One of the most important pot questions..

[talos4]

Well, I have 2 sons, one is 7 and the other is 13. My wife tells me that my 13 year old knows me and her get baked. We tried everything to hide it, but he knows. He doesn't say anything about it, I think he knows what he's being told about MJ isn't really true, and already at his age he already does not trust the system or the government (maybe there is hope). Anyway, what the fuck do I do now? My kid knows I smoke pot. I suppose this means he will soon. Well, he gets great grades, has very high morals, cares about people and principles, so I guess if he was 16 doing it in the safety of someones basement I wouldn't freak out, not if he keeps doing as good as he is. But for now, what do I do? I'd be happy just to go on like this, a silent understanding, but that doesn't answer the question of what if he starts doing it real soon, too soon because of this. There's more to consider too. So what should I do?

 

[Guest]

You should educate him on it and tell him if he was to smoke that you wish it wouldn't be till he was 18, and if he did try it or is doing it to let ya'll know.

 

[Guest]

First I'd explain to him all the reasons it's been kept illegal,and I'd impress on him the difference between it and drugs like heroin and cocain.I'd explain to him its a big thing only because the gov't makes it a big thing,but its an adult thing nontheless.I'd tell him the truth about amotivational syndrome,that if the gov't tested the same amount of non-smokers they find the same number of lazy motherfuckers..But that at a young age potential for abuse is heightened.I'd explain to him that even though he likely feels that he is,he and his brain are not full grown,and adding any substance to it could prove to be reckless.But most of all I'd explain to him that under the current prohibition,exposure to MJ without exposure to other substances is unlikely.For this reason alone,I would ask him to refrain from it for me.I have no kids bro,so I just substituted what I'd say to my Jerrydog in that situation..

 

[talos4]

I've already had a serious talk with him about MJ, that it's not all bad but it some ways can be for a teenager or younger person, but I sure haven't covered me doing it. Thats another post I need to make, how and why I started doing it. I'll have to post that but it's long and personal and ugly. But guess what, I'm one of the people you here about where pot literally saved their life. I went through and illness for 14 years that led me to 1,500 ER visits, lost everything, suffering beyond words, and POT is what got me everything back including my health and mind. I'll have to post the story, but I was pumped full of time release morphine at the end and told have a nice death. Now I work out 8 hours a week and I'm alive, no more hospitals, ER's, drugs, god what a mess it was. I'll have to post it, it would be one of the most important posts you've read about what this stuff can do for someone. I'll write it out in Word and post it real soon. God what an ugly story though, don't know if the mods would allow it, pretty ugly story when things were at the end. But I would defend this stuff now with my life.

 

[Guest]

Hey,unlimited use has relieved me of a 30 year plus nagging alcohol/dumbass problem for close to four years now,it has my vote!

 

[Neuronaut]

Treat him like a man, give it to him straight. He'll understand. Tell him that his mind is still developing and that pot could have negative effects on him at such a young age but soon as he's old enough that you would like to be the first to try it with him if he decides too. Tell him the story about how it saved your life... tell him about how stupid the war on drugs is and how some drugs could literally destroy your life and then there are those that are unfairly put into the same category. Thats what I would do.

 

[talos4]

My wife says he has a pretty good idea pot is what got me over it, but he didn't see it, I left my wife and sons to go through this so they wouldn't have to watch. Now they live in this town too, they moved here after my wife got the house sold. We're not together, but see each other and are trying. I'm affraid what we went through together was too much. Wish pot could fix my marriage like it did my health.

 

[talos4]

I'm 43 and she is the only woman I have ever been with. I started with her when I was 16. But after what I went through it's like my soul died and now I have a new one. Psychologists say it's a defense mechanism in the brain where you just become another person, so you don't kill yourself. Happens very rarely. Plus, I was on narcotics and high doses for 13 years, so I didn't lay memory down right, and it really makes life hard. Not sure who I am sometimes. But I'm better in every way, too bad it cost me my wife. She begs me to come home, but I can't, don't know who she is now. People are not suppose to have things like this happen

 

[B.C.]

