Anyone have friends like this?

[D Rock]

I HAD a friend who was always calling me asking if he could hang out, but only came around if there was weed to be smoked. He never comes around if there is no smoke. Well tonight we had it out over a bunch of text messages....I tried calling two or three times and he never answered but would text message me. Now that i have finished a grow and have a small stash I guess he thought he coukld just smoke for free until its all gone, Well I spent alot of money to get it right and finally complete a grow after 3 attempts. Over the past year or so I would say he has smoked just as much of my weed as I have and hasnt returned the favor but a couple of times. So I guess we are no longer friends, thats just the type of guy he is and to tell you the truth it just pisses me off that someone could be so selfish. I really havent lost anything cause I didnt really consider him as a good friend, he was just someone to hang out with who smokes ya know. This is something that we have been through before and I think this is the last straw. Oh well sorry for venting but I just had to say something about the whole situation. Peace out and stay high!

 

[panjo]

if he knows you grow try not to piss him off too much. it would be much better to explain to him you quit because of some reason next time he comes over. even take him around and show him how you have started to take your stuff apart to get rid of it or whatever. then cut your ties at a later date.

 

[Yummybud]

doesn't sound like a real friend to me, just a wants to smoke your weed lol. Most friends are fake anyways.

 

[D Rock]

this is something that i have thought of but I had to cut him off when I did due to the fact that Im married and he wants to be over here every night and then he brings his girlfriend so she can smoke too so it was absolutley necessary to do it when I did.

 

[D Rock]

doesn't sound like a real friend to me, just a wants to smoke your weed lol. Most friends are fake anyways.

Thats true. Its hard to find a true and sincere friend these days.

 

[marx2k]

Yeah, all of us have "friends" like that. I got rid of all of mine that act like that. Surprisingly, I have a lot more weed!

Those people are leeches and I always felt ashamed when I called this one leech when I had NOONE else to hang out with. It was irritating to do, and I knew he was only coming over for the herb.

On the same note, you ever throw a party and only your core group of friends is left over when the keg runs out?

****in' leeches...

 

[AbbieDoobie]

I had a so-called friend like that. He suspected I grew and always complemented my stash I'd bring around calling it "the flame", "da bomb", etc. just to stroke my ego. I'm married and have kids and he was single and had an apartment, so he thought that was what he was bringing to the relationship, a free place to smoke out. I would always bring the herb, most always pay for pizza and beer, etc. He then told shit about me to my family, and that was the last straw. He eventually moved away, so he's outta my life. But, I can't help but hear J-Roc from Trailer Park Boys sayin' to me..."You got played, sucka!" It sucks, but J-Roc's got a point. It was a learning experience, really, learning that most friends are fake and full of shit most of the time.

 

[George Hayduke]

Yeah I have had friends like that and I told them to get lost. I'm not the ****ing weed fairy ya' know. I don't have a problem with sharing at all, in fact i smoke my brother up everyday without a problem, just because he doesn't have a lot of money and he's family. but with friends who i'm not that close with and all we do is smoke together... meh, no loss now kick rocks. i feel like they are the same kind of people who would call you your friend and steal from you.

 

[HuffAndPuff]

It sucks, cuz you feel like an idiot. If you didn't see it, why not? If you did, why didn't you cut him out of your life sooner? Fcuk that noise. You'd be beating yourself up for being a kind, generous person, who was treating someone else as you want to be treated.

Yes- there are people who will try to take, take, take, as much as you are willing to give. But you are you, for you- not for them, if that makes any kind of sense. Ok, so in this instance, you are the good guy, this guy is a total mooching asshole. Guess who's the big winner?????

I guess I am saying there aren't enough of us kind hearted people out there, and I wouldn't want to lose another one of us. You can't let people like this dictate your behavior for the worse. If you do, the terrorists win.

Ok, I keed. They don't. But I can tell you that I have come to this conclusion very honestly. My best friend and then roomate in college was that guy, too. Except he was my 'best friend' ya know? So what the hell did I care if he never bought a bag. I mean, my rents hooked me up with some dough, and back then I was involved in some 'extracurricular' cash-generating activities. His parents gave him a credit card, but no cash for weed. I figured he'd hit me back by ordering food, or whatever. But it seemed like every time we went out seperately, he'd go buy drinks for the whole bar, and ring up a $200 tab to explain to his parents. Then when it came time to order, cuz we had the munchies from smoking my pot, he'd tell me he couldn't cuz his parents were going to kill him. Put that cycle on repeat for a year. Oh, let's not forget that at the end of it, he fcucked my girlfriend of 2 years.

