Anyone here love to show your love to your s/o?

[Natural]

Just wondering.
I was talking to my buddy and was telling him about all the things I do for my girlfriend and he thought it was a little overkill... I think the exact opposite.

I write her a little letter telling her how much she means to me about once every 2 weeks, give her flowers almost everytime I see her (usually a rose picked from my garden), let her choose what we do on dates (I love this, she always comes up with something fun), call her everynight at 10:30 (right when she goes to bed) to tell her to have a good day and that I love her...

I just love the way her eyes light up when I show up at her door with a rose and a love letter. Also the way she hugs me and smiles after reading the letter :smile:. Another thing I've found that I like to do is to make sure I tell her that I love her in front of all my friends/family and her friends/family... she always gets a little embarrassed in front of her parents and family but is so happy that I'm willing to show how much I love her.

... I asked my dad if he was like that to my mom when they were dating and he said no. I think it's really strange that alot of men are not that affectionate towards their girlfriends/wives...

Sorry for the little rant, I just got off the phone with her after a long conversation about us going on a little vacation for a while... I can't wait!


Do any of you guys and gals like to show your love to your girlfriends/wives/boyfriends/husbands as often as possible?

 

[tngreen]

thats not weird at all, youre just a romantic. im the same way and there are always people that think its too far. most are jealous they dont have someone doing that for them anyways. i dont see any problem with showing your love and dont let anyone tell you its wrong!

 

[genkisan]

All Hail the Hopeless Romantics!!


We may be silly at times, but we always get the girl......AND she stays!

 

[farmerbill9]

ive been with my woman for 10 years. the romance fades after a while.

 

[Nikijad4210]

I grab Wolf's ass daily.


Does that count?

 

[Gangabiss]

I think that is total overkill to be honest, although I'm happy for you both that you seem to have such affection for eachother.

Does your girl ever do things for you? Apart from the obvious

I think it is totally wrong for someone to be put on a pedestal over the other person in a relationship. All should be equal.
All you really need to do to show someone you love them is to be there for them when they need it most and to let them know you care.

You've got yourself in a bit of a hole now man I'm sorry to say...what do you think will happen when you suddenly stop bringing her flowers every time you see her? She's going to start thinking you don't love her as much. You can't keep this up forever man...there's only so many flowers you can buy and letters you write before it becomes sterile and meaningless.

Much better to show up and surprise her with a bouquet of roses every once in a while. That way she gets a nice surprise and you have more cash in your wallet for the things you'd like.

I'm not trying to break your balls man. This is just my honest opinion.

 

[Guest]

I can't see how anyone could avoid saying the same thing over and over again if you write letters like you're saying you do.

It's great and all...but how do you avoid it being just the same old repeated stuff over and over?

It's not overkill at all to do what you do. It is to someone who doesn't understand what love is. But my only problem is the repetition thing.

 

[mrgrowmez]

im all for random acts of affection....i dont want shit to get boring so every now and again i run a hot bath wth candles and incense and nice music when i know my missus is going to be riding home from work hungry and cold....or i get flowers or chocolate, or make breakfast in bed or a nice dinner of her favourite food yada yada yada,

i couldnt do it every day though that would be too much for me and it would become routine.......

 

[Guest]

Natural- it all changes once your married. Enjoy the fun now. hehe

 

[Guest]

It does all change after marriage. Not immediately, but does grow down over time - especially after kids come into the picture.

I too was a hopeless romantic. In our closet is a large container filled with every love letter, card from flowers, etc - I sent her. Mixed in with the ones she sent me. We dated for four years before getting married, we filled that box. I didn't give a rose everytime - as when you do, it loses it's special touch and become 'regular.' Plus it came both ways. She wrote me as much as I wrote her.

There's nothing wrong with being a hopeless romantic. Just make sure you're not blinded by love and obsession and that the feelings are mutual. Don't ever put her on the spot - you won't get an honest answer and she may not even know herself at this point. But I live by an old poem, "If you love something, set it free. If it's yours it will return, if it doesn't it never was."

The problem with being a romantic is many become obsessed with passion and smother their loves.

 

[LIMELIGHT]

this is not a thread for pimps.

 

[VictoryGardener]

if you do all that in moderation... its all good if you don't EVER come off as a bit "needy".. and you sure as hell don't want to give her the leadership she craves... you gotta be the big man and stay in control.. gotta stay in control and you can't just give give give give give give give... you gotta give a little bit, and hold off a little bit. you do not want to be predictable.. you want her to be chasing after YOU, not the other way around... if you can still be the romantic type and follow all of the above, you are golden.

 

[genkisan]

It does all change after marriage. Not immediately, but does grow down over time - especially after kids come into the picture.

