Help me make my next big life decision

[space cadet]

Ok so i live in a college town that i really hate. i dont go to college although my roommates/friends do. my roomies dont smoke and dont like it when i smoke. I have signed a nine month lease at the apartment i am living in right now.

lately i have really had the urge to move back in with my parents in the town i grew up in... i have many more like minded friends there and plus i miss my dog. i have no job at the moment but is about time for me to get one again.

the only thing that is keeping me here is that i feel like a made a commitment to my friends when i signed the lease. would it be horrible for me to just give my friends the rest of my rent for the year and move? just curious what other people would do in my situation. thanks

 

[pieceofmyheart]

I can't imagine they would be upset if you gave them your share of the rent. By the way, that is very mature and responsible of you to do that and not just up and move out.

If you want to go home......go home sweetie.

 

[Chamba]

here's my suggestion

tell them your roomates you have to move out in 14 days due to personal reasons ...and then tell them you will pay for the full costs of advertising the room and rental of the room until a new roomie is found...

that's fair on both sides, should take less than a 14 days...but is something that is best discussed before you moved in.

 

[treble]

if you move out who's name is the lease in? if its in yours I would make sure that got changed. Dont want to be responsible if they trash the joint

other than that do what makes you feel happy. I moved back home couple times before I got it sorted

treb

 

[mushupork5]

get a job and find something to do in your new town. i think the reason you arfe feeling homesick is becuase you are bored. find some new friends (pot smokers) and you will be alot happier nearly instantly. cmon, cs isn't all that bad. i'm actually going to be there next weekend.

 

[NOKUY]

Man I'm gonna be honest here.

Unless its an EMERGENCY dont wuss out and move back home. You signed a lease, you should honor it or help your roomies find a new person to replace you (someone of their choosing...not yours).

Your an adult now I assume (no more H.S. right?) ....If so then you def. should get a job, and some friends that have "common intrests", and NOT run back to where its "warm and fuzzy" and "comfortable"...thats just not gonna help you.

If you really want to move back to your hometown...find a job and your own place...surely if u grew up there u probably have friends there that are on their own, and may need a roomate.

I have friends that moved away after HS wether to go to college, or to try a new town.....and a-lot of them moved back home ....a lot of those are still there in their late 20's/early30's.....you know what they are today?...LOSERS

suckin' up a crappy situation is part of life that you will have to do more than once in life, I guarantee it....and if you start looking for the easy way out all the time, then you'll never be able to handle a real disaster.

thats just my advice, it doesnt sound like your situation is all that bad...u may just need to grow up a bit, and thats all part of it. (not trying to be rude at all...I've been in your shoes)

good luck
-Yukon

 

[Trancerman]

Man I'm gonna be honest here.

Unless its an EMERGENCY dont wuss out and move back home. You signed a lease, you should honor it or help your roomies find a new person to replace you (someone of their choosing...not yours).

Your an adult now I assume (no more H.S. right?) ....If so then you def. should get a job, and some friends that have "common intrests", and NOT run back to where its "warm and fuzzy" and "comfortable"...thats just not gonna help you.

If you really want to move back to your hometown...find a job and your own place...surely if u grew up there u probably have friends there that are on their own, and may need a roomate.

I have friends that moved away after HS wether to go to college, or to try a new town.....and a-lot of them moved back home ....a lot of those are still there in their late 20's/early30's.....you know what they are today?...LOSERS

suckin' up a crappy situation is part of life that you will have to do more than once in life, I guarantee it....and if you start looking for the easy way out all the time, then you'll never be able to handle a real disaster.

thats just my advice, it doesnt sound like your situation is all that bad...u may just need to grow up a bit, and thats all part of it. (not trying to be rude at all...I've been in your shoes)

good luck
-Yukon

where do I sign up for the warm and fuzzy com-fort-able??




