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Trying-to-blend · 10-26-2009, 11:23 PM

Well... I recently proposed to the woman of my dreams... I really love her, to death. BUT...

She's incredibly possessive, i have no personal life, no alone time, no privacy whatsoever. I had to stop my relationships with ALL my friends.

Now i'm feeling trapped and missing weed and even my old nemesis i hadn't touched in forever, colombian talcum. I'm fantasizing of a life without her and crap... but i DO love her.. there's a reason i haven't already dumped her ass...

i just... dunno, i'm still young and stupid, is this kind of shit normal? Note that i've NEVER been in afraid of commitment. i did get engaged didn't i?

h^2 O · 10-26-2009, 11:27 PM

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statusquo · 10-26-2009, 11:31 PM

You are young and stupid, as you admit. Logically you know what you should do but it would oppose your feelings and emotions. You can either do the right thing and feel like shit in the immediate present for a while or continue to satisfy your emotions and feel like shit even longer. The decision is alot harder than it seems! haha

h^2 O · 10-26-2009, 11:34 PM

oh dude get rid of her, I myself - yes me, I actually learned!!!!!! that just because a woman is beauitful doesn't mean she's a good person/not taking medications for psychotic episodes or whatever. True story. Chick is like an 11, and she knew it. She was married. I was young and horny and shameless (well I'm still young) and picked and picked at her day after day with innuendo and jokes until we finally became best friends...and I looked around and my life was in shambles and I was existing solely to get the next chance to get in her ass. I had to break it off like you see in the movies. Just said what i had to, didn't give her a chance to respond, turned off my phone, blocked her emails, hid in my room...
I did the right thing though. Because I've met lots of awesome people at school and work and they all make that one girl look like Hitler.

ourcee · 10-26-2009, 11:36 PM

k you just said you have no personal life. honestly? your dream girl makes you have no life but her? I mean if thats truly what you want (which I doubt) then ok fine. otherwise you'd be fucking retarded to not dump this possessive one and just go about life till you find the girl of your dreams that ISNT possessive, trust me, she's out there somewhere.

3dDream · 10-26-2009, 11:36 PM

Some times people like the idea of a person more than the actual person. It doesn't sound like you like her.

h^2 O · 10-26-2009, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by 3dDream

Some times people like the idea of a person more than the actual person. It doesn't sound like you like her.

ding ding. I found out for me, I just like walking with hot short chicks. It's a huge turn on and what I liked about little Hitler. I feel like the king of the world when im doing that

kaneboy · 10-26-2009, 11:53 PM

yeah mate been in the same situation all was great ,getting married then everything fell to pieces and i then remembered id stopped hanging with all my mates for this beast .you gotta have mates golden rule

VerdantGreen · 10-26-2009, 11:53 PM

have you tried talking to her about how you feel ?

V.

PoopyTeaBags · 10-27-2009, 12:01 AM

women suck..... (edit) not allowed to say that....(says my women.... =[ )

etinarcadiaego · 10-27-2009, 12:07 AM

I've been exactly where it sounds like you are now. Let me tell you what I did. I actually did this, it's not some BS I'm making up for your thread :P

I was 22, had been engaged about 4 months, and started looking for the exit sign. I bought some really good green, some shrooms, and headed up north for weekend at a cabin with a few friends.

I realized that engagements aren't commitments, many men who get engaged have no intention or idea what comes next. Engagements are like promises to make a commitment. lol

You never know what you have till it's gone, and i will tell you what I learned, I learned no amount of drugs or money is worth trading for a life spent with a women you really love . . . the great ones are VERY few and VERY far between

Good luck man, just cause you feel lost don't mean your compass is broke

whiterabbit9 · 10-27-2009, 12:17 AM

this reminds me of the king of the hill episode with Enrique

seems like your in a pickle, you love her, but she don't let you live
but... that's commitment... I guess a lot of people feel trapped in relationships

lol

maybe you don't want to dump her ass cause then you'll be all alone?
try talking it out, what your telling us, you should be telling her

Cookie monster · 10-27-2009, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Trying-to-blend

Well... I recently proposed to the woman of my dreams... I really love her, to death. BUT...

She's incredibly possessive, i have no personal life, no alone time, no privacy whatsoever. I had to stop my relationships with ALL my friends.

Now i'm feeling trapped and missing weed and even my old nemesis i hadn't touched in forever, colombian talcum. I'm fantasizing of a life without her and crap... but i DO love her.. there's a reason i haven't already dumped her ass...

i just... dunno, i'm still young and stupid, is this kind of shit normal? Note that i've NEVER been in afraid of commitment. i did get engaged didn't i?

7 years of experience with a girl like yours has led me to believe that people with issues like those are incapable of having a normal relationship.
They should'nt be in a relationship with anybody until they sort out the root of the problem thats causing them to act this way.

Sadly in most cases it's only when they lose somebody for good that they realise there is something wrong with them and they need to change.

Trying-to-blend · 10-27-2009, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by etinarcadiaego

I've been exactly where it sounds like you are now. Let me tell you what I did. I actually did this, it's not some BS I'm making up for your thread :P

I was 22, had been engaged about 4 months, and started looking for the exit sign. I bought some really good green, some shrooms, and headed up north for weekend at a cabin with a few friends.

