Busted in Illinois

[village green]

Shows how vulnerable every one of us really is.

Not everyone but most...live the life of a hermit and feel safe or live a normal life and lay youself open.

Hoping for a Merry Christmas for you Skunkpunk. Who knows, when you're old you may look back on this year with a different eye.

 

[otis33]

Happy holidays skunk punk, sending good vibes your way. You will get through this shit storm and b4 a smarter and better man

 

[redbudduckfoot]

bummer man. Hope your kids have a good Christmas at least.

rbdf

 

[im me]

Trust me man take the plea agreement you don't want to risk the trial prison isn't a joke I know. Take the plea and.move on with your life. Whatever you decide I wish you the best. Take the plea

 

[DimeBag65]

i havnt had a chance to read through the whole thread, but me .2 ..

i dont know if they do this in your state, but if you can work a deal where the felony will be dropped to a misdemeanor after you complete your 2 years of probation, fines, etc that is exactly what i would be pushing for, if you have to find a new DA who is willing to work this deal, i would tell my lawyer that if they are interested in you plea bargaining that your conditions are to not wind up with a felony on your record....

There is a DA willing to work all sorts of deals just to get another conviction under their belt, i had a small court case that i had to find another DA to accept the conditions i was looking for....

Best wishes and happy holidays

 

[talktosamson]

Take the plea, do your probation and get on with your life. If you go to trial, and cost the state money they will hand you your ass and you'll end up in jail. Trust me, I was in a similar position 5 yars ago looking at a class B felony. Just take the plea and go on with your life.

 

[skunkpunk]

Thanks Everyone, Happy Holidays to all of you as well!!

 

[organibis]

I'd get out of that house as soon as possible. The surest fire way for your wife to get custody of the kids and pretty much whatever else she wants out of the divorce is to go down the domestic violence path. The laws are very helpful to women who need them and that is a good thing but, unfortunately, the system is easily gamed by the less moral among us. You will be shocked to find out how easy it is to get charged with Domestic Violence. Ask your lawyer to educate you on dom V laws in your state.

 

[berbes]

i didn't read the full post, but from what i did read, i'd take a box of jurors and tell them the story of your wife's complicity in the grow, as well as her involvement with a man outside of her marriage vows and their plan to get you arrested (out of the picture) and torn from your kids lives.

 

[skunkpunk]

i didn't read the full post, but from what i did read, i'd take a box of jurors and tell them the story of your wife's complicity in the grow, as well as her involvement with a man outside of her marriage vows and their plan to get you arrested (out of the picture) and torn from your kids lives.

berbes, I would like nothing more than to take this to trail. But if i lose it doesn't mean I just go to jail for a couple years. It means my kids lose the only stable parent they have, and my "wife" wins. I go away and she doesn't even have to deal with it. I just disappear......

I'm still at a loss as to what the right thing to do really is?

The next court date is coming up soon. I can take the deal and get it over with and move on with my life as best I can, or I can drag it out forever and a day and take a gamble in a small republican dominated county. I know if I challenge the state and tie up their system they will make me pay for it if I do lose.

If I could legally use her emails in court I would have a very good chance, but that falls into Fed felony privacy rights blah blah blah.

 

[LeeROI]

If the local lawyers say forget about a trial, I'd have to think they know the "lay of the land".

<<Luckily I did get to keep my job, And they are being very supportive. They think this is a bunch of bullshit. They said they would have bailed me out of jail if they had known I was locked up.
I plan on continuing negotiations with the prosecutor, but all lawyer I have talked to have given me the same answer, "I would not recommend taking this to trial."
They are currently offering me first offender probation: 2 years probation, 30 hours comm. service, a couple grand in fines and fees. If I complete all these things and serve 50% of the probation I can ask for early termination. Granted I do everything well and don't violate. Case gets dismissed, then I can expunge it 5 years after the dismissal.>>

 

[skunkpunk]

I'd get out of that house as soon as possible. The surest fire way for your wife to get custody of the kids and pretty much whatever else she wants out of the divorce is to go down the domestic violence path. The laws are very helpful to women who need them and that is a good thing but, unfortunately, the system is easily gamed by the less moral among us. You will be shocked to find out how easy it is to get charged with Domestic Violence. Ask your lawyer to educate you on dom V laws in your state.

