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We Are All Like A Bottle of Wine

mrwags

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A Well Wish For All Of Those Who Need It:

Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.


I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.


I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.



I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.



Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 & 70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will. I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.



Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.



I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.



So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)


Have A Nice Life Today
Mr.Wags
 

Mrs.Babba

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Very nicely said wagsy!!! Life is a wonderful journey and all things good or bad must be experienced and hopefully learned from! ...you have a wonderful outlook!! dont lose it and thanks for being you :D
 

sunnyside

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wags...you my friend are far from old and wrinkly :) lol

infact you are probably in better shape than most people half your age.

Life is a struggle...from day one. But I've always tried to remind myself of the importance of the little things in life that I sometimes get distracted from, truisms that are known to every child. That life is simply a collection of little lives, each lived one day at a time. That each day should be spent finding beauty in flowers and poetry and talking to animals. That a day spent dreaming upon sunsets and refreshing breezes cannot be bettered. But most of all, that life is about sitting on a bench near the water with my hand in my loved ones, and on good days, falling in love all over again.

Keep up the positive vibes my man...they are contagious!
 
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Guest423

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mrwags said:
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon


ain't that the truth...half my best friends i grew up with and spent everyday with are gone...seems like i lost one every year.

every thing i do and every new thing i see or try i wish they were there...we had all these plans to do things together...now i just continue to do them....i'm not even 30 yet and learned to appriciate things and life way more since losing some of my best friends...it's like i do things now just cause they couldn't....things will never be the same but i just keep it real.

live it up while your here wagsy...no one knows when it's their time to go...have a good night
 

Tom Hill

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Thank you MrWags,

Good post, my patience has been put to the test as of late. As the birdy diarrhea banks off the nearest coconut leaf -only to land in my eye so to speak :D - I'll try to remind myself of your wise thoughts & come to peace with what it is what it is.

Rock Steady,
Tom
 
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grapepunched

Wags, I've been very depressed lately. The road traveled has been very long and hard. I struggle to find motivation to continue, and often think about death / suicide. Your post continues to show me that I learn everyday and that there is much joy ahead of me. I only hope my health allows me to reach over 40. My anxiety is really doing a job on my heart. Thanks to you and best wishes... You are very wise.

-gp
 

guineapig

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Awesome post wagssie......i too have had many struggles, but just when i feel like giving up i come across a thread like this and it gives me the strength to go on.....

Thanks for the inspiration!!! Stay strong all you ICers out there.....

:ying: kind regards from guineapig :ying:
 
Congratulations on a wonderful life!

Too few folks are able to befriend themselves. Be it guilt or shame or fear, many great people fail to properly appreciate and respect themselves, and, IMO, that's where it all starts!

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It is of GREAT value!

I've always kinda seen life like an actual puzzle. Here I am with a thousand 'imperfect' randomly shaped pieces and it's my job to finish the beautiful picture of life, before my time is up. I've worked a while on this puzzle, and must remember that ONE moment of frusteration could crumble the years of work i've put into it. So I take today, and wisely place my next piece of puzzle into the big picture.

When I'm done with my 'masterpiece', I hope it is as beautiful as yours.
 
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