5 year old found my garden...

[DGSIX]

I'm a patient in a non med state. My 5 year old recently found my garden. The other day he casually mentioned it to the misses and she proceeded to deny it and fight with him about it rather than dropping it and letting me deal with it when i got home, so now he thinks it's intriguing.

She told me harvest and be done or they're leaving. However I have invested in so much gear, time, research, and pay all the bills accept her half my mortgage. She is notorious for using my son and her as leverage in arguements. Am I just being selfish and over looking the security issue and the fact that my family isn't stoked?

Not sure what to do and feel like i'm going to puke. I grow lots and lots of veggies too, my whole family is vegetarian and I wanted to flower some peppers and tomatoes indoor this fall/winter, would it be a logical compromise to build a indoor veggie tent and show him that one so he thinks it's just tomatoes chillin? That way if he were to say something to a teacher or grandparent it would be "We have tomatoes in the basement!" Rather than "Poppa has weird plants in the basement i can't see..."

Thanks.

DG

 

[opt1c]

tell her to pack her shit and chop it asap... she's gonna rat you out not the 5 year old; if you keep it and she leaves you might as well call local leo yourself and tell them about it.... only other option is to find another spot nearby, setup there, and never tell her about it

 

[DGSIX]

I worry more about the kid than her, she leaves she's got no support or family to help. I more so don't want relationship issues from something that makes me feel so good. I don't have anywhere to move the garden to, nobody I know rents houses or wants my shit where they live.

 

[opt1c]

if its your kid stop gardening... if it's not your kid stop playing house as the kid will be used as leverage when she wants you to stop having a beer after work, stop seeing your friends, and then after awhile she'll want you to stop being around her all the time and she'll up and leave with the kid.... 3 rules of human behavior; people never change, people never get smarter, there are no secrets

 

[Obsidian]

either way you said it's your 5yr old.
you said you live in a non med state.
you should have had a padlock on the grow area.

Child Protective Services can/will take your kid if this garden gets known to LEO.
Social Services will come in take your child and ruin their life.
you will go to jail, and your life ruined.
you will lose your rights to see/be with your kid

Do whats best for your family...that's easy.

Think about this...is it really worth losing your child to the state authorities?

It's just not worth the hassle of going to jail, losing your kid
over an indoor grow op, etc...be wise.

if you have to ask, yes it's selfish
you need to grow up

it's your choice.
Family First.

 

[GanjaPharma]

non-med state...thats the kicker.

if your partner would threaten to leave because of some plants...methinks you have more problems than this individual incident.
this sort of thing tends to cascade rapidly into tragedy.

I would (in this order):
chop
move.
get visitation rights in a state where "he smokes weed" isnt enough to ruin your life and that of your child.


meh...but you aint gonna do that. you are either gonna catch a bullet from that narc that lives in your house, or dodge it...and catch one later on. mebe next year, mebe 5 years down the road. if you quit using ganja, it will be something else next time.
any person who would use ganja as an instrument of intimidation is bad news waiting to happen.

 

[skullznroses]

^They are all right ^

Chop and replant with peppers and tomatoes.

If your kid has never seen you smoke then you're cool. If he knows you smoke special cigarettes or something like that then you need to make sure he doesn't know that X is really Y and you are growing the smoke. If he doesn't know you smoke there is no 5 year old on earth that knows whats going on unless you have brought him up to know.

If the kid doesn't know you smoke then change the plants and he'll never know that those special sauce herbs from Canada are really something highly illegal.

Get rid of the crime and cover it up with a squeeky alibi no 5 year can see through

Also,,, this woman hasss to go. Shes threatening you ever your meds. Shes the devil.

 

[Growcephus]

It's just not worth the hassle of going to jail, losing your kid
over an indoor grow op, etc...be wise.

Agree.

It's a damn shame a man can brew his own beer but can't cultivate a few cannabis plants, but that's the way it is, and until we get these laws changed, IMO, cannabis is not worth the issues you may face if you keep growing under your current circumstances.

Do what you think is best, and best of luck to you.

 

[floralheart]

buy him a toy. pack up the garden. he'll get distracted and forget about it by next week.

 

[yerboyblue]

'Tomatoes in the basement' sounds just as bad as 'weird plants.' Take it down at the end of the crop if they are in flower and make sure your kid sees the room is empty.

You could probably explain to the kid the concept of what the plants were without scarring him. He will probably remember finding them forever anyway. The more educated about something like bud, the less curious a kid will be about it.

 

[rives]

Once my son got old enough to be curious about what dad was doing up in the attic all the time, and wanting to come up with me, I shut down for years. Between the potential problems from teachers, DARE, desire to impress their friends, etc, etc, it's just not worth taking the chance and I don't think it's right to put a kid in the position of possibly destroying your life/family over something that they won't really understand for years.

 

[TripleDraw27]

hire him to trim?

 

[DGSIX]

Thanks for all the response guys. She's not threatening me or gonna narc, just doesn't feel safe anymore and I totally understand. She told me to harvest, not like chop it asap, but chop when it's ready and be done. Killed my moms, got some clones in my turboclone to keep em alive through friends and will be wrapping it up in a when things are finished. It's been fun IC. Till things change or we move, see ya later.

 

[dagnabit]

growing with kids is bad fucking news.

it should be rule #2

#1 tell no one
#2 no kids in the same house as plants ever

 

[gurnt]

Well your fuck if the old lady kept her mouth shut you been OK no she made a big deal out of it .
Right now he is showing all of his pal's and getting a few cuts for show and tell . The best thing to do is say ICE CREAM and he would have forgot about it.

 

[PhatPhreddy420]

Easy choice.......

Easy choice.......

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[Cool Moe]

ran into a similar problem, my 6 year old girl went into my closet for paper and saw some 20 new sprouts i had destined for the corn fields. "oh they're so cuuuuute!" she said and she ran up to tell mommy that daddy was starting more flowers in the closet. like OP, I jump-start many veggies and flowers inside each spring so i had an easy excuse. but i ditched the project as a result. turns out it wasn't a good year for corn anyway.

 

[Grass Lands]

Chop it while she is still there, so she can see then come down, once all the gear is packed and put in mini storage, then tell the bitch to "step the fuck on"...she is never gonna change and you will suffer her wrath as long as you are together...once you are away from the madness you can begin to grow again...nothing good will come as long as you want to grow and toke...and be with her...sorry bro but sometimes the truth will hurt, but it can also set you free.

 

[supermanlives]

the game is over. between a pissed off old lady and a curious kid. your game is weak.

 

[EclipseFour20]

If you can not see a pathway where everyone is happy...then I agree, "game is over". Or put differently, which is more important?....your garden or your 5 year old?

The unspoken question really is..."how long?"--and...imo, you have complete control of that.

BTW "compromise" and "capitulation" are not the same--even when both outcomes appear to be the same.