Wish it was that easy, I can't walk away from my kids though. I made it though Christmas, that was a big thing for me. They needed to enjoy the holidays. Personally this time of year makes me sick to my stomach.(it was thanksgiving thru Xmas 2011 when I found out about the affairs originally).
I won't let her put me in a position to play the Don V card on me. I am currently sitting back letting her play her little games and letting her think she has her thumb on me. But the tables will turn, at least I hope they will. My kids are my life, I am the man I am today because of them and if they weren't in my life I don't know what I would do.
I'm so financially, emotionally, and physically exhausted anymore its really hard to keep hope let alone gain any sort of ground. I will make it though, i have been through this much and haven't given up.

 

[SeaMaiden]

berbes, I would like nothing more than to take this to trail. But if i lose it doesn't mean I just go to jail for a couple years. It means my kids lose the only stable parent they have, and my "wife" wins. I go away and she doesn't even have to deal with it. I just disappear......

I'm still at a loss as to what the right thing to do really is?

The next court date is coming up soon. I can take the deal and get it over with and move on with my life as best I can, or I can drag it out forever and a day and take a gamble in a small republican dominated county. I know if I challenge the state and tie up their system they will make me pay for it if I do lose.

If I could legally use her emails in court I would have a very good chance, but that falls into Fed felony privacy rights blah blah blah.

You can't use her emails?

I think your heart is telling you, and your heart is telling you to take what will amount to the easier route. I think your reasoning is sound. Unfortunately, at this point, you're going to pay no matter what.

 

[skunkpunk]

You can't use her emails?

i don't think I can, it violates privacy laws for me to access her email. I am going to run it by my attorney still. She states in one of her emails before she even did this that "I will have him by the balls if he ever tries to take my kids from me again" as well as discussions about her being involved in growing.

i know it wasn't right to go through her email, but if you only knew half of the stuff she has been saying and doing behind my back it would make anyone sick to their stomach. I feel bad violating her privacy, but at the same time if i didn't i'd be sitting here clueless. So it is what it is. And if i can convince the judge to allow a court order to get those emails i could get off scott free.

 

[Crusader Rabbit]

I can't believe you haven't shown these emails to your attorney yet. Is there any possibility that one of the people who has legitimately received these emails would consider turning them over to the court? Of course posing this question runs the risk of your knowledge of these emails being revealed to your wife.

 

[skunkpunk]

I can't believe you haven't shown these emails to your attorney yet. Is there any possibility that one of the people who has legitimately received these emails would consider turning them over to the court? Of course posing this question runs the risk of your knowledge of these emails being revealed to your wife.

I just found them, I keep finding bread crumbs. Then when i start digging deeper I find out that she is a complete lunatic and is on a path of self destruction and planning on taking me down in the process. Like i had stated earlier I did not want to pry into her personal life and violate her privacy. But when it has come as far as it has I broke down and started looking at this for what it really is.

 

[Crusader Rabbit]

I don't know if you understood me. When you look at whom she has communicated her misdeeds to, is there anyone who would be willing to testify on your behalf?

 

[skunkpunk]

I don't know if you understood me. When you look at whom she has communicated her misdeeds to, is there anyone who would be willing to testify on your behalf?

No, it's covos between her and other men. Doubt they'd care to help, they just laughed and made jokes about it in their messages.

 

[skunkpunk]

Professional legal help needed immediately!! please Help!! My wife in a panic over me finding out about her affairs called the states attorneys office and admitted guilt. States attorney yelled at her and told her she was a liar, and that its was her fault for marrying someone like me and then he hung up on her. How is that even legal for him to omit an admissions of guilt, not only to said crime but to filing a false police report, obstruction of justice, and potentially perjury?!?!?! What if it was a murder case, he would have wrongly condemned a man to death and let a murderer go free.
Please if you know an attorney or are one or have any insight please help me. I go to court tomorrow and am expected to take the plea deal. Also she hit me with a computer monitor and he refused to press charges on her. I feel I am being railroaded and don't know what to do!!!

 

[5th]

Lawyer up.

Call one, now.

Just tell him/her what your being charged with.
That you have court tomorrow.
Will he represent you in the future?

Even if you can't afford a lawyer, you tell him you'll give him a retainer next week if he'll be your lawyer.

When you show up to plead tomorrow tell the court...or judge...that you've decided to retain legal councel and would like to hold the matter down for a few weeks for your lawyer to view the files.

If they agree you can tell the lawyer to go fuck himself and do what you need to do...this is just a stall tactic I used, nothing more. But I'm up in Canada...maybe our shits different.

Good luck regardless man, I've not only been in your damn shoes...I'm in 'em right now.