So yeah, sometimes the people you think are your best friends are nothing more than VD carrying moochers. But ya know what? I ain't gonna let them ruin it for the good dudes like you. I'm gonna play it like I'm gonna play it, regardless. Just don't ever fcucking cross me though. I'll be your best friend, or your worst nightmare.

Count youself lucky bro. Oh, and like the other brohan said- if he knows you grow, and you guys 'had it out' you need to stabilize the sitch. People like this get pissed when they don't have weed, and they start thinking stupid thoughts. You should meet for a cup of coffee somewhere neutral, no weed. (would you have WANTED to chill with this guy, sans weed all that time?)

Apologize for losing your cool, tell him you guys had a good run of things for a while, but people just grow apart. You got a wife, you have to get serious, and SHE'S MADE YOU STOP GROWING cuz blahblahblah. That way, he won't wanna be over there, he wont think he has shit on you, and you can go on your merry way. Leave things on this sour note, and you're liable to come home to find everything gone, or worse. If I was so inclined, though, I'd just put your balls in a vice. See, Extortion is the gift that keeps on giving.

HuffAndPuff

 

[marx2k]

You can also go one further, clear out your growspace for a second, start talking about how you stopped growing, etc etc.. show him how nice and clean you were able to make the space.. make sure that bitch sees the empty space..

And then just cut ties and don't answer calls (why would he call if you don't have bud, anyway?). That's that.

 

[The End Is Near]

I've found it's just better(for me) to f*ck off and smoke alone, as people tend to be leeching asswipes. Not just with weed, but this whole "come on over and hang out" turns into "I need a ride here, there, etc." But it's semi-cool, seeing as how I eventually popped one of the guy's tire. I say semi-cool because he deserves far worse; I'd only be satisfied if I trashed up his whole goddamn vehicle.

That being said, I too am deeply disappointed in how much bullshit I've put up with, ie rides I've given, bratty little kid, and unnecessary drama from his welfare leeching, clown-car vagina having bitch of a wife. But I can take pleasure knowing they (guy and his wife) will split up due to their shitty, leechy personalities.

This may sound rash, immature, and downright stupid, but I'd suggest to those that got burned by such people to get them back somehow. I will forever regret that I never REALLY gave them what they deserve. Just do it under cover of night, w/ gloves, mask, etc, and before it's too late. Or I suppose the "smart" advice is to be the better person and let it go.

 

[George Hayduke]

Yeah I find I can't really smoke around to many people anyway so that kind of helps too. I remember when I was younger and you'd have friends over, who brought friends and they'd always leech on the blunt and not pitch in. Before you knew it you would have all sorts of heads on your blunt who you don't even know.

I'm glad I just smoke at home and really only with the person I live with now and my bro. So much more enjoyable.

 

[Stoner4Life]

not a friend but a neighbor who NEVER had his own weed, he wore out his welcome throughout our local stoner community. anyway not only was he a mooching stoner but both he and his wife were alchoholics as well, this paired with someone else turning them into the county for child neglect (I never saw any but NEVER visited their crib) while they were drinking/partying. So they're brought before the county social services dept. to get their due reward when suddenly Pam & Tony come up with an idea! They decided to narc me out as a dealer (he never bought & I never offered to sell him a bag!) living next door. They met with the head narc & by the end of their interview he told those two punks, "With what you've told us we need to get only a single sale from Dave & we'll take him down." I had no idea this shyt was going on at all.......
I came home one day to find someone walking away from my door, I asked him what he wanted & he asked if I was Dave, I told him yes and he said "Hey man you got any bags?" I said "What the fvck are you talking about? Get the fvck off of my property you mother fvcker, I'm going inside for a gun!" He was gone when I came back out (I had no idea this guy was a cop) but I noticed a friend of mine sitting on his front porch in the direction this guy took off. I called Mike & told him what happened, Mike told me to meet him down the road as phones were no good. Down the road he told me the story of the child neglect etc... his wife was a friend of Pam & Tony's and Pam had told her what they'd done! I learned about the entire meeting word for word!

