know whats the big deal...Keep your mouth shut grow your own..keep it a tight secret and we'll be having smoke outs every weekend sharing strains, a few laughs and what not.

But no..

They have to leech on you like drug addicts..

No more..i wont even give a seed or clone to anyone who cant keep their shit together..they are not worth it. Too stupid not to get busted and when they do they will prolly be scared shitless and pull you down with them.

So i always say this..You can steal from me, you can cheat with my girl..i'll deal with it. But if you fuck me over with weed..or rat on me for a fucking plant. You better run for your life..because ill take it from you in the most painful way possible and have fun while doing it. Thats as far as my tolerance goes..and im dead serious.
(sorry for getting worked up..put that really hits a soft spot)

Women, booze and friends come and go....a man's pipe his drum and his smoke are sacred..

 

[Guest]

I have gone through the same exact thing with friends...They just expect- I had to learn early on in my years that most people are only out for "something" and never intend on returning the favor. Once you help them out it is usually out of their head within the next hour or so....

 

[1TWISTEDTRUCKER]

Glad to see you back.
I can't say it any better than pomh,i've been there & done that it hurts to find out the true nature of people,after they've foold you for a period of time.
Once you get over that pain,you'll realize that life gets better the fewer ASSHOLES you have clinging on your jock.

MAN,,,I was worried something,went sideways in a bad way for ya,anyway i'm just glad your back.

PEACE & LOVE;1TT

 

[Mackawber]

growing isnt the curse...You need to "curse" the indigent fucked up retards who have no money and don't know how to grow...

 

[cooked cook]

people knowing about one's grow can be a curse.

I think there's a lot of folks out there that..well...if they know you're growing, somehow feel you "owe it to them as a friend" to give up the free smoke all the time, even after it's YOU that took the risk, you that did the research, got the genetics, etc.
Aside from feeling you owe them, some folks might even get the nutty idea to try to hold that over your head
Truly good friends wouldn't do this.
I think you did the truly friendly thing and even tried to "teach a friend to fish" rather than just give him a fish. Not your fault he didn't A) listen to the tips you undoubtedly gave him, and B) stick it out.
Folks aren't willing to take the risk, but don't mind if you do.
I occasionally gift a real close friend...though I don't tell them where it came from. From a friend of a friend of some guy I know sorta thing. I've even tried to help make friends more self-sufficient in that regard. Again, I personally admit to nothing.

Growing is definitely a solo sport.

For the ungrateful pals, I would tell them "I quit growing...too much of a pain and risk" And use the "sampler nuggets" a bit more sparingly with them. Save em for good true friends that deserve em.

stay safe, keep em green, and STAY SAFE!

cc

 

[page1]

i used to have this problem, when i first ever started growing i told a few friends and after my harvest was so pleased with it gave my''friends'' a few joint here and there.

it was when they started asking for it asif i owed them it for being ''friends'' or something?

after that whenever they asked for weed i would just say, if you want some herb' feel free to come round for a joint...but i no longer give it for free to anyone. And the ones that didnt bother stopped being my friends and the 1 that was cool with it is now my best friend. and i told the other guys i stopped growing.

 

[Endo]

yeah i think its just weed in general... it ruins friendships as soon as people see you have a decent amount of it they feel its ok to try and lowball you or steal or whatever.. some people are just not decent...as soon as you front someone weed your asking for it... i got burned once.. and i made out very well once.. you have to trust the person and also be prepared to lose... if your not then you shouldnt front anything. but i made the mistake of telling a few i shouldnt then it was like.. grow me a plant.. blah blah.. can we come over and smoke... blah blah... it got a little annoying so i just told everyone i wasnt doing it anymore... unfortunalty... no one can be trusted.. and loose lips sink ships.. live you learn... they werent your friends to begin with.

sorry to hear your story.. i know we all have one.. its too bad the world sucks...

 

[Trichome Toker]

Yes, getting money or anything valuable is a great test of who your friends are.

Assholes get jealous really easy, and instead of growing the herb themselves (too useless) they decide it is easier to hate you for taking the initiative to produce something useful.

When I first started growing I cut myself off from many people who started acting like dicks, and trying to take advantage of me, asking for free herb all the time etc.

The low balling is a common tactic as well.

Before I dropped my old scumbag "friends" they used to regularly come over, and tell me to my face how they had a new connect who sold them ounces of herb as good as mine for $100 etc.

Like I was actually stupid enough to believe it.

Now no one, I repeat NO ONE knows my address at all.

I go over friend's houses who have proven themselves, but they don't go over mine, and don't know my address or even my real name.

Unless you have been friends with someone since the second grade and they have never fucked you over yet, assume that they will on the drop of a dime.

I have had people jealous of me because I had herb, and a bit of cash, when they themselves have parents with $1,000,000+ homes.

Meanwhile a few years ago I was literally homeless, and no one cared.

People are disgusted with you if your poor, or just ignore you, and when your getting ahead in life everyone is jealous.

You can't win.

 

[dude06version]

thats why you never tell people you grow. not just for security , but humans in general are shady and cant be trusted...everynow and then i get "an 1/8th" of some herb from "a friend of a friend etc" and ill toke up with people that dont disappear when i go dry.. but they never know where it comes from and usually they are willing to go half or throw something in.. i stoped associating with shady people , and no matter how bad i want to impress the ones that are loyal with my secret. i never break the golden rule, infact i have to put on the ignorant mask of the uninformed stoner with the few friends, i have..
its not easy, but life is alot simplier that way. DONT TELL ANYONE YOU GROW EVER..peace

 

[Guest]

Its your friends fool. They aren't really who you think they are. Drugs seem to blur the line.

 

[Trichome Toker]

Words to live by.

"One man is rich, and appears as a poor man, another poor, and appears as a rich man"
-Bible

 

[Endo]

i get more annoyed that people just expect cause i grew it that i have it all the time.... i mean hell come over and pack me a bowl.. id enjoy something new and diffrent to... like the other day we were at the bar and a buddy(i use that term loosley) of mine met me and a few friends down there... then it turned into lets go to endos to smoke and play some nintendo.... fine.. no problem... i like having people over.. everyone that came over packed a bowl execpt the (buddy) who claimed he had this bomb ass weed from amsterdam... needless to say... we dont hang out with that kid much... only reason was cause he was there and i didnt want to be rude. then i kinda got mad and called him on it.. i was like so wheres this bomb ass amsterdam stuff.. hes goes.. oh its in my pocket... then stands there.... at that point i just decided it was time for everyone to go and it was late anyways..... i hate shady stoners..


there was this other time i gave this kid some weed to roll a blunt, the fucker was supposed to match me.. and rolls like a pinner with the blunt.. now i gave this kid like at least a gram if not more... i didnt see him do it but i get the impression he pinched it and rolled only my weed... needless to say... we dont hang out with him very much either....

weed can definitly ruin friendships...