Dealing with transitions

[Im'One]

Im turning 60 years old.
My custodial granddaughter just joined the Air Force and moved out.
My daughter and her husband moved off my farm property in Missouri and bought their own home.
I'm needing to take steps to prepare for retirement. I know what to do. I just am having trouble pulling the trigger.

 

[GOT_BUD?]

When my stepfather neared retirement, my mother insisted he get a hobby. And she hounded him about it until he finally settled on something he truly enjoyed - turning wood on a lathe.

Find yourself a hobby now that you truly enjoy. Something you want to commit to learning how to do really, really well. And stick with it.

Sooner or later your going to want to do that full time, and your transition to retirement will be much easier because you have something you want to do with your time instead of work.

That's what retirement is supposed to be - doing what you want to do instead of what you need to do.

 

[Ringodoggie]

You're going to love retirement. Everyone does. Some people just take longer to embrace it than others. Don't try to fight it or resist it. Embrace the changes and enjoy it.

It took me almost a year before I adjusted so don't expect it to happen overnight. But, when I worked I would typically work 18 or more hours a day. Just a manic thing. So, adjustment likely took me longer than most.

Like he said, a hobby is nice to help with the adjustment. After I retired I got hooked up with a buddy who was a dog trainer and I took my dog through the AKC games and won a room full of trophies and blue ribbons. Then I went on to train other dogs with him for almost 15 years. I also started playing an instrument. Something I had never done before. I got into a band and it turned out to be the most fun I ever had in my entire life. In fact, it was about the only fun I've had in my entire life. LOL

Go for it, dude. Eventually, you're going to love it.

Or, you'll die right after you retire. It's usually one or the other. LOL



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Here's a shot of my retirement buddy. I got him the same year I retired. He did a couple photo shoots for American Greetings. This was from one of them. He was on a number of both American Greetings and Hallmark holiday cards.

 

[GOT_BUD?]

You're going to love retirement. Everyone does. Some people just take longer to embrace it than others. Don't try to fight it or resist it. Embrace the changes and enjoy it.

It took me almost a year before I adjusted so don't expect it to happen overnight. But, when I worked I would typically work 18 or more hours a day. Just a manic thing. So, adjustment likely took me longer than most.

Like he said, a hobby is nice to help with the adjustment. After I retired I got hooked up with a buddy who was a dog trainer and I took my dog through the AKC games and won a room full of trophies and blue ribbons. Then I went on to train other dogs with him for almost 15 years. I also started playing an instrument. Something I had never done before. I got into a band and it turned out to be the most fun I ever had in my entire life. In fact, it was about the only fun I've had in my entire life. LOL

Go for it, dude. Eventually, you're going to love it.

Or, you'll die right after you retire. It's usually one or the other. LOL



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Here's a shot of my retirement buddy. I got him the same year I retired. He did a couple photo shoots for American Greetings. This was from one of them. He was on a number of both American Greetings and Hallmark holiday cards.

It seems most of the types who die right after retirement are the "live to work" types, like you claim to be and my step father was. They have no idea what to do with themselves now that they don't have to work every day. So they just die.

Glad you weren't one of those guys.

My step father made the transition nicely as well. Unfortunately, a bad heart valve and an uncaring doctor ended his life at 73, 5 years ago this coming St. Patrick's Day. Miss you Pop.

 

[Im'One]

Well I probably have at least 7 years to retirement, but probably need to sell the farm. I need to get an IRA going or I'm going to pay taxes out the ass. Just crap like that. Letting go of dreams and expectations regarding the family farm and Dad's estate bullshit? That's the tough part. Mom (administrator) and my brother have circled the wagons and refused to do any of the fiduciary obligations and I'm just not going to court over it. I'm better off just forgetting any of that...and paddling my own canoe the best I can.

 

[tobedetermined]

I am 2 months into retirement & I am still walking in circles, often feeling guilty that I am not doing anything.

 

[Im'One]

I understand that. I'm learning to let go of things I cannot control as the prayer says.
I didn't explain I'm the co beneficiary of a huge estate and I walked away from that but never really accepted that it's over. I need to.
Sides were chosen and decisions made but you always hope people will eventually do the right thing.

 

[shellybelly]

I keep to a schedule, just like work. Walk the dogs at 7, have a coffee/computer hour at 8, I take a couple of distance learning classes and do some volunteer work. I find myself more settled and happier with a schedule. Otherwise I'd stay really busy doing absolutely nothing.

 

[Im'One]

Sorry don't want to be one of those people who sits his dirty laundry. Just need to vent a little I guess. Thanks.

