First of all, as you noted, the Daishonin makes clear that the nature of devotion to any of the other schools promoting Shakyamuni's teachings (sutras) other than the Lotus is to be considered slander in the Latter Day of the Law. This is because of Shakyamuni's admonishment to disregard all of his previous teachings pertaining to the Three Vehicles as having been expedient means to prepare for One Vehicle teaching of the Lotus Sutra. However, there is no focus in any of Nichiren's writings pertaining to anything being a slander outside of devotion to these teachings that Shakyamuni instructed to disregard. Are non-Buddhist teachings acknowledged as incorrect? Yes. Does the Daishonin label them as slanderous? NO!!!
However, let's be clear about that. According to the Daishonin's teachings, is it a slander to practice Christianity/Judism/Islam? NO! IS IT A SLANDER TO SAY BAD THINGS ABOUT, OR DEMEAN THROUGH ONE'S ACTIONS, THE LOTUS SUTRA OR THOSE PRACTICING ACCORDING TO THIS SUTRA'S TEACHINGS BECAUSE ONE BELIEVES IN AND IS PRACTICING CHRISTIANITY/JUDISM/ISLAM? YES! YES! YES!
So in my opinion, your friend is on the cusp. What is most important is what is in his heart. Where does he place the basis of his faith in life? Frankly, only he can know that. Since that's the case, be careful of slandering him. Like you said, who are we to judge? What did he say was his reason for practicing both faiths? What does he feel he is deriving from doing it that way? You can express your concern about behavior that you feel may take him in the wrong direction, but to declare it wrong, is presumptuous, because NO ONE can truly know another persons faith. That is something that is ultimately revealed over the course of a lifetime, not in a given moment.
Same thing for the Christmas Tree. Is she celebrating the Birth of Christ as the Son of God? Or is she just wanting to be festive for the holidays and make a homey feeling that gives her a sense of warmth and satisfaction-a sense of family and well being--a sense of love? You can see the answer. Your Buddha Nature should be shouting it out to you now. I am sure it is.
As far as: "Are they slandering their Buddhanature" No. (So long as they are not following the teachings which were instructed to disregard.) Are they obscuring it and depriving themselves a path toward lasting happiness? Yes. (but that is delusion, not slander; it's part of being a human being living in the Ten Worlds)
"and if so am I complicit in that slander by letting them continue living their lives without at least an objection to why they should be chanting instead?" Always object!!! Out of mercy, you should always let them know about the Law! But never encourage someone to chant because they are destined to suffer if they don't chant. A person doing that would be creating slander by distorting the teachings of the Daishonin into their own narrow view.
"Am I begrudging their lives at that point if I do voice anything to the contrary?" No. It is your job to voice it as a Bodhisattva of the Earth. However, that does not give us a right to disrespect another or be disrespectful (unless they are a slanderer, because then they have destroyed respect worthiness and MUST be rebuked).
"How wrong if it is wrong, is it to tell someone they need to start chanting in order to save their lives. (I DON'T WANT TO SOUND LIKE A LUNATIC, but i have felt that way, recently with my father trying to get him to come out to a meeting and support me when I lead my group for our study meeting this thrusday at my place)" It is never wrong, and it should never be necessary to sound like a lunatic.
Lastly, SGI is not trying to "get rid of (Nichiren) Shoshu" (Temple). They are fighting back at slander that has been directed toward them. Find me a member of NST that doesn't have a slanderous opinion of Daisaku Ikeda. The Daishonin instucts us to be "As indivsible as fish and the water in which they swim..." Which party precipited the division between the two? Find me an NST member that even remotely knows the true nature of the history of their sect! I have yet to!
They need priests to reveal their Buddha Nature? Frankly I do not! Nor do you! THAT SINGLE POINT IS WHY THE SGI IS FIGHTING TO RE-AWAKEN THOSE NST MEMBERS. ALMOST ALL OF THEM WERE ONCE SGI THAT WERE FRIGHTENED BY THE THREATS OF THE PRIESTS OF WHAT WOULD HAPPEN TO THEM WHEN SGI WAS EXCOMMUNICATED BY THE NS PRIESTHOOD!
The Buddha Nature of anyone is not to be slandered! Not us; not them! What has that got to do with propagating the Correct Teaching in the Latter Day of the Law? Don't ever be happy to see someone with a practice that leaves them a slave when they are not.
YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE MYOHODISCO. Keep chanting and do your best! This is something that must come from your heart. One of my best friends is a temple member. We love each other. We both love the Gohonzon. We have both been chanting over thirty years.
