Leaving the nest...

[Feyd]

I'm currently finishing up packing my room. Mainly clothing and things like that. I was wondering about my future and whether or not I have a good plan. Then I started getting worried about whether or not this is a good idea, but then I thought to myself that I should have moved out a long time ago. I just turned 20 a few days ago. Most of my friends my age either live at home or live somewhere close to the college they go to. So maybe it isn't unreasonable for me to live at home.
I remember my Dad moved out when he was 17 and joined the military and, he lived in a shithole with my mom and had 3 kids. Then he went to college and now makes 6 figures. So I guess I'm not really ruining myself by moving out. I'm going to be living with my brother, his girlfriend, and my 6 month old nephew (who is by far the coolest person in the house).

So I'm wondering, when did you guys move out of the house? Do you regret it?

Just keep telling myself think positive thoughts... this is just a transition into a stable life... and maybe I'll win the Charlotte lottery. And maybe if I keep thinking happy thoughts I'll be able to fly and shoot rainbows out of my ass that cure cancer!

 

[Verite]

I left home at 16. Never went back and never regretted it at all. I still managed to graduate high school six months early and went right from there into a two year degree. None of which I would have done if I stayed at home. To me there isnt any comparission to being independent.

 

[green_grow]

it's something that we all must do, sooner or later .
keep thinking those happy thoughts, and good luck with the rainbows, etc. !

 

[high_hopes]

I left at 19 and did it mostly on my own. Gotta do it sooner or later. Don't want to be 30 and still living at home, like a friend of mine.

Go now and enjoy it!

 

[PhenoMenal]

I didnt move out till i was 25 and I'm glad i waited that long - it gave me the time to build up a good financial base and get my life into order, so that when I did move out I was able to buy a nice home straight away and not have to stuff around with renting or anything like that, and you know what they say - rent money is dead money

 

[dignityx]

I left when I was 21. May be I ought to have left earlier, but I studied at university at that time and had not much money - it's much cheaper to live with your parents. And when you have left you realize what a high standard of service that was at home, e.g. the clothes washed, the food made ,the dishing done etc..... I never regretted it.

 

[Feyd]

I left when I was 21. May be I ought to have left earlier, but I studied at university at that time and had not much money - it's much cheaper to live with your parents. And when you have left you realize what a high standard of service that was at home, e.g. the clothes washed, the food made ,the dishing done etc..... I never regretted it.

Well, I do my own laundry, make my own food (I don't buy all of it, though) and do my own dishes. But I get what you are saying... it is nice to not have to pay all the bills, even though I still like to help out when I can.

I guess I'm sort of anxious about moving because I'll be moving to Charlotte which is 4 hrs away so I won't be able to see my friends hardly at all... no weed connects--though I could buy a bunch each time I come down to visit or something to bring with me

 

[Depths Of OG]

I left home the week I turned 18. I wish I would have stayed at home much longer, just for financial reasons. Living at home allows you to build a solid financial foundation. I've since obtained my masters degree, and I live in an amazing house, however, it would have been accomplished with much more ease had I lived at home longer.

 

[FRANKENBLUNT420]

wanted to be out on my own alot sooner than what my mother wanted. just tired of living under those rules. her fears meant strict living. it was hell at times. mom left the apt to me and that asshole i married, got divorced. then started livin with my pop. perfect growing environment but not the cleanest. figured i would start out by renting my own room. had to go cause the feeling i was being jerked on the rent was too much to bare. moved back in with pop and when i was gonna get things str8, ended up finding the perfect woman for me.

to anyone i say , use that time at home to get your crap str8, school, money and then bounce out the right way. i know for NY renting is a fools game and its honestly overrated. for what you do/would pay in rent, save up and put a down payment on a house. independance and instant grow space, sky's the limit!!

 

[Dr Dog]

I moved out as soon as I was done high school
Moved into a place with a woman. About 50 or so women later, same situation

 

[Cannabal]

I moved out when i was 50 years old.

 

[Old Man Time]

I flew from the nest when I was 18. I already was working on a fishing boat.....so I had room and board....and I already had a good $$$ job. I thought the transition went well until the season was over and I couldnt live on the boat in dry dock. So I did the next best thing....moved in with my older sis and split the rent she had at her apt. After blowing 25gs of saved doe from fishing....I had to crawl back to my island and go fishing again. Only stayed with my folks when I was in port for a night or two.

