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Gangabiss said:
Well said Gangabiss.
If the chap had a grow his wife knew about and agreed to keep quiet about, he has legitimate issues with her talking about it to others.
It's not a child care issue in that case, but a trust issue.
If he was growing behind her back, then he is in the wrong, but if this was an agreed to fact, and she blabbed to someone fer gossip sake, he has every right to not trust her and be pissed off.
It's not a child care issue in that case, but a trust issue.
If he was growing behind her back, then he is in the wrong, but if this was an agreed to fact, and she blabbed to someone fer gossip sake, he has every right to not trust her and be pissed off.
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WTF! Dose anyone here think that a sane man would leave his family cause he couldnt have a garden? That's CRAZY! Im pissed, not stupid.
I know it's all about the kid man, and that's what makes it soooo hard. My pops was never around, NEVER! He lives intown and I still dont talk to his ass. So I know what not to do.
Over all the relationship isnt a HellHole, Im just not in it for the right reasons anymore and this whole Gapping Face Hole thing is just the final action that I cant stand for.
I think that she told 2 people.
I know it's all about the kid man, and that's what makes it soooo hard. My pops was never around, NEVER! He lives intown and I still dont talk to his ass. So I know what not to do.
Over all the relationship isnt a HellHole, Im just not in it for the right reasons anymore and this whole Gapping Face Hole thing is just the final action that I cant stand for.
I think that she told 2 people.
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dasme: I know what you mean.. I have a best friend (since retired best friend). He is a true friend, who i would lie my life on the line for.. and he would lie his life on the line for me.. Hence we where in war together, and dated the same girls, would get drunk and stupid together.. We even have our blood vow to eachother (not in a gay way, but who cares).
My friend knows what I do in life. He is a bit of a hypocrite himself.. He doesnt agree with Cannabis use, yet his mother and 80% of his family use it.. and out of respect of our relationship i promised that my product would not be sent to them, ever. I have always kept my secrets about him, secret. His secrets are of him mainly cheating on his girlfriends. I have kept my mouth shut, and even lied to help him cover up his ass. I have done this countless times in the past 20 years.
My friend moved a couple hours away and i dont have much contact with him anymore.. We try to get together on birthdays, and superbowls, meet at a bar for a drink, etc.. Now he also is a social bee like your women. One time we where out at a bar, and we met some women. One of the girls asked us "what do you do for a living"? He tells them "i'm a Cop" (which is true), and i tell them, i work in the Telecommunication, hooking up the Internet for people/companies. My friend will laugh, and say "you fuckin' liar" and laugh. I have a look of WTF!!! I laugh and play it off like he is just being funny.. but its NOT.. He has done this to me several times (5 to be exact). It is a HUGE security issue for me... So.. I dont tell him what i do anymore,, He suspects i still do what i do, but has no proof. My setup has been relocated, and i dont let his family know anything about me, and I dont share any of my life experiences with him anymore. When we get together for a beer now a days it dont feel like he is my best friend anymore, just a casual friend from work.. Truely sad..
I just dont know how people can "spill the beans" when the very person they are talking about is so dear to them? I have NEVER sliped or told any of his women about him cheating on them or using them for their hospitality and cash.. and to me that is a crime against humanity.. and all i'm doing is smoking a little herb.. I just try to keep him as a casual friend now, and in hopes that he will recognize his mistake of our friendship. Which i think he has done, since he doent blow my cover now when we go out.. but Now when women ask us what we do for a living, I just tell them the truth; "I dont work, I am unemployed, and disabled from a vehicle accident. Then i pay for the night out, and it confused the women.. Hence my friend has a good paying job with the Police department, and I have no income, yet forked out 300 bucks for drinks and food.
Honestly i feel my friend, blows my cover due to jealousy. He thinks i dont work hard enough for my money.!. Yet he has no fuckin' clue what it takes to bring a crop to a perfect harvest!. but that is me reading into things
.. Oh well..
Dasme: i hope you can move on. and be successfull. Be well, peace.