And he never discusses the issue with me because I eat his lunch with the facts everytime he opens his mouth about it. I have already proven to him that the nature of the Gohonzon is not about whether one has been blessed by the High Priest. AND I NEVER CHANT TO HIS GOHONZON! (both times I have tried in these many years since the split, I have gotten immediately sick.)
But what purpose would be served by offending him or severing our relationship? My hope is to change his mind in my lifetime. The reality of that being accomplished is not up to me. He has a karma and I have no control over it. But I'll never give up trying.
A Buddha's compassion is limitless.
(I hope this helped)
T
In theThe Four Stages of Faith and Five Stages of Practice the Daishonin is quoted saying "
Question: For practitioners in the Latter Day of the Law, who have just aroused the aspiration for enlightenment, what types of practice are restricted?
Answer: Such persons are restricted from practicing almsgiving, the keeping of the precepts, and the others of the five paramitas, and are directed to chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo exclusively. This practice corresponds to the capacity of persons at the stages of "producing even a single moment of belief and understanding" and "rejoicing on hearing the Lotus Sutra." It represents the true intention of the Lotus Sutra.
If you couple that incredible question and answer with a post by PTD in reference to another great Gosho;
One who, on hearing the teachings of the Lotus Sutra, makes even greater efforts in faith is a true seeker of the way. T'ien-t'ai states, "From the indigo, an even deeper blue." This passage means that, if one dyes something repeatedly in indigo, it becomes even bluer than the indigo leaves. The Lotus Sutra is like the indigo, and the strength of one's practice is like the deepening blue."
Hell is the land of tranquil light,
(The Writings of Nichiren Daishonin, pg# 457)
Written to Ueno-ama Gozen on 11 July 1274 from Minobu
So then we go back to the Gosho The Four Stages of Faith and Five Stages of Practice:
In volume nine of The Words and Phrases of the Lotus Sutra it is stated: "There is a danger that a beginner will be led astray by subordinate concerns, and that this will interfere with the primary practice. The beginner should directly give all his attention to embracing this sutra; that is the highest type of offering. If one sets aside formal practices but maintains the principle, then the benefits will be many and far-reaching." In this passage of commentary, "subordinate concerns" refers to the five paramitas. If the beginner tries to practice the five paramitas at the same time that he embraces the Lotus Sutra, that may work to obstruct his primary practice, which is faith. Such a person will be like a small ship that is loaded with wealth and treasure and sets out to cross the sea. Both the ship and the treasure will sink.
And the words "should directly give all his attention to embracing this sutra" do not refer to the sutra as a whole. They mean that one should embrace the daimoku, or title, of the sutra exclusively and not mix it with other passages. Even recitation of the entire sutra is not permitted. How much less are the five paramitas!
**So I read this Gosho a few months ago for the first time when PasstheDoobie suggested to me I should, and it was hard to really comprehend, so now when I spend a couple hours studying this Gosho an amazing message comes out clear as this day, "ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO CHANT Nam-myoho-renge-kyo" and that is sincerely what I doing. Do not burden yourself with the possiblity of losing focus early on in your practice instead go ahead and "polish your mirror" and chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo and reunite yourself with Gohonzon.
Who originally told me this you may be wondering, none other that Thus Come One PasstheDoobie, how could I doubt him? Even more importantly how could I doubt Nichiren Daishonin's words! Its as clear as this day has been (I am very grateful today for the excellent weather in my area), If you don't understand my words go chant about it, if someone does something that is beyond your immediate comprehension or a course of events take place that you need to re-evaluate chant about it, if someone or something is obstructing your growth or happiness chant about it, if your just starting this practice for xyz reasons chant about them, if your in need of guidance that you don't trust anyone to help you with chant about it, if your in need of something chant about it, if you have a desire and wish to bring it to fruition chant about it. You cannot fail!
Instill/arouse this deep faith into your life and as your progress keep chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, eventually you will always triumph, this is fortold in the Lotus Sutra and by Nichiren Daishonin himself, how can you ever be defeated again if you embrace the daimoku of the Lotus Sutra?
*I hope this finds you well and raises your spirits, go out and do the same for others! Turn the 'poison into medicine'.*
Grow in your own life, improve your plants, improve your "work" environment, open up your heart to release any prejudice, and continue to chant everyday my friends. The Gohonzon!
Nam myoho renge kyo
Nam myoho renge kyo
Nam myoho renge kyo
Welcome skullz!
Nam Myoho Renge Kyo!