*signs the loser sheet gladly*

 

[persianp]

I would say do what makes yo comfortable. But the best thing first is to see if you can sublease, it should say on the lease...if you can sublease then you don't have to worry about forking over the cash...also if you're not into the situation, maybe your housemates aren't either...talk to them, because the worst thing to do is to try to make a crappy situation work when it's not, trust me. I've lived with many people in many houses, and have only had two bad situations, and the best thing would have been to leave (i tried in one sitauation, but like an idiot I was convinced not to, and then it only got worse). So, don't drag out something that's not working, be open with your mates, and live your life.

 

[Martha Stewart]

Move out honorably.
Find a smaller place that allows Your Dog.

You'll be happier.

Martha S.

 

[Silver Bullet]

the only thing that is keeping me here is that i feel like a made a commitment to my friends when i signed the lease. would it be horrible for me to just give my friends the rest of my rent for the year and move?

Yeah it'd be horrible. You'd be out a ton of money. Try to find someone else to take your place that your roomates will like. Really go out of your way to find someone that will fit in.

 

[specialk]

Move out and take their hi fi system and plasma tely with ya

 

[pieceofmyheart]

I totally disagree that anyone who moves home will become a loser, just don't agree.

I say if you want to go home , go home while you can. In 10 years, that probably wouldn't be an option, but for now it is. Who said you have to leave the home where you were raised and the family that loves you when you turn 18?

Follow your heart.

Then you could tell your friends and instead of giving them the entire lump sum, tell them you will pay your monthly share each month until they find another roommate. Hopefully they are good people and will look for a replacement and tell you when they find one.

Good luck

 

[sm0kateer4204]

im curious as to how you are even paying for anything like rent without a job?

 

[SEEDYNONO]

yeah a whole year of rent up front that you'd just give to em? man if you've got cash to waste like that screw a job.. buy a house you can live in by yourself and grow and smoke all the weed you want and make a clone of your dog..

 

[kurlyq2g]

are you sure you want to ask US? i think some of the people here smoke drugs like marijuana.. my teacher told me marijuana and other drugs impare decisions.....

 

[vonforne]

I totally disagree that anyone who moves home will become a loser, just don't agree.

I say if you want to go home , go home while you can. In 10 years, that probably wouldn't be an option, but for now it is. Who said you have to leave the home where you were raised and the family that loves you when you turn 18?

Follow your heart.

Then you could tell your friends and instead of giving them the entire lump sum, tell them you will pay your monthly share each month until they find another roommate. Hopefully they are good people and will look for a replacement and tell you when they find one.

Good luck

Spoken from a mothers heart. Might want to take this advice here.

 

[Guest]

[/QUOTE]i dont go to college although my roommates/friends do. my roomies dont smoke and dont like it when i smoke.

Do you like to suffer? Why did you get in that situation? I wouldn't consider as friends, people who disliked my smoking herb . Just my opinion.

I would find a vague family emergency excuse ASAP and tell them you will hang in there until you find a roomy who is a cool joc who hates Cannabis smoke that they can get along with as your replacement.LOl. POMH has good advice, specially if you have family nearby, they are some of your only true friends...
Good Luck.

 

[Allusive]

I say get a job and make some new friends. If it isn't working out, move back home, but don't move back in with your parents. I agree with pieceofmyheart that there is nothing wrong with moving closer to home, or even back in with your parents. However, I also agree with yukon in the sense that most everyone I know living with their parents hasn't developed a lot of personal responsibility or has self-esteem issues.

I think you need to be more specific about considering why you want to move back in with your parents.

If it is to avoid getting a job, you risk becoming addicted to the comfort they provide, and risk relying on it when you should be learning not to. My main worry is your sex life: I would be depressed as hell if I had to live with my parents. The free food does not compensate for no sex, IMHO!

I say give it some time, do yourself some favors like getting more ganja friendly roommates, a job, new hobby maybe. Always though:

Follow your heart.

Good luck!