OT< weird chick question

[mtbazz]

Ok, this is OT, so moderators feel free to place it where appropriate. After getting slammed and insulted on another forum for asking this, I thought Id come here...

This happened about six months ago....Havent really asked what other people have thought...I thought it was pretty weird myself...

I had been dating this girl for a number of months, and at the time this happened we had not yet slept together. Anyway, she was at my house and we were watching a movie when my mother called, (she usually does not call at that time of night, it was eight pm or so i think). When I called her back she told me that my father had been taken to the hospital, and my mother said she thought it was a stroke, she also said he was unresponsive. The hospital was only about 20 min away, so I told this girl that the date was basically over as I had to go to the hospital to find out what was going on...she tried to talk me out of going, than once she realized I was intent on going she said
"well, lets have sex first!"....

Pretty weird huh??? or am I overreacting....

That night he died from a stroke...havent talked to anyone about this chick since than, just really didnt know what to make of it...


Also, I am looking for feedback, please refrain from insults, I just got those on another board (firearms related)...

 

[darthvapor]

sounds like the juice isnt worth the squeeze. get away from here fast!! run now..I hope you turned it down and went to the hospital.

 

[GivaDogaBone]

Have sex, go to the hospital, never see her again.

 

[mtbazz]

thanx for the feedback guys...I dont have many close friends to turn to for stuff like this...Im glad I have this place...

 

[Pimpslapped]

I see absolutely no reason to knock on you personally for this. Unless you did decide to just stay there and have sex and missed on getting to the hospital. Hopefully that's not the case.

Run. Don't look back. Just go. You were dating this chick, your father went to the hospital with a potentially serious problem (As far as you knew at the time of the call). You tell the chick about the problem, that your father is in the hospital and you need to go see him. Instead of expressing concern, sympathy or anything of the sort she decides that the best way to keep you there is to invite you to have sex with her for the first time. In my opinion someone like that is not good for you.

Bear in mind the limited information I have to work with here... as far as I can see from what has been said this girl didn't care that your father was ill, she just didn't want you to leave her. Why? Reverse the situation. You're on a date with her, she gets the call and has to go to the hospital. What would your response to that be? "Oh don't go... or.. if you are, lets F**k first!"

Just my long winded two copper round things that won't buy crap anymore.

 

[mtbazz]

Pimpslapped....
Nope, I left for the hospital within ten minutes of finding out what happened....the situation is pretty much as I described with nothing really left out...
Thanks for the helpful input, its been a long and confusing six months, and while I did ditch this woman long ago, I had to be sure that i was not overreacting....

thanks again....in this day and age of dwindling personal relationships for alot of people, its comforting to know I can find feedback and input here....

 

[Pimpslapped]

I'd say then mtbazz, that any flaming of you was unjustified. At least as far as I can see.

I know all about dwindling personal relationships. These days I'm just barely a step above a hermit most of the time. People like the girl you speak of are one of the main reasons for that. Mind you, the other main reason is me, myself and I.

As for your overreacting, I don't think so. If you did care for her, it might have been worth trying to talk things over (At another time of course) and see if there was a valid reason for her reaction/behavior. But when it comes down to it... she acted in a way that I wouldn't accept from any of my friends, let alone any potential lover.

 

[NoNameNoshame]

She should have offered to go with..........that does sound pretty crazy.........maybe she's like some folks and gets turned on by tragic events.

Sorry about your dad.

 

[Pimp Aurora]

Did you germinate her?

 

[Deft]

Hey man let me tell you somthing, the internet is great for comunication and collaboration but I dont think its a very good place to find help with this kind of thing, you realy need to talk it over with somone who realy cares about you and knows you in life.

That being said, her reaction is quite odd.

 

[hazeywonder]

odd and insensitive... was it very late at night: maybe your sexy ways, got her all worked up and she just could part with giving it a go.. Have you talked to her yet and asked her why she acted this way?

very sorry to hear about your dad..