Heyas!
Ran into something very interesting and just had to share.
When my wife and I met, we were both quite dysfunctional in our own ways. Life was not anywhere near the wonderful experience it is these days, for sure.
Of the many issues we've worked out and ridden ourselves of, there is one in particular that I'm doubly glad to see gone... or I was.
I love my wife dearly. She's totally awesome and I can't spend enough time around her. Intellgent, witty, sexy, logical, dirty, clean, reliable, dependable and just, well... totally amazing. In spite of all this, she used to have days of total logic loss and have nearly complete emotional breakdowns.
No matter how carefully and logically things were explained... everything that wasn't aligned with her thinking was like an attack. No matter what I said, I was the bad guy and couldn't get her to see the plain facts in front of her face.
I literally wanted to walk away for a few days... until her logic and emotional control would return. Usually just a couple of days. I chalked it up to a 'mental' thing and just dealt with it. I mean... have you met her MOTHER? Seemed to totally explain these 'lapses' of hers.
Fast forward 10 years... the issue hasn't reared it's ugly head in several of the most recent years and was nearly forgotten about. It wasn't something we'd specifically worked on, it just seemed to have gone away.
A short time ago my daughter (fed natural, whole food since birth 2 and a half years ago) was given half of a candy bar as a 'treat'. (No, not going to name the bar... send me a PM if you want to know)
Do you know that the logic and emotional control in my daughter packed up and went fishing.... for FOUR AND A HALF DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYS! HOLY CRAP!
IT IS THE FOOD! Or what passes for food these days.
Looking back, I haven't been able to pinpoint what which food it was my wife used to eat. I recognize similar behaviors from time to time though, and it's from processed foods. Would love to know what she was eating back then. (Not willing to have her eat stuff to find out though *shudder*)
So... to anyone who has children or a spouse/mate with constant or intermittent times of emotional control and logic failures..... Anyone who has a spouse/mate who continually (or intermittantly) says you don't make sense (have no logic) or can't control your emotions....... Stop eating what's possibly causing it.
Easier said than done.... I'll tell you now.
No refined, adulterated, artificial or modified foods. No canned stuff. No hydrogenated oils.... hell no oils but olive, for that matter. No glycerides (mono or di), no 'natural' flavors (because if it was natural... it would say the fruit or what not the flavor came from.... not a 'natural' flavor of it.) or corn syrups or sugars. No vitamin "enriched" foods, fat-free or other fake food stuffs they sell today.
NO SORBATES!
Your rewards will be a greater peace, happiness and sense of well being. Greater logic and emotional control. MORE ENERGY!
You won't stink like a diseased pig if you skip deoderant for a few days. (definitely a plus)
Most of all... you won't be getting in your own way. You'll be able to focus on what's important and direct your efforts without distraction.
Hope this helps, be sure to share any similar stories if you have them.
Stay Safe!
Ran into something very interesting and just had to share.
When my wife and I met, we were both quite dysfunctional in our own ways. Life was not anywhere near the wonderful experience it is these days, for sure.
Of the many issues we've worked out and ridden ourselves of, there is one in particular that I'm doubly glad to see gone... or I was.
I love my wife dearly. She's totally awesome and I can't spend enough time around her. Intellgent, witty, sexy, logical, dirty, clean, reliable, dependable and just, well... totally amazing. In spite of all this, she used to have days of total logic loss and have nearly complete emotional breakdowns.
No matter how carefully and logically things were explained... everything that wasn't aligned with her thinking was like an attack. No matter what I said, I was the bad guy and couldn't get her to see the plain facts in front of her face.
I literally wanted to walk away for a few days... until her logic and emotional control would return. Usually just a couple of days. I chalked it up to a 'mental' thing and just dealt with it. I mean... have you met her MOTHER? Seemed to totally explain these 'lapses' of hers.
Fast forward 10 years... the issue hasn't reared it's ugly head in several of the most recent years and was nearly forgotten about. It wasn't something we'd specifically worked on, it just seemed to have gone away.
A short time ago my daughter (fed natural, whole food since birth 2 and a half years ago) was given half of a candy bar as a 'treat'. (No, not going to name the bar... send me a PM if you want to know)
Do you know that the logic and emotional control in my daughter packed up and went fishing.... for FOUR AND A HALF DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYS! HOLY CRAP!
IT IS THE FOOD! Or what passes for food these days.
Looking back, I haven't been able to pinpoint what which food it was my wife used to eat. I recognize similar behaviors from time to time though, and it's from processed foods. Would love to know what she was eating back then. (Not willing to have her eat stuff to find out though *shudder*)
So... to anyone who has children or a spouse/mate with constant or intermittent times of emotional control and logic failures..... Anyone who has a spouse/mate who continually (or intermittantly) says you don't make sense (have no logic) or can't control your emotions....... Stop eating what's possibly causing it.
Easier said than done.... I'll tell you now.
No refined, adulterated, artificial or modified foods. No canned stuff. No hydrogenated oils.... hell no oils but olive, for that matter. No glycerides (mono or di), no 'natural' flavors (because if it was natural... it would say the fruit or what not the flavor came from.... not a 'natural' flavor of it.) or corn syrups or sugars. No vitamin "enriched" foods, fat-free or other fake food stuffs they sell today.
NO SORBATES!
Your rewards will be a greater peace, happiness and sense of well being. Greater logic and emotional control. MORE ENERGY!
You won't stink like a diseased pig if you skip deoderant for a few days. (definitely a plus)
Most of all... you won't be getting in your own way. You'll be able to focus on what's important and direct your efforts without distraction.
Hope this helps, be sure to share any similar stories if you have them.
Stay Safe!