Treat him like a man, give it to him straight. He'll understand. Tell him that his mind is still developing and that pot could have negative effects on him at such a young age but soon as he's old enough that you would like to be the first to try it with him if he decides too. Tell him the story about how it saved your life... tell him about how stupid the war on drugs is and how some drugs could literally destroy your life and then there are those that are unfairly put into the same category. Thats what I would do.

This is how I handled it with my kids.Not ta sound like a dickhead but that,that doesn't kill us makes stronger! and ta barrow another quote from Neuronaut "Now is all we have" give it a chance if ya still love her.Good luck ta you my friend! Take care...BC

 

[talos4]

This is what i thought u guys would say. Kinda what i thought i had to do.

 

[genkisan]

I'm 43 and she is the only woman I have ever been with. I started with her when I was 16. But after what I went through it's like my soul died and now I have a new one. Psychologists say it's a defense mechanism in the brain where you just become another person, so you don't kill yourself. Happens very rarely. Plus, I was on narcotics and high doses for 13 years, so I didn't lay memory down right, and it really makes life hard. Not sure who I am sometimes. But I'm better in every way, too bad it cost me my wife. She begs me to come home, but I can't, don't know who she is now. People are not suppose to have things like this happen

If you don't know who she is....then go the fuck over there and FIND OUT!!


Losing your childhood sweetheart and mother of yer kids for ANY reason short of death is just not an option, esp if she wants you back with her to make the family work.


Go get whatever grips you need to get on yerself and GET HER BACK, laddie....you will never forgive yerself if you don't.

 

[tngreen]

im with the others, talk to him like a man and he will respect you for it. also, get to know your wife again and see if she is still the one you love. she wants you back man, give her a chance!

 

[imnotcrazy]

I have to agree with my buddy Genkisan, I gave up far too many in my time too man. Why shouldn't you go find out if you can make things work, if not for her or yourself for the kids. At least you could again become a bigger part of their lives.

 

[idontgivenames]

beat his ass and tell him to clean the hosue, and if he tells anyone you'll kill him.

 

[bagseed77]

beat his ass and tell him to clean the hosue, and if he tells anyone you'll kill him.

my mom did that ,it doesnt work,
a teenagers gonna do what they do
i know you coulnt tell me shit at that age
pray he keeps away from the losers, there are
smart stoners, creative artsy fartsy stoners.
i was an athelete stoner myself,burn one on the way to the gym.

and yes at least try to reconcile with your wife,
ive never heard of a mucho monogamous relationship,
one woman,WOW,ive only been with my wife for 7 years
and i thought i was the man for not cheating, but did with
everywoman besides her.
shit,sow some oats befor you go back,i would,if yall arent together now
im sorry, im high

 

[Bubble~licious]

It's a tough spot to be in, I got kids myself, they were about 10 years old when we had the "talk". I handled it differently with each one, but basically started with...
I sat down with each of them and explained to them what cannabis meant to me, we also talked about what they learned in school. IMO it's important to discuss what they THINK they already know, start there and make sure you do your homework, provide facts vs. just opinions. I've always stressed to my children to stand up for what they believe in, providing it does not hurt anyone, so I was able to work this into my stance on cannabis. I've told my kids that not everyone views cannabis like I do and because of our laws and the way we are unfairly treated that it was important that they respect my privacy. What happens under my roof stays under my roof, if they have questions or want to talk about it, to trust me and I will be honest with them. I think it's important not to scare your kids, but at the same time, they need to know that the repercussions can be harsh if they start blabbing to people.

 

[talos4]

Well what they learn in school is: It's evil, will destroy your life, causes cancer, heart disease, you'll grow a third head, gateway drug, blah blah blah. I told him why it's really illegal, the greed, bad politics, ect. I also told him it's not smart to do when your brain is still forming physically and emotionally, I've covered it all except me doing it. Of course, he also notices I'm not dead, he's not getting up at 2 AM so I can go to the ER, I'm not on Morphine, I work out, I'm happier, I think he's getting it. I will talk to him more. I wish I knew more about getting women, I don't have experience with that, never got the chance. My wife actually wants me to be with a couple, she thinks after what I went through it might actually help our marriage. I hope it will work out. My wife even knows the saying "there are some things only another women can fix"