Fvck was I hot! I knew the head narcotics officer (he was named as being in the social services office) and I read him the riot act when I called his office the next day! I screamed at him that I knew my neighbors narced me out & that he'd NEVER heard of me dealing otherwise (cause I didn't) except from these two 'CHILD BEATERS" I called them. He kept denying that he'd set up the sting, he acted like he was interested in finding the supposed 'bag buyer' at my home (he wasn't), and he accused me of either 'growing or buying' (he knew I stoned) weed from someone & he'd like to know who... "FVCK YOU!" was what he got from me.......

then he asked me what I'd hoped he was going to ask all along....... "Tell me Dave, where'd you here this nonesense about me trying to sting you?" I told him just as calm and sweet as I could....... "Well Detective Dunce, my neighbor felt horrible about narcing me out the other day. He stopped by that very night fessing up & crying about what he'd done and wanted to smoke a joint with me, which I obliged......."

All I heard was silence on the other end of the line, that silence that tells ya Detective Dunce was getting fvcking red in the face & was gonna fry those two fvckers when he could get ahold of them. He didn't know what to say as I'd caught him so off guard, I even threw in the "We need only one buy from Dave to take him down" line and he knew that my own ears were in that office. That fvcker was at a loss for words cause....... I GOTCHA!
mighty rare getting the complete drop on a police sting, if I'd known before the pigs tried their buy I'd have had even more fun at their expense.

 

[1TWISTEDTRUCKER]

I had people in my circle,way back in the day,but i've mannaged to keep the Sponges out of my life for the last 20yrs.

I'm prety sure we've all had these,well i'm not gonna get started.

PLEASE,PLEASE,,,Tell me you didn't let this idiot know about your grow.


PEACE;1TT

 

[panopticist]

Cheeba hawks are no good...
You can't have 'em hover in your circle for too long, or they'll get comfortable.
Instituting a bowl matching policy is a sure way to shoo them away.

Real friends hit back without even being asked...

 

[NOKUY]

sound advice in here on keeping theese peeps at least at an arms length away.

I knew 2 people like this ...1 was harmless, and we fuked w/ him all the time ...even got him to smoke a big ass bong hit of catnip w/ out him knowing.....he didnt care.

the other one tho....crip gangster, and a leech like a mutherfuker.

he knew we grew, and came by EVERYDAY w/ his 44oz mtn dew and pork rinds....

we started to shun him a bit at a time, and then quit answering the door or phone when he tried to holler.

....guess what? "his boys" jaked us for a QP and tried a 2nd jak armed robbery a week later....that didnt get them shit, but ran me out of town.


the whole fuked up story is on here somewhere....half the reason I keep to myself so much.

 

[D Rock]

Well this isnt exactly a punk kid we are talking about but I am becoming a firm believer in the policy of trust no one! Unfortunately this particular person knows that I grow but he quickly asked me when I was going to get started again a couple of days after I choped my plants and his whole logic behind the question was to know when I would be growing more so he could have even more weed to smoke. I told him that I was going to take a break for a long while, knowing that I really wasnt but I didnt want everyone and there mother knowing that I grow so I had already began telling him that i was going to take a break for a while. I guess I could sense this day coming soon that we would part ways and I would have to worry about him running his mouth about me growing. Oh well we live and learn and now from now on know one knows that I grow..........well......except you guys.

 

[George Hayduke]

I am becoming a firm believer in the policy of trust no one!

Become a believer in that attitude. These days most people seem to be rats, liars, thiefs, or all the above. The kind of people who only take from you and never give back are the same kind of people who will flip on you in a second when you don't have what they want anymore. Glad you got rid of that person. and your right if you feel like you got to talk about your plants do it here. you don't want another "friend" like that finding out.

 

[D Rock]

. you don't want another "friend" like that finding out.

tell me about it, I was constantly worrying who he was going to run his mouth to.

 

[marx2k]

What I'm amazed about is how many people have told me THEY grow and invited me to their grow and invited me to HELP them grow just because I knew what I was talking about when the topic of growing came up. People just LOVE to talk about it to others they have no reason to trust. It's pretty nuts. I guess they're lucky they told me instead of someone like the topic in this thread. People need to learn to shut their mouths. At my last workplace, I met 5 dudes who were all growing and told me, but not each other. And really, there was no real reason to tell me. All the info they got from me could've been gotten from ICMag (or Overgrow at that time). 4 of 5 of their grows turned out great and they stopped after that and I think it's probably a good thing they did.

But back to you, D Rock.. I'm glad you got rid of that chump. He needs to be out of your life and you need to make sure he doesn't resurface at a time when you least want him around (Let's say during your next flower cycle). That's why I mentioned showing an empty growroom. To convince the people in my life I stopped, I even went so far as to ask a few of the dudes if THEY knew where to find a bag. So they knew I was out, and I was looking for someone else with some. Haven't heard from them in about a year and a half.