 

[Ringodoggie]

After I retired, I bought an office building and had it all furnished and setup just like a real office. Except, I was the only one there. LOL I would literally come in and sit at a desk with a phone (land line) that WASN'T EVEN HOOKED UP OR WORKING. LMAO

I would sit there and look at the phone and listen to music. After a while, it wore off and I started getting into other things. I reverse engineered the DTV SATV card and got busted. Reversed the DISH Network SATV card and didn't get busted. LOL Trained dogs. Played rock and roll. Now, I am getting ready to move to sunny Southern California to complete my retirement.

Sand, sunshine and young half naked pussy. That's retirement for me.


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[Im'One]

It just occurred to me that I'm squandering the one thing my daddy left.... the ability to move on and stop feeling sorry for myself. Ha

 

[armedoldhippy]

It just occurred to me that I'm squandering the one thing my daddy left.... the ability to move on and stop feeling sorry for myself. Ha

corrosive shit to deal with. easy to convince yourself & hard to come to grips with. inertia, fuck... i think you'll pull yourself up.

 

[Im'One]

Thanks AOH!


Nothing that a little sativa and Jerry church couldn't fix.

 

[flylowgethigh]

Well I probably have at least 7 years to retirement, but probably need to sell the farm. I need to get an IRA going or I'm going to pay taxes out the ass. Just crap like that. Letting go of dreams and expectations regarding the family farm and Dad's estate bullshit? That's the tough part. Mom (administrator) and my brother have circled the wagons and refused to do any of the fiduciary obligations and I'm just not going to court over it. I'm better off just forgetting any of that...and paddling my own canoe the best I can.

Get a copy of the will and the trust if there is one. The executor has a duty to properly execute the will so if you are named you should have to do nothing. They may be delaying selling the farm which may be a hold up. I had to do all that stuff last year on my dad's estate and now have to write my worthless brother a pretty nice check.

Retirement is a blast. Having all day to drink is a hazard I had to deal with, but assuming that you have enough money - enjoy it.

 

[flylowgethigh]

After I retired, I bought an office building and had it all furnished and setup just like a real office. Except, I was the only one there. LOL I would literally come in and sit at a desk with a phone (land line) that WASN'T EVEN HOOKED UP OR WORKING. LMAO

I would sit there and look at the phone and listen to music. After a while, it wore off and I started getting into other things. I reverse engineered the DTV SATV card and got busted. Reversed the DISH Network SATV card and didn't get busted. LOL Trained dogs. Played rock and roll. Now, I am getting ready to move to sunny Southern California to complete my retirement.

Sand, sunshine and young half naked pussy. That's retirement for me.


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I was gonna say you missed a killer deal on the house I sold out in SoCal, but it was in Hemet, has a salt water pool. Big air conditioned place for a inside grow plus outside area for more. The woman got it for a song because my father had signed up for a leased solar system..


Don't pay no nevermind the shakin, it stops soon enough.

 

[Babbabud]

I puff a lot lot lot and play golf

 

[Im'One]

Get a copy of the will and the trust if there is one. The executor has a duty to properly execute the will so if you are named you should have to do nothing. They may be delaying selling the farm which may be a hold up. I had to do all that stuff last year on my dad's estate and now have to write my worthless brother a pretty nice check.

Retirement is a blast. Having all day to drink is a hazard I had to deal with, but assuming that you have enough money - enjoy it.

Mom is the admin of the trust. Nothing will be dispersed (theoretically,) until she dies. Bro has her ear and they do what they want. It's a Million dollar business (caught my brother embezzling from), plus a section of land and lots of cattle. Brother manages the business and mom the farm. Neither made a 'profit' on paper for years. So one beneficiary (brother) controls things and I'm out in the cold. I left the state when I found bro stealing and parents were ok with that... and need to stop looking back and let it go. Sure Mom could pass, but so could I.
I could sue my mom but I'm not going to.
I have land next to Mom's house I need to let go and pay down my loan in the place in Oklahoma.
So I need to get my mind on what I need to do and just do it.

 

[thailer]

sell it to the worst possible neighbors money can buy. lol

i know a few retired guys who love to bake bread and really get into the craft. i just baked my first loaf and it was delicous.

 

[Im'One]

sell it to the worst possible neighbors money can buy. lol

i know a few retired guys who love to bake bread and really get into the craft. i just baked my first loaf and it was delicous.

Yes well there is the couple mom forced out of our little Baptist Church and they happen to be very interested since it joins their land

 

[soil margin]

I think the biggest challenge with retirement, even more so than finding a way to occupy your time, is coming to terms with the fact that you aren’t needed. Whether you’re Bill Gates or a part-time plumber, the world will keep on running without you, and that can be a terrifying/depressing thought to deal with. In a way it can be liberating, because it grants us a sort of freedom, but that is easy to overlook when you’re trying to deal with the idea that you really have no purpose and the world would be the same without you.