Aww Man...It's Happening

[I Used To Grow]

I was hesitant to share this because it has nothing do with weed..but I think someone might be able to give me some advice..pieceofmyheart where are you?

So I met a lady 2 years my senior at a wedding 2 years ago. We hung out a few times and had a very good time but I had just got out of a relationship and wasn't ready for another one just yet. Just this past April I got in touch with her again and have been talking to her every week since then. We both consider each other good friends.

She's dated a few guys since I started talking to her again but every guy she dates doesn't want a relationship. We both want a relationship together but she lives a few hours away from me so that's not possible right now. I have told her that after this semester I would be willing to move to where she is so we could get together. I think it would be okay because there is a college there, plenty of work and places to live and so on..

The thing is though...just from talking to her so much and finding out we have so much in common (background, lifestyle, family situation, beliefs, etc.)..I have fallen for her. I mean....I think this lady is very special and any guy that ends up with her is a very lucky man. She's smart, sexy, funny, good taste in music..I could go on and on but I will refrain.

I am giving it a lot of thought and some time before I jump the gun and move for a woman, but I have a very good feeling about her...I've never had that feeling of confidence about a female before when it comes to a relationship...I actually think it would work out between us two and be a very rewarding relationship..we're both in our late 20s and are looking for a stable relationship that will last.

Am I falling in love or something? I've never felt like this before..it's a very good feeling and I want to act on it before it's too late ya know.

Anyone have any relavent advice they could give to me?

 

[WeeD22MaN]

Hey I Used To Grow!!

Sounds to be you got a case of L.O.V.E! I have almost a simular thing happin with different reasons to not being togeather and now we have been togeather for almost 2 years and I have never been more happy that I went for her!! I always felt a different way around this girl and she always made everything right. And honestly man don't let her get away.. I know moving and starting a new life is scary and seems senceless for a girl but is it really? What if shes the one you're ment to be with forever? Alot can come from this but in all honesty would you rather try then to always wonder what if? I would totally go for this girl she sounds almost perfect for you and I think you should try your best to make it work. Because you never know.. In another 3 years I could be responding to your marrage thread Whatever happins I wish the best for you both and hope it all works out in the end

All the best,
WeedMan

 

[I Used To Grow]

thank you my friend..that made me feel very good about the whole situation..just needed a fresh perspective.

Man, that's awesome for you though..you've been with a girl for 2 years and you're happy with her..that's so cool to hear ya know.

Now I think it's time to save some money and get my ass down to Colorado Springs so I can be with this lady.

Yes, I'll admit it..I am in love with her..I would be a fool not to love her..she's amazing in every way I can imagine.

There's so many songs that make me think of her...some Tom Petty songs like "American Girl", "Here comes My Baby" really make me think of her....

I'm just a fool in love. I would be the happiest guy on earth if I married her..and if that happens you know I'll post a thread about it

 

[WeeD22MaN]

Awwwww that makes me happy to hear you feel that way! I know its a great feeling and you must be loving it!! I must say I was so glad we worked out shes my world man you think songs remind you of her.. I can't even lay in bed without her.. The walls make me think of her and it drives me nuts!! But its that kind of nuts that makes you really glad you got em you know? IMHO The way you feel right now, the way I feel about mine.. I think thats what real love is. Cuz even you said it yourself you never felt this before.. I thought I knew what love was before I felt it but I was wrong. Once I met her I knew what love is and now you do too and I'm happy for you both

WeedMan

 

[ChaoticEntity]

follow your heart, just make sure your head sees the road ahead

 

[mriko]

Heheh, cool !

Irie !

 

[Irishslappop]

if your gut is telling you it's right, then go for it.

 

[Guest]

Yes..the road ahead is very important. I remember falling in love.
Now it's 3 years, 1 kid, about 3 lbs and 2,000 beers later.
I love life, but it's like smoking weed for the first time. You have to stop for a while in order to achieve the same feeling again.

 

[Ohh.Word]

* Turn around and run as FAST as you can*

 

[I Used To Grow]

thank you everyone for your comments..POMH, I was hoping I could get some advice from you and you delivered..

Well, all I really need is enough money to put down on an aprtment and have enough moeny saved up to live for a few weeks til I find a job and can get settled in.

Once this semester is over, I'm outta this little podunk town I call home...

now I really have something to look forward to

 

[-StashBastard-]

Good luck bro!

 

[Mr. Nevermind]

ok , someone has to play the pessamist and i guess i will be filling that role. While i hope the best for you and this young lady i would take a real look at what you are doing first.

