girls girls girls

[tbc OG]

So, i'm in a bit of an odd situation here involving a girl. Long story short, me and this girl have liked each other on and off for about 4 years. We've never done anything about it until this last week, when we started hooking up...and now we are pretty much all over each other every time we see each other. We don't really know what we want out of it, and neither of us really care right now. Thats not the issue.

Problem is I know at least a couple of my friends have a crush on this girl, including my new roommate. He's got a pretty big crush on her, like he gets pissed when I go chill with her alone. And he thinks we are just hanging out, if he knew the truth he'd be furious....So anyway, we have been hiding it from him. Like we will both walk into another room and start making out while he is right around the corner and then separate when he walks in or i spent the night at her house last night and we just said we both passed out after he left, even though we were up until like 4am.

I don't know what to do because I know if I tell him he's gonna be pissed and we are stuck living together for another year.

I think my best argument is asking him to put himself in my shoes, but I know thats not gonna make it any better.

Is our friendship fucked no matter what? And when should I tell him?? I'm thinking tonight....

 

[OneWingedImp]

How do you know he isnt doing the same thing to you?

 

[diggle]

It's none of his business who this girl chooses to have sex with....it's not like you did it to spite him. If he can't handle it then he can't get past his own insecurities and IMO he's not that good of a friend....

 

[ItsGrowTime]

Crappy situation but its best to just be straight up with him. Would you rather he find out from you in a man-to-man talk or he find out when he walks in and your dick is planted firmly in her ass? Take your pick. If hes that much of a jerk that he would genuinely be ANGRY at you then he's probably not a true friend anyway.

Any security concerns? Meaning like if he goes off do you have an active grow or anything that he could screw you over on?

 

[Guest]

Man that is tough. Here is my opinion on the subject.

I think you should tell him straight up that you're going to hook up with her, and thats that. I wouldn't mention the fact that this has been going on for quite some time because it serves no purpose other than to clear your conscience.

If he has a problem with it, tough. He isn't your friend if he reacts in a negetive fashion, and if you're growing with his knowledge - watch out! Better to find out that he is not a true friend *before* the chips are down.

 

[The Anchorman]

It's situations like this that seperate the men from the boys.

Tell him ASAP, the longer you wait the harder it is and the more hurt he will be. He probably already has his suspisions though.

It sucks when there is friendship involved, even more so when you are stuck with each other for a year longer.

Tell him to grow up and deal with it.

If he get's angry, tell him it's his own fault, he should of stepped up to the plate and tried to hook up with her.

Don't let your life be controlled by someone who is scared to actually live it.

 

[TNTBudSticker]

You know each other for 4 years and now someone likes your friend?

Grow a set of balls and act like she's your GF...so that means hands off...

Quit acting nonchanlant

This situation can be worse like your room-mate had her as a friend and she likes you better than him...but you say its not

I knew of a room mate that hitted on every girl that came to the house cuz he owned the house and it caused alot of trust issues with room mates...That kind of guy is a jerk wad.

 

[zamalito]

Be honest with him and if he has a problem with it allow it to escalate to a fight and the problem should be done after that. Guys who get pissed off over shit like that typically have alpha male issues and will normally be a closer friend after one of you kicks the others ass. But if he gets pissed off and you don't let it escalate to a fight your gonna be stuck living with a person who despises you for another year.

 

[J0sh1]

A women? Threatning a friendship? Seems there was no real friendship to begin with cause if something as minuscle as some ass can get him against you then you really need to rethink what you consider a friend is. And you live with this person? You need to pick better friends to be roomies man.

 

[fr33th3w33d]

its the chicks decision man, she chose you i guess, or you were quick enough to act first..

either way, evolution is f'in your friend in the A

 

[TNTBudSticker]

Guys who get pissed off over shit like that typically have alpha male issues and will normally be a closer friend after one of you kicks the others ass.

Sometimes,But most don't kiss and make up..Hell no!

That other person who starts crap doesnt have any respect to begin with anyways

 

[Pops]

I had a similar situation while I was in the military over 40 years ago. I was forced to room with a guy for 9 months who had a horrible crush on a girl with whom he didn't stand a chance. Little did he know that I had been balling her for a couple of months. There was no love between this girl and I, we just loved fucking each others brains out.

My roomie believed that he had a true love for this girl.She barely acknowledged that he existed. I never did tell him about our relationship, nor did I tell him about the 7 other guys that I knew in our squadron that had also fucked her.

Somewhat strange to sneak around trying to not let him know, but I had to live with him and is was easier than confrontation. We were never good friends, just roommates.To my knowledge, he never did find out.

 

[tbc OG]

I guess I forgot to mention this kid has been as close to a best friend as I've had. Its not like we didn't have a good friendship, we have been friends for about four years as well. In fact we all met around the same time.

I think he's always had a crush on this girl, but she's never done anything to make him think there is anything there, which is what I don't get. Why does he keep trying. I stepped back for a while, to see if maybe they would get together, and when it was obvious they wouldn't I stepped up and took my chances and it worked.

 

[The Iceman]

blame it on the girl bro...tell him she is all over you.... Tell him if it really bothers him you'll stop...my opinion is NEVER let a women EVER come between friends... if its gonna put a wedge between you guys find another girl as there is so many beautiful women in the world that don't cause drama. Sounds like you boy has some insecurity problems though.

 

[reaperz]

my take on the situation

risking friendship like that, almost your best friend, last time i checked best friends never fuck'd each others crushes lol. tell him straight up the real deal. if he cant handle it his problem; but do you to really rik your friendship, find another girl, they come a dime a dozen

 

[Guest]

Bros before hos
depending on how she blows
and if he still aint straight by the 3rd or 4th date
punch that faggot in the nose.

Man up, playa! It does come down to one thing that we tend to hear alot on tv & in real life situations: "Is she worth potentially losing a friendship over". The only thing I can say is that these girls tend to be really "crafty"(as the Beastie Boys put it), so watch your back. But knowing a girl for 4 years does mean something. I believe it was Ron Popeil who said, and I quote, "Hit it and forget it".

 

[tokinsmokin]

She Doesn't like him, she likes you! Its as easy as that.

 

[DirtDevil]

my guess would be shes fuckin him to

 

[Nikijad4210]

Four words for your buddy:


You snooze,
You lose.


End of discussion. Period.

 

[Guest]

these situations are always gnarly...i wouldn't tell him unless u plan on dating her seriously...i would be more discreet until u decide that...i would encourage ur friend to get laid if he's hung up on this girl, does she have any friends?