Cannabismavin, misses his BFF..
My friend knows what I do in life. He is a bit of a hypocrite himself.. He doesnt agree with Cannabis use, yet his mother and 80% of his family use it.. and out of respect of our relationship i promised that my product would not be sent to them, ever. I have always kept my secrets about him, secret. His secrets are of him mainly cheating on his girlfriends. I have kept my mouth shut, and even lied to help him cover up his ass. I have done this countless times in the past 20 years.
My friend moved a couple hours away and i dont have much contact with him anymore.. We try to get together on birthdays, and superbowls, meet at a bar for a drink, etc.. Now he also is a social bee like your women. One time we where out at a bar, and we met some women. One of the girls asked us "what do you do for a living"? He tells them "i'm a Cop" (which is true), and i tell them, i work in the Telecommunication, hooking up the Internet for people/companies. My friend will laugh, and say "you fuckin' liar" and laugh. I have a look of WTF!!! I laugh and play it off like he is just being funny.. but its NOT.. He has done this to me several times (5 to be exact). It is a HUGE security issue for me... So.. I dont tell him what i do anymore,, He suspects i still do what i do, but has no proof. My setup has been relocated, and i dont let his family know anything about me, and I dont share any of my life experiences with him anymore. When we get together for a beer now a days it dont feel like he is my best friend anymore, just a casual friend from work.. Truely sad..
I just dont know how people can "spill the beans" when the very person they are talking about is so dear to them? I have NEVER sliped or told any of his women about him cheating on them or using them for their hospitality and cash.. and to me that is a crime against humanity.. and all i'm doing is smoking a little herb.. I just try to keep him as a casual friend now, and in hopes that he will recognize his mistake of our friendship. Which i think he has done, since he doent blow my cover now when we go out.. but Now when women ask us what we do for a living, I just tell them the truth; "I dont work, I am unemployed, and disabled from a vehicle accident. Then i pay for the night out, and it confused the women.. Hence my friend has a good paying job with the Police department, and I have no income, yet forked out 300 bucks for drinks and food.
Honestly i feel my friend, blows my cover due to jealousy. He thinks i dont work hard enough for my money.!. Yet he has no fuckin' clue what it takes to bring a crop to a perfect harvest!. but that is me reading into things
.. Oh well.. Dasme: i hope you can move on. and be successfull. Be well, peace.
Cannabismavin, misses his BFF..
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Dasme - Sorry to hear that... Just a question though, do you think your garden is causing extra stress on your entire family unit? What if you didn't have your garden, do you think everything would just be better anyways?
Trust me I know what its like to want to grow but can't. It took me awhile to just get over that. You know what though, once I started a normal garden of legal vegetables/herbs, I just didn't really care anymore. For some reason that just took care of the green thumb in me.
Plus, moving the 'garden' to outdoors just made it more enjoyable overall. No need to deal with complicated parts and this and that...just working with nature.
Maybe you could just start an outdoor garden of other plants. That might take a lot of pressure off things. Maybe your wife would like that better. Its amazing how some woman can turn around and be nice when you just do a few simple things that make them happy...which can turn around and make you happier than you could imagine... u know what I mean?
Obviously I don't know the whole story... but this is just what comes around. Tear down your grow, and find something else to do. Try giving this relationship another go, and some more time... and see what happens now. It might get better man.
Trust me I know what its like to want to grow but can't. It took me awhile to just get over that. You know what though, once I started a normal garden of legal vegetables/herbs, I just didn't really care anymore. For some reason that just took care of the green thumb in me.
Plus, moving the 'garden' to outdoors just made it more enjoyable overall. No need to deal with complicated parts and this and that...just working with nature.
Maybe you could just start an outdoor garden of other plants. That might take a lot of pressure off things. Maybe your wife would like that better. Its amazing how some woman can turn around and be nice when you just do a few simple things that make them happy...which can turn around and make you happier than you could imagine... u know what I mean?
Obviously I don't know the whole story... but this is just what comes around. Tear down your grow, and find something else to do. Try giving this relationship another go, and some more time... and see what happens now. It might get better man.