I realized that engagements aren't commitments, many men who get engaged have no intention or idea what comes next. Engagements are like promises to make a commitment. lol

You never know what you have till it's gone, and i will tell you what I learned, I learned no amount of drugs or money is worth trading for a life spent with a women you really love . . . the great ones are VERY few and VERY far between

Good luck man, just cause you feel lost don't mean your compass is broke

yeah... that's what i figure...

and after a while i can come home stoned and if she leaves me... well then i know that shit's wrong(i believe one should forgive everything, save loving someone else)

PoopyTeaBags · 10-27-2009, 12:26 AM

a good chick wont make you get rid of your friends or your weed.... You gonna end up resenting her ass when you not happy 5 years later and you have no friends to talk to.... sounds like you made all the compromises maybe its time for her to make some.... Cant be with someone the rest of your life that doesnt give back... if its all about her or what she wants and thinks you gonna wind up on the short end of the stick...

My guess is she doesnt have any close friends either there for your all she has.... just a guess...

10-26-2009, 11:23 PM	#1
Trying-to-blend Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 510	Is suddenly missing weed and feeling trapped a good enough reason to dump her? Well... I recently proposed to the woman of my dreams... I really love her, to death. BUT... She's incredibly possessive, i have no personal life, no alone time, no privacy whatsoever. I had to stop my relationships with ALL my friends. Now i'm feeling trapped and missing weed and even my old nemesis i hadn't touched in forever, colombian talcum. I'm fantasizing of a life without her and crap... but i DO love her.. there's a reason i haven't already dumped her ass... i just... dunno, i'm still young and stupid, is this kind of shit normal? Note that i've NEVER been in afraid of commitment. i did get engaged didn't i?
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statusquo Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 186	You are young and stupid, as you admit. Logically you know what you should do but it would oppose your feelings and emotions. You can either do the right thing and feel like shit in the immediate present for a while or continue to satisfy your emotions and feel like shit even longer. The decision is alot harder than it seems! haha __________________ Prop 215 SD patient. Indoor '09 Med grow: White Widow, Angel Tear/Bubba Kush, Strawberry Cough, Green Crack, Blue Dream http://icmag.com/ic/showthread.php?t=129533
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h^2 O Justice of the Peeps Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Electric Avenue Posts: 2,786	oh dude get rid of her, I myself - yes me, I actually learned!!!!!! that just because a woman is beauitful doesn't mean she's a good person/not taking medications for psychotic episodes or whatever. True story. Chick is like an 11, and she knew it. She was married. I was young and horny and shameless (well I'm still young) and picked and picked at her day after day with innuendo and jokes until we finally became best friends...and I looked around and my life was in shambles and I was existing solely to get the next chance to get in her ass. I had to break it off like you see in the movies. Just said what i had to, didn't give her a chance to respond, turned off my phone, blocked her emails, hid in my room... I did the right thing though. Because I've met lots of awesome people at school and work and they all make that one girl look like Hitler. __________________ plants in a bucket 09 album of buds n things Bikini Watchers Zombie Thread Hunter - oldest post replied to: 10-06-2004
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3dDream Personal Grower Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,407	Some times people like the idea of a person more than the actual person. It doesn't sound like you like her. __________________ Active grows: 250W DJ Short's f13 micro grow F13 X Ace Panama - mutants and more! Severly trained DJ genetics - 250w Micro style - Beercup Bouquet
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ourcee Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 544	k you just said you have no personal life. honestly? your dream girl makes you have no life but her? I mean if thats truly what you want (which I doubt) then ok fine. otherwise you'd be fucking retarded to not dump this possessive one and just go about life till you find the girl of your dreams that ISNT possessive, trust me, she's out there somewhere.
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kaneboy Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: downtown redeye Posts: 121	yeah mate been in the same situation all was great ,getting married then everything fell to pieces and i then remembered id stopped hanging with all my mates for this beast .you gotta have mates golden rule
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VerdantGreen Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,327	have you tried talking to her about how you feel ? V. __________________ VerdantGreen's quarters - 250HPS organic modular scrog grow diary And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth. (Genesis 1:29) "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead
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10-27-2009, 12:07 AM	#11
etinarcadiaego Even in Arcadia I exist Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: In the flesh Posts: 418	I've been exactly where it sounds like you are now. Let me tell you what I did. I actually did this, it's not some BS I'm making up for your thread :P I was 22, had been engaged about 4 months, and started looking for the exit sign. I bought some really good green, some shrooms, and headed up north for weekend at a cabin with a few friends. I realized that engagements aren't commitments, many men who get engaged have no intention or idea what comes next. Engagements are like promises to make a commitment. lol You never know what you have till it's gone, and i will tell you what I learned, I learned no amount of drugs or money is worth trading for a life spent with a women you really love . . . the great ones are VERY few and VERY far between Good luck man, just cause you feel lost don't mean your compass is broke __________________ If you always do what you always did you'll always get what you always got.
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10-27-2009, 12:17 AM	#12
whiterabbit9 One love Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 1,514	this reminds me of the king of the hill episode with Enrique seems like your in a pickle, you love her, but she don't let you live but... that's commitment... I guess a lot of people feel trapped in relationships lol maybe you don't want to dump her ass cause then you'll be all alone? try talking it out, what your telling us, you should be telling her
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