I too was a hopeless romantic. In our closet is a large container filled with every love letter, card from flowers, etc - I sent her. Mixed in with the ones she sent me. We dated for four years before getting married, we filled that box. I didn't give a rose everytime - as when you do, it loses it's special touch and become 'regular.' Plus it came both ways. She wrote me as much as I wrote her.

There's nothing wrong with being a hopeless romantic. Just make sure you're not blinded by love and obsession and that the feelings are mutual. Don't ever put her on the spot - you won't get an honest answer and she may not even know herself at this point. But I live by an old poem, "If you love something, set it free. If it's yours it will return, if it doesn't it never was."

The problem with being a romantic is many become obsessed with passion and smother their loves.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to GanjaLord again.

I personally find the main that that changes after marriage and kids is the energy levels and time available, not the passion.

I have known my wife since I was 12....and still feel like a giddy teen every time I kiss her. The difference now is that when we manage to find the time do kiss, it is either accompanied by the yodeling of three (wonderful) kids or happens at ungodly hours when we are both walking zombies.

Summer camp is a goooood thing....

 

[VictoryGardener]

with my very first girlfriend.. late middle school, early high school, I only gave gave gave gave.. and our relationship NEVER changed... we never got anywhere.. and then in public highschool, after private middleschool.. it was fuckin over, man.. its like the estrogen ballon POPPED when she came to highschool one year after me.. POPPED!!! we were finished within the first two months of freshman year.. we weren't really even a couple.. I had no guts

 

[Guest]

yes, i jar her up so she doesn't get crushed! then i gently pick her apart piece by piece, put her in place, and smoke her ass!

 

[Mr.Tighteyes!]

I ain't sayin she's a gold digga!

 

[Guest]

Depends on how much either of the two people have changed since the beginning of the relationship. I can honestly say that 4 years and 1 kid later, it's completely different. I get laid about once every month & a half if I'm lucky, and I generally have to make an appointment for that. I admit that I could be more affectionate, but I've got her beat by a long shot. Just depends on how much "spark" is still there, I guess.

 

[Guest]

i will later tonight when i jerk my gerkin

 

[J0sh1]

Usually the couples that can keep the flame going after many years of being together are the ones that opt not to bring children into the picture. I have seen this first hand in my family at least. I have an uncle who married this women who did not want to have any children and their relationship 25 years later is as solid as ever. Right now she is 45 and she is hotter than a lot of 25 year old. She does pilates, enjoys being in shape NEVER nags on my uncle about pointless shit. And I can totally see why they are so happy with each other, no children around. Even though I will be getting flamed for this comment deep down you all know its true, Children change women, when kids pop into the picture is like a breeze that blows the passion out of the relationship. Everyone else in the family is took the marriage/children and the difference is obvious.

I have hanged out with my childless uncle and their group of friends (a bunch of couple's in their 40's) and its amazing to see how the dynamics of a bunch of childless couples is, it like hanging out with my peers on their 20's. They sure do have a lot less to worry about thats for sure.

Now going back to the topic of the threadstarter, I personally don't like putting my women on a pedestal. Women love real man and being all lovie dubbie is fine once in a while but not to the extend that the threadstarters write IMO, Its a lot better to be romantic once in a while that way you catch her off her feet and the impact is felt more, besides if you are lovie dubbie constantly you lose a secret weapon you can pull in case of a fuck up. Thats my opinion on that.

 

[Tarkus]

I love daisy jane and treat her great, and she treats me great. We do not get to see each other very often, which sucks, but when we do get to see each other we do not leave each other's sight. It also helps that she is my best friend. We worked together and it was "supposed" to be just a physical relationship, but we both knew we were retarded for the other one. I stole her from her boyfriend and neither of us could be happier. We were best friends before we started fooling around though, and I believe that helps a lot. It also helps that we have so much in common. Opposites attract, blah blah blah. I would not like her as much if she was completely my opposite. I have dealt with that before, and I can not stand retards. We get along so great it is uncanny. She is the only girl that has ever stimulated me mentally, and she is my favorite person to talk to. We can stay up for hours talking, because she gives excellent feedback. Plus, she is the only girl that is smart enough to zing me, I really have to keep my eye on her! She is a barrel of laughs and I could not imagine any other girl even coming close to her in the way that she makes me feel. From the moment I met her I knew she was different, she made me feel like a goofy teen. No other girl has made me feel that way. Haha, ok....I used to look at girls as sexual conquests, but she is much more. My top priority in her case was to become friends, then see if I could seduce her. We have a great relationship, and I do not have to tell her I love her for her to know it, it is just common knowledge. Plus, she is a dynamo in the sack!! And oh so kinky no boredom there!
I try to be a hopeless romantic with her, but it just comes off as pathetic. We both know how we feel and it is pointless to send flowers everyday or any of that stuff.
Although, now that I think about it, I always did show up on my days off, just to hang out with her....and I would basically do her job for her too.