So you met a girl at a wedding 2 years ago and have hung out a few times but mostly talk on the phone and now you think its love and are ready to move? How much time have you really spent with her? Anyone can put on a fascade on the phone or on a few dates to impress each other, but after spending real time with each other is when you truly find out about that person. On the phone she can say she is a neat freak and loves to cook, but in actuality shoe could be a slob with mcdonalds wrappers under her couch.

There are many relationships that people think they know each other then they move in or spend more time to see they really dont have that muchin common or that person wasnt what they thoughtthey would be.

I would take it slow and not move hours away in hopes to spark a relationship. Also you met 2 years ago but you " werent ready for each other yet"? Yet she was dating guys while talking to you on the phone still? So she wasnt ready for you but apparently was ready for other men? Doesnt sound like love to me. If she truly liked you as you say then she wouldnt be playing the field with you on the phone. If a girl likes me she dont date or fuck other people, thats not how you show people you like them.



My advice... go away to a B & B for a weekend with her and see how well you alll get along for 48 hours before you pack up and move . Does she smoke? or know you smoke?





nevermind

 

[Mr. Nevermind]

You are getting old Mr. Nevermind.........

he's young, he's free, he can move there and if it doesn't work out with her....oh well, he'll be fine

Wish I was young and free again, I'd run like the wind in any direction that I felt like going........oh yeah, I did that! hehehe

Nah, not getting old, just wise. If i had a nickel for every young person who "fell in love" with a stranger i would be rich. While she may be good for the guy, the situation is screwy. A women that talks to a man on the phoen while dating other dudes isnt the right one in my eyes. Call me old fashioned but if you like me you dont date other dudes to show it even if i am miles away.

yes he is young and free , but youth can make some rash and silly choices and this may be one of them is my point.


I am a romanitc through and through but this to me just dont seem like it will end good.





nevermind

 

[DrugleyDoRite]

The same thing happened to me 24 years ago. We lived 2 hrs apart but it didn't take long for us to get together. We are now happily married and we celebrated our 23rd anniversary this year.

Go For It!!!!! Do not hesitate. Do not let a good thing pass you by.

 

[pan]

You will never know if you dont try, but then again you won't know what your missing either.

Let it ride.

 

[R00KIE]

Hehe, been there done that, blew up in my face...
I have to agree with Nevermind on this one.... I'm only 27 so I'm not "old" although I am getting there...
You can never ever know anybody from on the phone.... Anybody can tell you what they think you want to hear.
You never fully know someone till you live with them....
But on the other hand you never know unless you try...
Does she have "Crazy eyes"?? Is she a red head?? Both reasons to run for your life... Haha j/k
I'd say go for it but weigh your pro's and cons first...
What have you got to lose and what have you got to gain???

 

[Mr. Nevermind]

Hehe, been there done that, blew up in my face...
I have to agree with Nevermind on this one.... I'm only 27 so I'm not "old" although I am getting there...
You can never ever know anybody from on the phone.... Anybody can tell you what they think you want to hear.
You never fully know someone till you live with them....
But on the other hand you never know unless you try...
Does she have "Crazy eyes"?? Is she a red head?? Both reasons to run for your life... Haha j/k
I'd say go for it but weigh your pro's and cons first...
What have you got to lose and what have you got to gain???

hey man , watch it!! I got a red head. Taming a red head is hard and not a task most welcome. But once tame a red head is the best thing you can get. I wouldnt trade my 5'11 130 pound red head for the world .






Nevermind

 

[I Used To Grow]

I am not gonna up and move down there till I can go visit her a few times and see how we get along..it's been a long time since we've seen each other in person.

Nevermind, thanks for the wise advice my friend. This is not something I'm going to do off the fly...I need some time to save up a couple grand and feel my way around this situation.

I am thinking I could go down around New Year's though and kick it with her just to see how it goes.

And the thing about her dating other guys..well, that don't bother me at all cuz I'm not with her yet so why should I be jealous and posessive with her, that's just not cool...

and I do have a couple girls I do like here where I live but I'm just hanging out with them and getting to know them more..one girl I just met last weekend and another girl I've been hanging out with since May..maybe something will happen here where I live..that would be nice.

 

[Silver Bullet]

I'll play pessamist too.

You wont know unless you try. But if she breaks your heart, think about how much that is going to hurt. Protect your ego at all times!

 

[I Used To Grow]

I'm fully aware she can break my heart...and that would suck..but I still feel I should try to go after her even if it means moving..hell, there are over 700K people in CO Springs..so hey, there's more fish in the sea...but I will tell you one thing...this girl is special and I don't want to miss out on a good oppportunity.

I'll keep it real though..I have love for this lady and that's all I know..I'll worry about the rest when the time comes.