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There is a third way... If she wants to be all popular and sometimes brags on you growing, maybe you could move the family to the Bay Area or something, where it's not as dangerous apparently? But jeez... Why do people talk about knowing someone who grows to impress people... as you're only impressing idiots with that. I hate hearing that shit at a bar/club, someone drunk and pilled out and puffing on a joint blabbing how they know someone who grows. The idiots make various clucking noises, while those who know, respond "that's not cool, its not safe to talk about your friend/whatever's grow.. it's dangerous.."
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Indi06: I have other plants, my peppers are a cashcrop around here. The grow didnt add or take away anything to the relationship. It was somtthing I havent done a few years and was just giving it another go. I was hppy, She was always impressed and loved the girls.
IDK man. It's all down anyway so no biggie now.
Now for the talk. Im done running erands, and she's got the day off.
Peace.
IDK man. It's all down anyway so no biggie now.
Now for the talk. Im done running erands, and she's got the day off.
Peace.
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Grow tomatoes? You don't want a psycho ex turning you in and loosing child custody, visitations etc. I have a friend who just had his house invaded by the CPS (Child protection service or whatever) and look even in his attic for "Pot" his ex said he was growing.....very lame.
I disagree, it's more important that the kid be stable at least until he is close to 18.
You made him now bite the bullet and raise him, be responsible, that's what responsibility is.
You're also going to end a child's dreams, a family, and happiness because you can't hide a grow? Bro, rent a place somewhere nearby and KEEP YOUR LIPS SHUT.
Just my opinion, you posted the story, so you get my straight opinion, no emotions attached. Good luck.
Seeing as how you implied your grow & her mouth played a role that appeared significant to us in you wanting to ditch your marriage, care to enlighten us a bit?
I'd offer some advice, but you don't seem to be giving us the whole story here at all...I can't make heads or tails of ya here, can't tell if you're going the "sissy's way out", or have genuine problems that can't be fixed....
I'd offer some advice, but you don't seem to be giving us the whole story here at all...I can't make heads or tails of ya here, can't tell if you're going the "sissy's way out", or have genuine problems that can't be fixed....
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Just keep your cool, and you'll be fine. Running of the mouth is serious, be it about your grow or anything else for that matter.
Whatever you decide to do, just do it with an even head.
Good luck, I hope all goes well.
Whatever you decide to do, just do it with an even head.
Good luck, I hope all goes well.
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Jack Crevalle... I ment the ROOM get's shutdown tonite. And It's GONE. I may have to do it in another house. Or just stick to veggies, and berries.
Nikijad4210... It's a trust issue Miss. Trust is hard to regain. She hasnt cheated that I know, but she has done other things that make me question her trustworthyness. This is just one of those things that cherry the icing, esp. when Ive grown before and she told about it.
I find out that she didnt directly tell, but other weed stuff came up, and it supposedly led into her mentioning plants, but not that they were OURS. This is all confusing. Neither of them remember spicifics cause they were drinking.
Without the plants we've come to a livable situation, we'll just see how it all goes down. I am willing to put off growing untill I feel more secure. I may put a few in the yard along with the others.
Thanks for your suppport.
Nikijad4210... It's a trust issue Miss. Trust is hard to regain. She hasnt cheated that I know, but she has done other things that make me question her trustworthyness. This is just one of those things that cherry the icing, esp. when Ive grown before and she told about it.
I find out that she didnt directly tell, but other weed stuff came up, and it supposedly led into her mentioning plants, but not that they were OURS. This is all confusing. Neither of them remember spicifics cause they were drinking.
Without the plants we've come to a livable situation, we'll just see how it all goes down. I am willing to put off growing untill I feel more secure. I may put a few in the yard along with the others.
Thanks for your suppport.
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Jack Crevalle said:
yup, being a man. You man enough to make that kid, be man enough to do the right thing. Too much of this I have to be happy crap, all it amounts to is a bunch of sissies and whiney boys, be a fucking man.