But shit...that seems like eons ago....but thx for the trip down memory lane.

 

[Guest]

I got booted out at the age of 16, a year or so after I had dropped out of high school. I was very independent from a very young age and didn't have the patience for high school's fluffy courses and cliquey atmosphere. I don't regret any of it for a second, although I often wonder how things would have gone differently if I had gone to a more vocationally oriented high school. Being independent is the best thing you can ever do for yourself, moving out on your own can be overwhelming at first, but IMO you're not a complete person until you do. Good luck

 

[teddybud]

well if your in charrlotte... your not dry on connect there are plenty of people there... just hang out at the headshops and you'll find someone.. moving... it can be good.. just don't loose track of your money or your ****ed.

 

[vintner]

Feyd: Sounds like you've gotten some good advice above. I have to wounder after reading all those responces...You never mentioned WHY you're moving out. I think it would be a bad idea to leave home because you're not getting along w/your folks or someone else in the house. Fix things first, if that's the case, then go. There are always extenuating circomstances of course. Abuse or abusive relationships.
As stated above, moving out is a big step and offers a lot of independance. You grow up really fast when you're the one responsible for paying the bills on time and keeping the fridge stocked. I guess I'm saying, make sure you're leaving for the right reasons, not just cause you're 20 now and you feel it's time to go. My advice... Leave when YOU feel it's time. Live alone for a while when you can afford to do so. And pick your room mates VERY carefully. A year is an awfully long time to wait for a lease to run out when you're living w/a thief or a narc or a psycho, and you can't afford to move. Just my 2 pennies

P.S. I forgot to mention a funny spot I heard on the news earlier this week. The Greek government is apparently investing several hundred mill on a study to figure out why their men (30's, 40's +) don't want to move out on their own and get married. Ha Ha. It's nice to know our own government isn't the only one spending millions on useless s**t.

 

[waydee]

Left home at 19 to work in a different city, decided that wasnt for me, enrolled in university here and as far as I know i'll be here for the next 4 years.

I think 18/19/20 is about the right age, I really cant imagine living with my parents anymore... would drive me crazy. The time comes for all people that they must start taking some responsibilities - you've gotta get into the practice of budgeting, living within your means etc now otherwise its going to come as a huge shock later.

 

[Wiimote]

I moved out just a couple weeks before my 19th birthday. Did it in a big way too, moved from the Atlantic coast, to the middle of the Pacific. I knew one person on the entire island, and did not want to even think about her once I got there (long story). I spent over 3 years on that island, thousands of miles away from everything, and everyone I grew up around. Looking back, that was nuts. At the time it was very scary, and yes very hard, but damn was it fun!

Anyway, move out when it feels right to you. And move where feels right. You never know what is going to happen, so catch the wave when you feel it, and ride that puppy till you reach the shore.

 

[TwoOhSix!]

I'm in a similar situation Feyd, I'm 20 and living at home right now. As you said, most of my friends either live at home or in dorms/houses at their universities. I want to move out soon, but I want to wait until I find a good place to move into with some good people. I don't want to live in a single apartment or with random douchebags.
Hopefully you get along with your brother, otherwise you might be moving into more of the same old sh!t. But you'll find out that the absence of the parental nagging is very peaceful . That and you don't have to worry about being super blazed or the house smelling like weed.

 

[soulfly22583]

I left home at 24. My parents told me that if I went to school then I could stay at home and not worry about working. Well i didn't like not having ANY money to go out with my friends and shit so I just started working and supporting myself. My parents were happy and let me do my thing till it came time to help around the house. Finally when they moved last year I packed up my boxes and found a room by school. Its been just over a year now and its been one hell of an adventure.

Its gonna be crazy at first but just roll with the punches. The biggest issue your gonna run into is money - plain and simple. Just be careful at first till you get a hold of your finances then youll be fine.


good luck!

 

[The Uncola]

I left home for the Freshmen Dorms of a "major midwestern university" at 18 and never returned full time. I spent a few Summers at home though during College. As soon as I graduated with the BS, I jumped in the car, drove 1000 miles west and never looked back. Well, I still go back, but only for major holidays on occasion. I got lots of parental support during the college years, which is a luxury that not everyone gets. I can't imagine being kicked out at 16-18 with no place to go. I have met some of these kids in this situation recently and I wouldn't want to trade places- no thanks.