These are dark days.....

[Guest]

These are dark days in my life right now. I recently lost my job doing construction work. The worst part about it is I didn't do anything wrong and was always a hard worker(hell I worked for the bastards for ten years) , I became a victim of "office politics" , which is the real kick in the nuts here, as a side note I hated my job anyway because I had to piss in a cup to stay working( agame I played and won many times). My wife has been unemployed for almost a year now(she actually does have a part time job...but it doesn't pay much), so we have no substantial income coming into our household except for unemployment and what little smoke I sell to a few very trusted friends and family. We have both been franticly searching for good jobs and just don't seem to be having any luck.My wife is a college grad and I graduated from a trade school and we're still not having any luck. It seems acouple of years ago we were still two fresh faced ,spirited people who still had their whole lives in front of them and were excited to get started....So what the fuck happened? My wife and I seem struck with shit luck. We tried to buy a house so we could start a family ...that fell apart at the same time we were losing the apartment we lived in. So we had to move into a rental house( Luckily owned by my father in law) , that was located in a dirty ,nasty city far away from friends and family(mine anyway). Our vehicles are getting old and falling apart( and not paid off yet may I add)The state of the economy sucks ass(especially where I live) Watching the news only deppresses me now I feel like this country is just lost. We have become a rouge nation headed by a president that was actually called "the devil" by another head of state.Christ almighty!
It seems my wife and I are condemned to a life of struggle and hardship while all of our friends seem to be flourishing and advancing in their lives. I 'm getting older , and as I get older it seems my ability to deal with all of it is diminishing and my spirit is slowly breaking , it is without doubt the darkest I've felt my whole life I think.Alcohol and weed have become my constant companions now , stuck in a vicious circle of getting depressed and getting fucked up to forget about it. I feel like I'm coming to the end of my rope .....something good needs to happen to us soon and I sure hope it does.
I only write this here because I have nowhere else to write it ,plain and simple.

 

[NOKUY]

See if you can find an illegal immigrant to swap identies with....youll be on "easy street" in no time.

Just kiddin bro. Seems like your at a point where things can only get better.

just hang in there and do your best and things will fall into place...everything happens for a reason.

 

[Guest]

See if you can find an illegal immigrant to swap identies with....youll be on "easy street" in no time.

Just kiddin bro. Seems like your at a point where things can only get better.

just hang in there and do your best and things will fall into place...everything happens for a reason.

No shit bro.LOL

I hope your right , I really do.

 

[pieceofmyheart]

I am sorry to hear about all those troubles. I do not believe you are condemned to struggle, not all all. Sounds like you two need to develop a plan, maybe with some major changes involved and go full speed ahead. Change your life right now. Don't wallow in the bad shit because it will keep you down , rise above it. You can do it if you are both strong.

I have to add that you should stop drinking. It can only cloud your mind, and bring you further down. You need a clear head, strong convictions and a healthy body to pull throught this.


Good vibes to you both.

 

[Danksta]

Well since you really have no choice... move to another state or country Post your resume on site such as workopolis and jobmonster or just take a peak of what they have to offer. Or take your wife and go work on contract in some country... its very interesting and will broaden your horizons and put some meaning into your life. You dont have any kids or immediate close family then you have nothing to loose Except your wife of course

 

[Guest]

Pieceofmyheart, thank you for the kind and warm words of encouragment. I will try to quit drinking as you are right this is not helping my situation much.

Danksta , I'de live to move , It may be something we consider, especially if nothing pans out around here.

 

[Danksta]

Keep your options open and hopefully everything works out for you...

 

[alaeddin]

Telling to stop drinking is easy, but stopping is not most of the time if you find consolation in it when you are depressed. You should surely hold onto eachother strongly, thats what matters most, and remember that you are not alone, you have at least her.

 

[Guest]

Alaeddin,
you are right. I do love my wife alot. She has alot of spirit and is kinda "propin" me up right now. I have no doubt of our love for one another, it's just the fact that life seems to keep going from bad to worse for us that is draggin' me into the mud. I'm actually feeling jealous over my friends lives( which is usually not me at all) it's just their lives always seem like one flawless transition into a better place to the next as my wife and I's Plane is going down in flames.I've never in my life ever had the problems I'm experienceing right now and it is very frustrating.

 

[HippyNextDoor]

WK, I feel your pain and depression.Was in a few jams too when we we're young 20's couple between jobs.For us it just took a few lucky breaks and help from our families to" make it".Today after 22 yrs. of marriage of ups and downs and our true love and support of each other we average 90k combined income, daughter college,son employed.dog ,cats,cars, truck, house,etc.etc.etc.So life gets better and shit won't keep you down if you don't let it....So my advice is to make your own luck and keep your chin up.(ie.possible move to greener pastures of better job prospects)peace bro and good luck

 

[Guest]

Well I thought smoking a J was in order so I rolled a spliffer of some SAGE. Feeling much better. I woke up early today , finished the H.S.T. book I was reading, drank a couple a cups of joe and just started to brood I guess. I have always tried to be a good provider for my wife and when I don't have a job it really bothers me. The fact I got fucked out of my job , after ten years of service and sacrifice to the that rat bastard I worked for,that really pisses me off. Fuck it I guess, the best revenge is living well , so I'm going out looking for a job this week , and go make money for someone else. Anyway, usually I'm alittle more positive than this but it been a shitty week.Maybe this week will be better.

 

[specialk]

Interestingly i was JUST ABOUT TO MAKE THE SAME POST!!!

Well not so much as bragging about my poor state of affairs ... but about everyones situation

Chinese have an ancient curse : "May you live in interesting times" and i belive we are living in interesting times indeed.

I know that we have advanced technologically beyond our old 20s century but everywhere else it feels like things have became lame starting with the new military bill Bush just passed and finishing with ripping down of our good old Overgrow. Even tho there seems to be abundance of things its only an illusion and most arent getting it. Things are now A lot more difficult than say 5 - 10 years ago...

 

[Mr. Alkaline]

WitchKing,…

I have some statements…….
It’s winter here and cold.
I keep lots of colors in my life although.
Life is presently, metaphorically seasons and not a circle.
Jobs are not where money is.
Earning ability comes from the synergetic health of your body and brain.
Brainstorming, lists and post-it notes are money multiplying tools.
Every person has a combination of Seven intelligences and not just the two tested for on the SAT!
Your absolute money maker job gives your body physical energy and alertness.
Most products only have to be 10% better, cheaper, faster.
Using a basement for a business saves money.
Early Sleep will add years to your life and lead to early retirement.
No start-up, maintenance and employees is a comfortable business model.
For example…..Grow up to seventy edible gourmet mushrooms for farmers markets for less than $1000 to do per year.and after two years…make contracts with all their customers.
….Get a good cookie recipe. Learn how and make contracts with…. Baking, wrapping companies,…shipping companies, accountants ect..buy a computer with a modem and make money managing contracts without ever touching a cookie!!!
Buy items from E-bay and sell them for a higher price just by giving the items a more desirable description, or find some old outdated parts in a warehouse for pennies and put solenoids or oven parts on ebay.

And researchers have correlated people that floss with…..much higher incomes……but who cares bout that…just remember…income is merely trading value. Give some value…. which was a small amount of thoughtful weeks of your time and thinking…people will hand you money for doing what you love to do and adding just a little more value to it. For instance…make the mushrooms organic and list medicinal properties within the box wrapping…..write a 20 page booklet and cd, and sell it on e-bay that leads to your organic medicinal gourmet mushroom operation!!

I hope not to offend. –Mr. Alkaline

 

[treble]

hey I like the way you think Mr. Alkaline if a little rushed... to the point tho

WitchKing it sux being where your at...was a rock bottom myself just over a year ago and some thing changed... it was simple but it led to much more. I am a quiet private person, I don't mix well with others...akward n all...

I started meeting more people in my work. I joined a structured group to do this but the point was I met more people and I told them my story, and some of them told me theirs... I get more work now and things are much better. I am still planning for that next rainy day though while I am able to... not going to be loose while its better and short when its not

but my point is... which I seem to take longer and longer to get to these days it try and find ways to get out an talk to people and tell them your story. People are doing it all the time and someone always knows someone.... its just you haven't met
"that" person yet.

People will more readily refer someone if they know a bit of the persons story.

Have you thought about working for yourself? Is your trade one where you can do that?

There are two of you, your wife could answer phones and do bookings and you can be out there doing the work and telling your story.

keep us posted man. good luck
treb

 

[ogrefugee]

don't worry, you're not alone

keep your head up

be strong

 

[Guest]

WitchKing
I know what you are talking about with office politics. Some people will screw you in a heartbeat to cover their asses.

One trick I learned was to get down to the temp agencies and get yourself in the backdoor of a company. Sure it might be shit work sometimes, but get in there and prove yourself and put the time in and work your way up again.

One trick I learned was to keep your work clean and organized and you will stand out from the rest of the average employees. Learn their product and show up everyday and be on time. Remember the cream rises to the top, and you will to with hard work and dedication.

Tester

 

[doobieornot2be]

Sorry to hear of your troubles WK!

Sounds like you've got some good skills though if you worked for the same guy for ten years...especially if you've been building there's some skills you can use that lots of people need...

Hell, get a 1/2" drill and a mid-range tile saw and go into business. Make small signs and hang em... be a hardware installer... Airless paint guns are cheap... There's plenty of things you could specialize in that doesn't cost too much to start up. Invest in tools and you can always find someone that needs something fixed or improved... You can make some real good money specializing in something like hardware or tile or such with low overhead...

I know how it feels to be used up and spit out, all the while they're making money off YOUR skills...faster...better...cheaper...faster!!!
To them I offer this:


hang in there dude... You can make it better, just make sure you're doing it for yourself and not to keep up with anybody...that's a fruitless pursuit.

Let them worry about paying for keeping up with the Jonses...

Remember you got friends here at IC!

 

[Big Bud Bear]

don't worry, you're not alone

keep your head up

 

[Guest]

You guys are the best. Yesterday was about the lowest day I've had since all this started. I am very glad I could talk to everyone about this , gives me a real sense of community to hear everyones kind words. This thread has helped alot so I thank everyone who responded. On the heels of what I wrote yesterday, I just need to get a plan together and start moving forward with our lives.

 

[pieceofmyheart]

We all get down from time to time. I think it's great that you are not going to let things get the best of yall. Changes are coming for you and I feel that they will be good ones. Push on through to the other side.